Dr. Jake Porter, 1415 N Loop W, Suite 502, Houston, TX (2026)

02/06/2026

When the person you depended on for love and safety becomes the source of your deepest pain, the impact goes far beyond heartbreak.

This is betrayal trauma.

Betrayal trauma isn’t only about broken promises. It is about the collapse of safety, trust, and the story you thought you were living. That’s why it doesn’t just feel sad, it feels destabilizing.

Your brain and body react as if your world is in danger.
Hypervigilance keeps you scanning for threats.
Panic and emotional flooding overwhelm you without warning.
Sleepless nights leave you exhausted and restless.
Numbness takes over when the pain feels unbearable.

And alongside all of this comes grief. Grief for the past you thought you had. Grief for the story you believed. Grief for the future you imagined.

If you’ve ever felt like you were “losing your mind” after betrayal, hear me: you’re not. You’re experiencing trauma.

Healing betrayal trauma takes time. It requires truth, empathy, accountability, and the rebuilding of safety.

👉 Save this post for the days you doubt yourself. Share it to help others understand: betrayal trauma is real.

02/05/2026

Betrayal isn’t just heartbreak. It is trauma.

When betrayal is discovered, outsiders often say things like:
“Just move on.”
“Don’t be so jealous.”
“At least it wasn’t physical.”

What they do not realize is that betrayal cuts far deeper than broken promises. It destabilizes reality itself.

For the betrayed partner, everything they trusted is suddenly called into question. Their mind races, their body reacts, and their heart grieves not only what happened but what was lost: the story they believed they were living, the relationship they thought they had, the future they thought was waiting.

This is why betrayal trauma feels so overwhelming.
It is not an overreaction. It is not a weakness. It is a normal human response to a deep wound.

Here is what betrayed partners wish people understood:
✔️ They did not choose this pain
✔️ They cannot simply “get over it”
✔️ They are not broken for struggling

Healing takes time. It takes honesty. It takes compassion and safety.

So if you have been betrayed, hear me: You are not crazy. You are not too much. And you are not alone.

👉 Share it with someone who needs to better understand what betrayal trauma really is.

01/31/2026

Anxiety after betrayal can feel disorienting, especially if you used to feel secure in your relationship.

A lot of people assume that post-betrayal anxiety only happens to those who were already anxious, insecure, or overly sensitive. But the reality is, betrayal has a way of rewiring how the nervous system experiences safety. Even people who once felt grounded, confident, and connected can suddenly find themselves feeling uncertain, uneasy, and on edge.

This kind of anxiety is not a flaw in your character. It’s not a sign of weakness. And it’s definitely not proof that you are failing at healing.

It is your body responding to unpredictability.

When something that once felt stable suddenly becomes uncertain, the nervous system adapts. It goes into protection mode. It stays alert, scanning for anything that might hurt again. That’s why you might find yourself replaying conversations, second-guessing tone, or feeling unsettled even during calm moments.

These responses are not irrational. They are protective.

Security in relationships is built on consistency over time. When that consistency is broken, anxiety fills in the gap until your body has enough lived experience to trust that safety is returning. Not just through words or promises, but through actions that align with truth and reliability.

If anxiety feels new or unfamiliar to you after betrayal, please hear this: you are not broken. You are responding to something very real.

And with time, truth, and steady support, your nervous system can begin to settle again.

👉 Share this with someone who’s been wondering why anxiety showed up after betrayal. They’re not alone.

01/30/2026

Relational betrayal changes the way people experience emotional safety.

Before betrayal, safety often feels like something you don’t have to think about. You trust without question. You relax into connection. You move through the relationship with a kind of ease that feels automatic.

But after betrayal, that ease usually disappears.

Closeness no longer feels simple. Familiar routines or gestures may not bring the same comfort they once did. Emotional safety becomes something your body starts watching for, not something it assumes. You might find yourself analyzing tone, watching for inconsistencies, or questioning things that used to feel obvious.

This isn’t because you’re overthinking or overreacting. It’s because your nervous system has been through a rupture, and now it’s trying to protect you from getting blindsided again.

One of the most painful lessons betrayal teaches is that words are not always enough. Reassurance might calm things in the moment, but lasting safety is rebuilt through what happens over time. Through actions that match words. Through steady follow through. Through transparency that doesn’t have to be asked for.

