Oaks Counseling Associates

12/03/2025

In her latest blog, Cady Parliman, LCSW-S, explores why "undefined" relationships can be just as painful to end as committed ones, and offers evidence-based guidance for healing.

-Why ambiguous loss is uniquely challenging to process
-The anxious-avoidant dynamic that sustains situationships
-Practical strategies for setting boundaries and moving forward

The reality: If it feels like loss, it is loss—regardless of labels or timelines.



https://oakscounselingassociates.com/the-situationship-hangover-why-gray-area-breakups-hurt/

11/27/2025

Grateful this season for our clients and friends!

11/21/2025

.with.jon and - your friendly neighborhood therapists, off the clock. ⏰🏡👋

11/17/2025

POV: You think it's love but it's actually limerence 😳💔 Chelsea Koutroulis, M.Ed., LPC-Associate, CST explains the difference between real love and obsessive infatuation in her blog. Spoiler: one fades fast, the other is built to last 💕

11/10/2025

"We're just roommates now."

Couples who've become strangers living in the same house. A coldness they can't explain.

Here's what they don't know: chronic relationship stress literally rewires your amygdala to flag your partner as danger.

The good news? Understanding the neuroscience is the first step back.

The Stranger Effect: How Your Partner Becomes Someone You Don't Know Jonathan Kolmetz MS, Licensed Professional Counselor

→ https://oakscounselingassociates.com/the-stranger-effect-and-your-brain-how-your-partner-becomes-someone-you-dont-know/

11/03/2025

One day after the time change and Zeus already knows: leg day ain't happening. 😑 But here's the thing, if you're feeling unmotivated, tired, or off, it might not be laziness. It might be SAD. OCA therapist Chelsea Koutroulis breaks down what's really happening and shares tools that actually work. Blog link in comments. 💙

10/31/2025

We know life can be a lot sometimes. Just remember, we're always here for you at Oaks Counseling Associates. P.S. Don't answer the phone...that's not us! And Happy Halloween!!! 🎃 👻 🦇 🕷️ 💀 🧛 🧟

10/10/2025

Since 1992, World Mental Health Day (October 10th) has been breaking down stigma and bringing mental health into the global conversation. This day reminds us that mental wellness matters — and seeking help is a sign of strength.

Mental health challenges affect millions, yet many suffer in silence. Your mental health deserves the same attention as your physical health.

If you or someone you know is struggling, know that support is available.

https://oakscounselingassociates.com/

10/06/2025

After infidelity, therapy sessions feel manageable... but then real life hits. 💔A random Tuesday afternoon triggers those embers of betrayal, and suddenly you're spiraling back into the same destructive patterns. 🔥

In this video, Jon shares the exact communication tools that prevent you from burning down the new relationship you're trying to build. If you're stuck in cycles of harsh startups and defensive reactions, give it a listen.

After infidelity, therapy sessions feel manageable... but then real life hits. 💔A random Tuesday afternoon triggers those embers of betrayal, and suddenly y...

09/26/2025

In the third installment of Jon Kolmetz's series "Infidelity as a House Fire," he dives into the rebuilding phase - the part every couple wants to rush to. But you can't rebuild on a cracked foundation. 🚧

Here's what happens in his office when he works with couples to start designing the blueprint for a new relationship.

https://youtube.com/shorts/YDX8yOz5Zpw?feature=share

🔥 Infidelity as a House Fire: Rebuilding the House (Part 3) - What Happens When I Get in a Room with Couples Starting Over 🏠In this third installment of ou...

09/22/2025

Yesterday was World Alzheimer's Day - a reminder that behind every person with dementia is often an invisible hero: their caregiver.

💙 If you're caring for someone with Alzheimer's or dementia, you're not alone. The statistics are sobering - 40% of caregivers report emotional stress, and 70% experience depression and anxiety.

Your cup isn't empty - it's broken. But it can be repaired.

Here are some crucial steps to start healing:

→ Practice mindfulness - Even 5 minutes of deep breathing can help you stay grounded
→ Set boundaries - Saying "no" isn't selfish, it's survival
→ Prioritize sleep - Your brain needs rest to handle tomorrow's challenges

Remember: You can't pour from an empty cup, and you can't care for others if you don't care for yourself first.

See more in Jonathan Kolmetz's blog:
https://oakscounselingassociates.com/caregiver-burnout/

Photo Courtesy: Pexels and Andrea Piacquadio As a caregiver, it is easy to become consumed by the needs of others and neglect your own well-being. The demands of caring for others can leave you feeling drained, exhausted, and empty. There’s even a word for it –

09/19/2025

Happy National Overthinkers Day to everyone who's already wondering if they should have celebrated it differently.