A Circle of Joy

02/25/2026

Ever feel like your body is sounding an alarm for no "obvious" reason? A specific song, a tone of voice, or even a certain location can send you spiraling into fear or panic.
https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/helping-resources/blog/315-when-the-past-invades-the-present-understanding-triggers-after-betrayal

If you’ve experienced betrayal, these triggers are not a sign that you are "weak" or "crazy." They are emotional earthquakes.

Don't Navigate the Aftershocks Alone
You deserve to move from a state of "survival mode" to a state of peace. We provide the tools and the community to help you ground yourself when the past invades the present.

Get Expert Guidance. Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call to find clarity in the chaos:
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Join our ACOJ Support Groups:
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➡️ Your healing is a journey, and you don’t have to walk it in fear.

When the Past Invades the Present: Understanding Triggers After Betrayal Published on 25 February 2026 Coach Katherine For women who have experienced betrayal in a relationship, triggers can feel like sudden emotional earthquakes. A smell, a song, a location, a tone of voice, or a simple memory can....

02/23/2026

Aloneness is a season of grief and adjustment. It is heavy, yes—but self-abandonment fractures the soul in ways that are much harder to mend.

We often stay in the loop of betrayal because we fear the quiet of being alone. But the loudest noise is the part of you screaming to be seen, protected, and loved by you. Don't trade your selfhood for a proximity that doesn't offer peace. You can survive the grief of being alone, but you cannot thrive while abandoning yourself.

Reclaim Your Soul 🛡️
You don't have to navigate the transition from self-abandonment to self-trust by yourself. Whether you need one-on-one clarity or the strength of a sisterhood, we have a seat for you at the table.

Get Clarity. Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call to map out your next steps here:
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Find Your Circle. Join our ACOJ Support Groups to find the community that will help you hold the line:
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➡️ Take the first step toward yourself today. You are worth the effort.

02/20/2026

The Standard Starts With You 🛡️
"If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?"

In the wake of betrayal, it’s easy to sacrifice your peace to keep everything afloat. But here’s the truth: You cannot "sacrifice" your way into being respected. Being good to yourself isn't a luxury—it’s the foundation of your recovery. It sets the standard for how you deserve to be treated.

Find Your Circle 👭
Healing your self-worth is a heavy lift, and you shouldn't do it alone. Join our ACOJ Support Groups to find a community of women who will help you hold the line and remind you of your value every single day.

Ready to reclaim your peace?

➡️ Click the link to book your FREE 60-minute assessment: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment
Let’s find the right ACOJ group for your journey: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups

02/16/2026

🧱 You Can’t Build a Bridge from Only One Side
Unity requires two people moving toward each other in truth. If he isn't taking responsibility or doing the messy work of real recovery, your patience isn't a bridge—it’s just a holding pattern.

We see you. You've offered your faith, your patience, and your peace as payment for a healing you cannot manufacture. But here is the hard, grounding truth: Repair belongs to the one who caused the rupture. You cannot sacrifice your way into a healthy marriage if he is still choosing secrecy or avoidance.

You were never meant to be the sole architect of a reconciliation that requires his tools, too.

Stop Doing the Work of Two 🛑
You weren't meant to carry the weight of his recovery and your own healing. We’re here to help you steady your own feet and find your voice again.

➡️ Click the link in bio to book your FREE 60-minute assessment call: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment
📧 Email Coach Katherine: katherine@acircleofjoy.com

02/13/2026

The event caused the wound, but the story you replay in your mind keeps it bleeding.

In betrayal trauma, your brain tries to "solve" the pain by replaying the details, searching for missing pieces to keep you safe. But this loop doesn't protect you—it traps you. Freedom begins when you stop narrating your past and start building your future.

Reclaim Your Peace
You don’t have to stay stuck in the "what-ifs." We offer a no-cost, 60-minute support call to help you:

Validate your reality and quiet the noise.
Identify the loops keeping you stuck.
Map out a path toward genuine freedom.

➡️ Click the link in bio to book your FREE 60-minute assessment call: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment
📧 Email Coach Katherine: katherine@acircleofjoy.com

02/11/2026

If you’ve ever asked yourself, "What is wrong with me for staying?"—this is for you.

It’s time to change the question. Instead of looking for a flaw, let’s look at the adaptation. You didn't stay because you were weak, naïve, or complicit. You stayed because your nervous system did exactly what it was designed to do: it adapted to survive prolonged uncertainty and emotional threat.

The Shift: When we stop asking what’s wrong with us and start asking, "What was happening to me that made staying make sense?" shame finally loses its grip.

This isn't about pushing you toward a decision. It’s about returning your self-trust. This self-guided lens is designed to help you understand your journey with clarity, dignity, and—most importantly—compassion.
https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/helping-resources/blog/313-part-2-when-hope-becomes-a-trap-what-staying-is-quietly-costing-you
Ready for a truer conversation?
You don’t have to untangle the "why" alone. We offer a safe space to help you honor your reality without judgment.

