Liliane Nahas, M.Ed, LPC, LMFT

12/31/2025

Wishing you all the best for the upcoming New Year 2026!

12/25/2025

12/24/2025

Self regulation is what you do inside yourself to settle. Co regulation is what happens when your nervous system steadies because someone you trust is emotionally present with you.

12/22/2025

If you want more on this, see my post on co regulation and how to calm together when things feel tense.

12/18/2025

With Emotionally Focused Therapy, we look at the emotional bond.
With the Gottman Method, we look at habits, communication, and repair.
Together, these approaches can help your relationship. Reach out today.

12/16/2025

When we feel hurt, scared, or misunderstood, our nervous system often reaches for protection.

Some of us move closer. We talk more, ask more questions, push for reassurance.
Some of us pull away. We go quiet, get busy, shut down, or need space to breathe.

Neither response is “bad.” They are both attempts to feel safe again.

A gentle check in for today
When I am upset, I usually ________.
Under that, I am needing ________.
One small thing that helps me feel closer is ________.

12/14/2025

When you feel seen, held, and safe with someone, your nervous system settles and your best self has room to show up.

12/09/2025

Do you ever feel like you are having the same argument on repeat with your partner? Noticing the pattern between you is often the first, hopeful step toward changing it.

12/08/2025

If you still feel the impact of something that happened long ago, it does not mean you are “overreacting.” It means your system is still trying to make sense of what happened, and that can change.

11/27/2025

Lately I have been thinking about how small emotional moments shape the feel of our relationships far more than the big occasions.

The quiet sigh when you feel alone in the same room.
The small smile when your partner reaches for your hand.
The way your chest tightens when you want to ask for comfort but are not sure how.

These are the moments that build either distance or closeness. In Emotionally Focused Therapy, we slow down and get curious about what is happening inside those seconds. Often, beneath criticism, withdrawal, or silence, there is something tender. A longing to matter. A fear of being too much or not enough. A simple wish to feel safe with the person you love.

If you are reading this, I invite you to gently notice your own patterns this week.
-When you feel hurt, what do you do to protect yourself
-What would you say if you could express the softer feeling underneath
-Who feels like a safe base for you, even a little

11/26/2025

When we work on our relationships, we are caring for ourselves and our partner while also quietly shaping what love will feel like for the next generation. Children learn how to handle hurt, repair after conflict, and stay close by watching how we turn toward or away from one another, and these small moments of kindness, accountability, and emotional honesty ripple outward into families and communities.