You can’t talk your way back into emotional safety. You have to experience it again and again, until your body begins to believe that it’s okay to relax.

If you’re noticing that your reactions feel stronger than you expect, or that trust feels harder to access, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your body is responding exactly the way it’s meant to after a breach of safety.

And here’s the good news: emotional safety can be rebuilt. It takes time. It takes consistency. It takes the kind of honesty that holds up under pressure. But it is possible.

If this has been your experience, you’re not alone. And you’re not too much. You’re adapting to something real.

👉 Share this with someone trying to understand how betrayal reshapes emotional safety.
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01/28/2026

There are things people say to betrayed partners that sound supportive on the surface, but land in ways that feel incredibly painful.

“Just move on.”
“At least it wasn’t physical.”
“If you stayed, you must be okay.”
“Why are you still upset?”

Most people don’t say these things to be hurtful. They usually mean well. The problem is that they don’t fully understand the weight of what betrayal actually does. They want pain to resolve quickly. They want things to make sense again. But betrayal doesn’t move on just because the calendar does.

When someone has been betrayed, they aren’t just hurt emotionally. They’re often dealing with a nervous system that no longer feels safe. Trust has been shaken. The story they believed about their relationship has changed. Their mind is trying to make sense of what happened, while their body stays alert, scanning for signs that it might happen again.

For many betrayed partners, staying in the relationship doesn’t mean the pain is gone. It means they’re surviving while still hurting. It means they’re showing up for something they don’t fully trust yet. And often, when someone says “you’re so strong,” it doesn’t feel empowering. It feels like another expectation to keep it all together alone.

What most people in this situation actually need is not advice, timelines, or reminders to “let it go.” They need their pain to be respected. They need space to heal at the pace their body allows. And they need to know that what they’re feeling makes sense.

If you’ve heard some of these phrases and they landed with pain instead of comfort, that doesn’t mean you’re too sensitive. It means you’re grieving something real.

And if you’re supporting someone who has been betrayed, one of the most healing things you can do is to be present with them without trying to fix it.

Sometimes the most powerful support isn’t a solution. It’s simply being willing to stay close while someone finds their way forward.

👉 Share this with someone who wants to support a betrayed partner and may not realize what actually helps.
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01/28/2026

APSATS was founded with a clear purpose: to center partner trauma in a world that often overlooked it. At a time when betrayal was commonly treated as a relationship issue or reduced to poor communication, APSATS took a different path. One that honored the real impact of betrayal on the body, mind, and sense of self.

What makes this organization different is not just the training. It’s the lens.

Partners are not treated as collateral damage. Their experiences are named. Their pain is taken seriously. And betrayal is understood as a trauma that fractures safety, identity, and nervous system regulation, not just emotional connection.

One of the most unique parts of APSATS is its commitment to shared learning. When clinically appropriate, partners and professionals are invited into the same educational spaces. Not to blur boundaries, but to deepen understanding. Because when lived experience and clinical insight inform one another, the work gets better for everyone.

This field can be heavy. And at times, it can feel isolating. That’s why community matters. Real, grounded connection is what sustains both the people doing the healing and the people supporting them.

In February 2026, APSATS will host its first-ever in-person national conference. It’s a long-awaited moment to gather, learn, and strengthen a community that is committed to partner-centered, trauma-informed care.

If these values speak to you, whether you are a clinician, coach, partner, or advocate, this space may be one worth being part of.

👉 Click below to learn more about the APSATS conference and how to attend.
https://apsats.org/pages/apsats-conference-2026

01/27/2026

You’ve done the work. Therapy, groups, maybe even an intensive. You’ve named the trauma. You’ve walked through the pain. And still, something inside feels tight. Like something never fully released.

The Untangled Experience is a retreat for women who know they’ve come a long way but still feel stuck. Maybe it’s grief that hasn’t moved through. Maybe it’s a part of you that still feels frozen. Maybe it’s something you can’t quite name, but you know it’s there.

This retreat is about creating space for that kind of healing. The kind that goes beneath words and beyond thinking. Through a carefully guided, legal psilocybin experience, we’ll work in a safe and trauma-informed setting to access parts of the nervous system and soul that talking alone often can’t reach.