➡️ Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call today to explore your path to healing. https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment
📧 Reach out to Coach Katherine: katherine@acircleofjoy.com

Part 2: When Hope Becomes a Trap: What Staying Is Quietly Costing You Published on 10 February 2026 Coach Katherine A Self‑Guided Discernment & Healing Lens Purpose: This lens is not designed to push you toward a decision. It is designed to help you understand yourself with clarity, dignity, and c...

02/09/2026

Healing happens faster when you understand the process.

In our Women Awaiting Empathy group, we use the same Workbook the men use. Why? Because knowing the roadmap he’s following helps you: ✅ Gain clarity on the empathy-growing process. ✅ Set realistic expectations for his growth. ✅ Find connection with other women on the same path.

Whether you're ready to help him with "homework" or not, this group is your alternative source of encouragement and support. Let's make sense of the roadmap together.

🔗 Upcoming groups are forming now! Tap the link to save your spot: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups/womens-support-groups/women-awaiting-empathy

02/06/2026

From Shattered Safety to Shared Support 🌿
26 years ago, I dreamt of a "perfect" family to escape the trauma of my childhood. But 10 years in, that image shattered when I discovered my husband’s struggle with s*xual integrity. I know the heavy weight of rejection and the loneliness of trying to "fix" a broken heart on your own.

I learned the hard way that you weren't meant to carry this mess alone. Today, as a certified trauma-informed coach, I lead our Women’s Groups to provide the community, grace, and direction I once desperately needed.

In our groups, Women Awaiting Empathy, we don't just survive—we heal together. We use the tools to understand the process, share our stories without judgment, and remind each other that there is hope for a renovated life. You have a seat at our table.

🔗 Click the link to join a group and walk this path with Coach Amanda: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups/womens-support-groups/women-awaiting-empathy

02/04/2026

🏚️ When Fear Becomes Your "Home."
https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/helping-resources/blog/311-part-1-when-hope-becomes-a-trap-the-fears-that-make-staying-make-sense
Fear doesn’t always look like panic. Sometimes, it looks like endurance. It looks like "loyalty" or "just needing more time."

If you’ve spent years married to a partner struggling with addiction, your fear isn't a weakness—it’s an adaptation. Your nervous system has learned to brace for impact while trying to maintain hope. Whether you're afraid of being alone, losing financial security, or not being believed, these aren't "just feelings." They are survival strategies.

➡️ Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call today. https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment
📧 Email Coach Katherine: katherine@acircleofjoy.com

Part 1: When Hope Becomes a Trap: The Fears That Make Staying Make Sense Published on 03 February 2026 Coach Katherine Some fear doesn’t crash into your life—it quietly moves in and makes itself at home. It doesn’t always look like panic or crisis.Often, it looks like endurance.Like loyalty.Li...

02/02/2026

🧠 The Victory Starts Within
The loudest battle you’ll ever fight isn't with the world—it’s the one inside your head.

Betrayal trauma shatters your sense of reality and fills your mind with doubt and "what-ifs." But reclaiming your peace of mind is where the real victory begins. When you win the battle for your perspective, you win your life back. ✨

Ready to find clarity in the chaos?

➡️ Click the link to book your FREE 60-minute assessment call today: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment
Let’s quiet the noise together.

01/29/2026

Betrayal creates a hierarchy of voices where those who caused the harm are often heard first, and those most impacted—mothers and children—are left struggling to be believed. Children are quietly asked to adapt to what they did not cause, while mothers carry the weight of everyone’s pain even as their own hearts break.
https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/helping-resources/blog/310-part-3-where-the-weight-fell
Healing does not begin with defenses. It begins with honoring reality.

Stop Carrying What Was Never Yours
You don’t have to navigate this road in silence. We are here to help you stabilize, find your voice, and reclaim your peace.

➡️ Book your FREE 60-minute phone assessment call today to find your path to healing. https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment 📧 Or reach out to Coach Katherine directly at: katherine@acircleofjoy.com.

Part 3: Where the Weight Fell Published on 27 January 2026 Coach Katherine Dedicated to the mothers and children who have walked through the devastation of betrayal—who lost what they thought was safe,who grieved what could not be repaired,and who kept going anyway.This final part is written slowl...

01/26/2026

🛡️ Your Worth is Not a Bargaining Chip

When betrayal trauma hits, it feels like the foundation of your adult life has vanished. You may feel a deep sense of shame or as though you are "less than" because of his choices, but your identity is not a currency to be spent on his recovery.

While finding your own path to healing is your work to do, the restoration of the relationship is entirely his responsibility. You cannot rebuild a marriage in a room where secrecy still lives; individual work and stabilization must come first. You were meant to live in peace, not as an emotional container for a rupture you did not cause.

Take Back Your Power
You don’t have to "pay" for his healing with your peace. We are here to help you untie yourself from the past and reclaim your selfhood.

Ready to prioritize your own healing?

➡️ Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call today to find your roadmap back to joy: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment
📧 Reach out directly to Coach Katherine: katherine@acircleofjoy.com.