Newman Counseling Center

04/29/2022

03/27/2021

When something you said (or didn’t say) hurts your partner’s feelings, there’s a strong impulse to interrupt with, “That wasn’t my intention. You’re misunderstanding me,” even before your partner is done talking.

Unfortunately, when you, the listener, reacts to what your partner is saying before they get the chance to fully explain themselves, you both are left feeling misunderstood. While it’s important to complain without blame and state a positive need to help prevent the listener from flooding or responding defensively, in a healthy relationship it’s also vital for the listener to learn to self-soothe.

Ditch the defensiveness and discover how self-soothing can allow you to maintain yourself and the connection with your partner during conflict on the Gottman Relationship Coach. Get started today: https://bit.ly/3ci5PUO

10/01/2019

You are a masterpiece!

11/19/2018

A helpful reminder from Stacie Swift.

06/19/2018

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Instead of considering posttraumatic stress as something that happens when we can't let go of the past, think of it as the past not letting go of us. Have compassion.

06/19/2018

It's tempting to dole out advice when we see someone doing the same unhealthy things over and over. But rarely does that help. Here's what actually makes a difference.

06/04/2018

While my self-love journey is on-going, here are a few things I try to remember when I think I'm not good enough and I'm tempted to be mean to myself.

05/19/2018

While we could send flowers to Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, we feel that the best wedding gift we can give is sound relationship advice.

05/19/2018

People know they matter when...

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04/12/2018

Boundaries help us feel safe.

(Image via Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach)