11/12/2025
Relationships are beautiful-and scary. We open our hearts, hoping to find safety, love, trust. But for many of us, past wounds cast shadows: childhood loss, inconsistent caregivers, emotional neglect. These experiences shape how we love-and how we fear.
The fear of abandonment might show up as:
• Clinging so tightly you lose yourself.
•Anxiety at silence, missed messages, or when someone seems distant.
• Over-giving, people-pleasing-even when it drains you.
• Testing the relationship: pushing away before someone can leave you.
But here's something important: this fear isn't your flaw--it's a wound that deserves compassion.
What helps:
1. Talk about it. Share your fears and history with someone you trust. Let them in.
2. Reparent yourself. Become the safe space you needed as a child. Give yourself love, reassurance, understanding
3. Build your life beyond the relationship. Cultivate friends, interests, alone-time. Because your sense of worth shouldn't only live in someone else.
4. Question the stories. When your mind whispers "They'll leave me," pause and ask: "Does the evidence support this?
5. Reach out for help. Therapy, support, safe people-all of this matters.
You are worthy. Not because of who stays; because of who you are. Healing is possible. And step by step, you'll learn that love can feel safe.
Therapy