Ashley Warren, Psychotherapist

12/27/2025

Dating + healing + young Black men = progress... with commentary 👌🏾😩😆

For laughs only.

12/23/2025

You’re laughing—and that’s okay.

Humor is often how people protect themselves when something feels uncomfortable or vulnerable.

My job isn’t to shut that down.
My job is to notice why it showed up, what it’s covering, and how it’s keeping you stuck.

Real healing doesn’t rush past patterns.
It gently brings them into awareness—so growth can actually happen.

12/23/2025

Some men don’t choose emotionally unavailable or reactive women by accident—it’s a form of protection.

When you partner with someone who doesn’t value themselves, you never have to fully show up. You can keep parts of yourself hidden because deep down, you don’t feel safe being completely vulnerable.

It’s easier to say, “She couldn’t handle me,” than to admit, “I was afraid to give my whole self.”

But here’s the truth: choosing partners who mirror your own unhealed wounds only keeps you in cycles of half-love, half-truths, and half-commitment.

Real intimacy requires risk. And real protection isn’t hiding—it’s building the courage to be seen, flaws and all.

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12/23/2025

Mental health care should never feel transactional. Especially not for people who already carry the weight of being unheard, overlooked, or misunderstood.

Having a mental health professional who actually cares—who goes beyond the checklist, beyond the diagnosis, beyond the bare minimum—can be life-changing.

Too many people come into therapy already bracing for harm. Already prepared to explain their humanity.

That’s why professionals who lead with empathy, humility, and accountability matter so much.

This work is not about saviorism.
It’s about responsibility.
It’s about recognizing the privilege of being trusted with someone’s story—and treating that trust as sacred. Mental health professionals who care don’t just help people cope.

They help restore dignity.
They remind people they are worthy of care, safety, and respect.

And for marginalized communities, that reminder can be everything. 🤍

12/19/2025

12/17/2025

Growth sometimes sounds like this...

interrupting the voice in your head that learned survival instead of truth.

That “shut up” isn’t anger.
It isn’t avoidance.
It isn’t suppressing emotions.
It’s discernment.

It’s recognizing that not every thought deserves authority, access, or airtime.

Some thoughts were shaped by fear.
Some by trauma.

Some by environments you had to survive— not ones meant to nurture you.

Therapy isn’t about silencing your feelings.
It’s about learning which voice is actually yours.

Because healing doesn’t always whisper.

Sometimes it corrects.
Sometimes it redirects.
Sometimes it firmly says, “we’re not doing that anymore.”

That’s growth.
That’s emotional regulation.
That’s what the work really looks like.

12/16/2025

I wonder what her resume is looking like 👀👀

What y'all think?

Therapists will clap back 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

12/10/2025

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11/02/2025

1. You don’t actually do the coping skills you’re given.
You heard the skill. You understood the skill. But you did not use the skill.

2. You want your feelings validated but don’t want your behaviors challenged. Therapy is not just “tell me I’m right.” Growth requires discomfort.

3. You keep repeating the same pattern in new packaging and calling it “different.” The names changed. The dynamic didn’t.

4. You show up wanting instant relief, not real work.
Healing is not DoorDash. It takes time, consistency, and practice.

5. You don’t communicate honestly in session.
I can’t help you with a story you’ve edited.

6. You’re waiting for your therapist to “fix you,” instead of learning how to fix yourself. We guide. We don’t perform miracles.

7. You ignore red flags because you want the fantasy more than you want the truth. And then you’re mad at the consequences you chose.

8. You abandon your boundaries the moment you don’t want to feel discomfort. You can’t heal what you keep protecting.

9. You come to therapy looking for a villain instead of accountability. If everyone is the problem except you, we have a pattern to discuss.

10. You are grieving the version of you that survived — but you haven’t made room for the version of you that wants to live. And that takes courage. Not excuses.

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