This is not a shortcut. It’s not about bypassing anything. It’s about honoring how deep this healing really goes and giving it the kind of support it needs.

We’ll be in a quiet, forested space, supported by a team that understands betrayal trauma and knows how to hold what comes up. There will be time for movement, integration, rest, connection, and silence.

If you are not in crisis but you know there is more work to do, more to loosen, more to reclaim, this may be for you.

June 9 - 14, 2026
Facilitated by me, in partnership with Odyssey Psilocybin Services.
All meals, lodging, transportation, and two post-retreat integration sessions are included.

If this resonates, I’d love for you to join us.

Click here for more info: https://www.daringventures.com/untangled/

01/23/2026

When someone is betrayed, what they’re feeling is more than just heartbreak.
It’s injustice.

Cheating doesn’t just break a commitment. It changes the agreement of the relationship without your knowledge. It takes choices that were supposed to belong to both of you and makes them in secret. It rewrites the rules behind closed doors and leaves the betrayed partner living in a story that no longer matches reality.

That’s why betrayal feels so deeply unfair. Because it is.

The one who’s been hurt is left carrying the weight of decisions they didn’t make. They’re left with pain they didn’t choose, trying to make sense of a relationship that suddenly doesn’t feel familiar anymore. And they’re left asking the kinds of questions that shake a person to their core. How could you do this? Was any of it real? Why didn’t I get a say?

This is where many people misunderstand the pain of betrayal. It’s not just emotional. It’s not just about being sad or angry. It’s about the sense that something was stolen — your voice, your safety, your right to make informed choices about your own life.

Healing from betrayal requires more than moving on. It requires the truth. It requires the harm to be named and owned. It requires repair, not just reassurance.

Justice in relationships isn’t about punishment. It’s about responsibility. It’s about rebuilding safety through honesty and accountability, not avoidance.

So if you’ve been betrayed and you find yourself feeling angry or questioning everything, that’s not a flaw in you. That’s a reflection of something real that was broken.

Your anger is not weakness.
Your questions are not overreactions.
And your pain deserves to be honored, not minimized.

👉 Share this with someone who needs to know that betrayal isn’t just a broken heart. It’s a violation of trust. And healing begins when the truth is finally faced.
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01/23/2026

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01/23/2026

There are thoughts many betrayed partners carry quietly.

Not because they’re dramatic or unwilling to heal, but because they’re trying to survive something that shattered their sense of safety.

Thoughts like:
“I don’t recognize myself anymore.”
“I feel foolish for not seeing it sooner.”
“I’m exhausted from pretending I’m okay.”
“I’m scared this pain will never fully go away.”

These thoughts often stay unspoken. Not because they aren’t real, but because partners worry they’ll be judged, rushed, or misunderstood. Too often, they’re told to be strong, to focus on the future, to stop living in the past.

But betrayal does not resolve on a timeline.
And strength, in these moments, often looks like endurance.

If you’ve had thoughts like these, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means your nervous system is responding to something that changed your world. That’s not weakness. It’s survival.

Most partners aren’t asking for answers. They’re asking for space to say, “This still hurts,” without being made to feel like that’s a problem.

There’s nothing wrong with you.
What happened to you matters.
And your response makes sense.

01/21/2026

An affair doesn’t just break trust.
It breaks the life you thought you were living.

When the truth comes out, something shifts.
Not just between you and your partner, but inside of you.
It’s not your strength that disappears. It’s not your worth.
It’s the story you believed in.
The version of your relationship that felt safe. The future you thought was real.

That’s why betrayal feels like grief.
You’re not just hurting over what they did.
You’re grieving what you thought you had.
You’re grieving the past, the present, and the future.
You’re grieving the everyday moments that now feel different.
The memories that don’t land the same.
The version of your partner you trusted.

This kind of loss doesn’t show up all at once.
And it doesn’t heal in a straight line.
Some days you’ll feel clear. Some days you’ll feel like you’re falling apart again.
That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human.

If something inside you felt like it died when you found out the truth, you’re not crazy.
Something did die. But this isn’t the end.
It’s the beginning of something different.
Something that, with honesty and time, can be built on solid ground.

👉 Share this with someone who is carrying this kind of grief.
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