02/24/2026
⬇️ He just agreed moments before that my mother was definitely emotionally manipulated and traumatized by her dad’s treatment of her and my dad after they got married.
Being shunned from her family by her dad and she was always regretting not listening to her dad.
She was diagnosed with Lupus 8 years after getting married and I know that was due to all the repressed sadness, anger, grief and rage she had from her dad isolated her after she got married. That emotional toll was very heavy and she believed she was wrong for getting married against her dad’s wishes, she believed she deserved to suffer and she did🥺
My vililigo started before I left the house at 18, just as specks. It spread when I felt abandoned by my family for choosing myself and then again for getting married. It didn’t stop until I decided to stop listening to either parents on either side in 2024!
Because the cycle ends with me! I’m listening to my heart because I listened to them and ignored it for so long, I normalized it!
I asked him why he never said he was proud of my brother and I?
He replied: I WILL be proud of you and your brother when you’re actually successful!
I looked at him in disbelief and said: “You don’t get to decide that for us, your definition of success is different than ours. What you see as just the beginning for us is work that’s been in progress, maybe compared to you and your age, we are babies, but let’s be real, we are doing more than you at our age…”
He changed the subject to trading.
Next time, I’m calling him by his first name the whole time and see what happens🤣
