Dr. Jake Porter

Dr. Jake Porter I help couples overcome cheating and betrayal to restore trust and connection in their relationship!
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After betrayal, forgiveness is often treated like the finish line.As if once you forgive, everything should feel close a...
02/26/2026

After betrayal, forgiveness is often treated like the finish line.

As if once you forgive, everything should feel close again. Calm again. Normal again.

But forgiveness and reconnection are not the same process.

Forgiveness is internal. It is something you move toward within yourself over time. It is about releasing constant anger or retaliation. It is personal.

Reconnection is relational. It requires safety to be rebuilt. It requires consistency that can be felt, not just promised. It requires repair that happens in lived experience.

You can forgive and still not feel safe.
You can forgive and still need boundaries.
You can forgive and decide not to reconnect.

Many betrayed partners feel confused when closeness does not automatically return after forgiveness. Nothing is wrong with you if that is your experience. Connection is built on safety, not just sentiment.

If you’ve felt pressured to forgive when what you actually needed was repair, your reaction makes sense.

👉 Share this with someone who needs clarity around the difference.

We are honored to be part of the Hope Rising Conference.This event represents something important. A community coming to...
02/26/2026

We are honored to be part of the Hope Rising Conference.

This event represents something important. A community coming together around healing, spiritual care, and support for those navigating difficult seasons. These spaces matter because hope does not rise in isolation. It rises when people gather with intention.

And if you believe in the power of this kind of work, I would encourage you to share the conference with your community. Forward it. Post about it. Invite someone who may benefit from being in the room. Expanding awareness expands impact.

Grateful to stand alongside organizations committed to compassionate care and meaningful change. Hope to see you there!

You survived betrayal. That alone deserves recognition.You made it through the shock. The confusion. The conversations t...
02/20/2026

You survived betrayal. That alone deserves recognition.

You made it through the shock. The confusion. The conversations that took everything out of you. You endured something that disrupted your sense of safety and reality.

But survival and healing are not the same.

Many people reach a quiet stage after the crisis passes. Life resumes. Conversations slow down. Things look more stable on the outside.

And yet internally, something still feels unsettled. That is not failure. It is transition.

Survival mode is about getting through. Healing is about deciding what comes next. What needs to change. What safety really means now. What you are no longer willing to ignore.

Betrayal can force clarity, even if it never should have happened in the first place.

If you survived but still feel like something inside you is recalibrating, you are not behind. You are in the part of recovery where intention begins.

👉 Share this with someone navigating life after betrayal.

After cheating, most people expect intense emotions. Anger. Grief. Shock.What they don’t expect is exhaustion.That exhau...
02/17/2026

After cheating, most people expect intense emotions. Anger. Grief. Shock.

What they don’t expect is exhaustion.

That exhaustion is not random. It is physiological.

When betrayal is discovered, the nervous system shifts into threat mode. Heart rate increases. Cortisol rises. The brain scans for danger. Sleep becomes lighter. Attention narrows. The body braces.

That state is not meant to last for weeks or months. But after cheating, many people stay there longer than they realize.

Even once the crisis conversations end, the nervous system may still be on alert. It has learned that something once safe became unpredictable. So it watches. It monitors. It prepares.

Eventually, that vigilance turns into fatigue.

The emotional hangover is what happens when a body that has been bracing for impact finally starts to come down.

If you feel worn down in ways you can’t explain, it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means your system has been working overtime.

👉 Share this with someone who feels exhausted after betrayal but doesn’t understand why.

02/16/2026

Returning to You™ is the first-of-its-kind retreat for betrayed partners to receive excellent clinical trauma care in an elegant residential setting designed for safety, comfort, and rejuvenation. This one-week program is staffed by therapists and coaches highly trained in the treatment of betrayal trauma for this vulnerable and underserved population.

An exclusive experience of healing for women Limited to just 8 participants and one week per month, Returning to You™ creates an intimate setting in which women can take strides on their journeys toward healing from betrayal. This program provides a level of customized care to make it meaningful to those just beginning the path toward healing or those well on their way to renewal.

The Returning to You™ program takes place at Magnolia House, a beautiful, private home nestled on a river bend in Chambers County, Texas, approximately 30 miles east of Houston.
This peaceful setting is curated to enhance relaxation, comfort, and restoration for program participants. No more than eight women will be enrolled in the program at any time.

If you’d like to learn more, comment RETURNING below and I’ll send you more information directly!

After years of working with betrayed partners, one truth stands above all: an affair doesn’t just break trust, it breaks...
02/13/2026

After years of working with betrayed partners, one truth stands above all: an affair doesn’t just break trust, it breaks safety, stability, and reality itself.

I’ve spent over a decade walking alongside individuals and couples devastated by betrayal. And I can tell you this: the real damage of an affair goes far beyond what most people see on the surface.

An affair isn’t only about what happened with someone else. It’s about what betrayal takes away the sense of safety, the ability to trust, and the story you thought you were living.

The pain is not just emotional. It’s physical.
Your body goes into survival mode: panic, sleepless nights, exhaustion, and numbness. These are not signs of weakness, they’re signs of trauma.

And while many people think affairs are about unmet needs, that’s not the truth.
Cheating isn’t caused by what was missing, it’s caused by what was hidden. The lies, the secrecy, the deception that forced one partner to live in a world that never really existed.

Healing from betrayal takes truth, empathy, accountability, and time.
More time than most people want to admit.

If you’ve been betrayed, please hear me: you are not crazy, you are not weak, and your pain makes sense. Healing is possible, but it begins with honesty, compassion, and safety.

👉 Save this post for the days you need clarity. Share it so others can understand what an affair really does, and what real healing truly requires.

Affairs don’t just break trust. They break reality.A few weeks ago, headlines about the astronomer CEO affair caught att...
02/12/2026

Affairs don’t just break trust. They break reality.

A few weeks ago, headlines about the astronomer CEO affair caught attention around the world. Stories like this spark curiosity, gossip, and speculation.

But behind every affair is something far more devastating than scandal.
For the betrayed partner, it isn’t just about lies or broken promises. It is about the collapse of their entire relational world.

An affair destabilizes everything:
đź’” The past: Was anything real?
đź’” The present: Who am I really with?
đź’” The future: Can I ever feel safe again?

Psychologists call this the collapse of your relational autobiography, the story you thought you were living together. When that story unravels, the body responds as if it has been thrown into danger. Hypervigilance, panic, sleepless nights, intrusive thoughts… these are not overreactions. They are trauma responses.

And then comes grief. Grief for the relationship you thought you had. Grief for the story you believed. Grief for the future you imagined.

This is why affairs are not “mistakes” to brush off or moments to simply move on from. They are traumatic betrayals that require deep repair.

Repair is possible, but only through truth, accountability, empathy, patience, and consistent action over time.

👉 Save this post if you’ve been betrayed, to remind yourself that your pain makes sense. Share it so others can understand what an affair really does to a relationship.

You’re not crazy. You’re traumatized.One of the most common things betrayed partners tell me is, “I feel like I’m losing...
02/11/2026

You’re not crazy. You’re traumatized.

One of the most common things betrayed partners tell me is, “I feel like I’m losing my mind.”

And I understand why it feels that way. When betrayal is uncovered, it doesn’t just hurt. It destabilizes your entire sense of reality.

The past suddenly feels like a lie. The present feels unsafe and unstable. The future you thought you were walking toward feels stolen.

In the middle of this collapse, your brain and body do exactly what they were designed to do: they move into survival mode.

That’s why intrusive thoughts replay over and over. Your mind is trying to make sense of chaos.
That’s why hypervigilance takes over. You’re scanning for danger everywhere to protect yourself.
That’s why panic and emotional flooding can hit without warning. Your nervous system is sounding the alarm.
That’s why you may go numb or shut down. Your body is shielding you when the pain feels unbearable.

None of this means you are weak or broken. It means you are human. It means you are responding normally to something that is profoundly traumatic.

So hear me: you are not losing your mind. You are experiencing betrayal trauma. And everything you’re feeling makes sense.

👉 Share this post so others understand: betrayal doesn’t just hurt, it rewires the brain and body, and follow for more daily tips and motivation!

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