11/22/2025
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🌀Why the Vocal~Va**nal Connection Ma-tters
The absence of this deep voice~va**na (or voice~womb) connection in many women’s voices today is not accidental — it’s the result of long histories of cultural, social, and even physiological suppression.
💫Singing/Sounding/Speaking with a conscious connection between the voice and the va**na (or the pelvic bowl / womb space more broadly) matters because it re-unites two centers of expression and power that have long been culturally disconnected & suppressed and it also calls us home to our true nature.
🌍And yes nature hears us when we sing/sound/speak in this way and she delights and we become more unified with her. We can soften and receive from her.
It echoes a truth many indigenous and animist traditions hold — that sound, when voiced from a place of deep embodiment and alignment with nature, is a relational offering.
👂Unfortunately our ear has become en-trained to only certain frequencies of sound. We actually have few models of voices that hold this VV connection.
And living in the busy, noisy world we live in does everything to stop us listening deeper to our bodies, our spirit, our matter and all that lies between us and our true nature.
🔊Many of you may well know that Voice and Va**na are physiologically the same. They carry the same tissue. They are both channels that communicate the outside with the inside, and they are both instruments of self-expression in relationship with others.
They are both creative organs, one creates voice, the other one creates life. The way we speak in life we could say is shaped by the connection we have with our Va**na and vice versa.
We are created through an explosion of ecstasy, our voices are also ec=static.
So why is this disconnection so widespread:
1)Cultural Suppression of the Feminine:
For thousands of years in many parts of the world, patriarchal systems have systematically silenced both women's voices and their sexuality. Speaking out (especially from a place of embodied truth) and owning one’s sexual and creative power were often dangerous — literally punishable. Over time, women learned (consciously and unconsciously) to disconnect from these power centers for safety and social survival.
2) Split Between Spirit and Body:
In Western thought especially, there’s been a deep historical split between mind and body, spirit and matter. The body — and especially the female body — was often seen as sinful, messy, or lesser. This discouraged women from inhabiting the lower body fully, favoring more ‘acceptable’ heady, intellectual, or compliant modes of expression.
3)Conditioning to Sound “Pleasant” or “Nice”:
Women have been socially conditioned to speak and sing in ways that are palatable, pretty, non-threatening, and small. High, thin, breathy, or tight voices are often unconsciously favored because they align with cultural ideals of femininity that are demure, controlled, or childlike — rather than deep, resonant, and powerful.
Vocal fry is an example of this. I hear it everywhere.
4) Pelvic Tension and Trauma:
Many women carry tension, numbness, or trauma in the pelvic region — from personal experiences, generational imprints, or collective feminine wounding. When the pelvic floor is tight, frozen, or disconnected, it directly affects the breath and voice. The whole system can’t flow freely. This literally pulls energy upward and disconnects it from the root.
5) Lack of Embodied Education:
Most singing, speaking, or voice training focuses on technique, performance, or projection — often ignoring the body's deeper wisdom. We have very few models that teach women how to inhabit their voice from the ground up, or how to weave it with their womb space as a source of creativity and intuitive power.
6) Fear of Being “Too Much”:
A deeply embodied, rooted voice often carries rawness, power, sensuality, or deep emotion. Many women have internalized fears that expressing these qualities will make them undesirable, shamed, rejected, or unsafe — so the voice stays small, tight, or disconnected as a form of protection.
So when we start to allow for a deeper dive in our multilayered voices it’s important in this re-member-ing, in this re-assembling- in this re-calibration that we can work at the pace of our nervous system.
Why?
Because many women are holding sexual abuse memory consciously or unconsciously, ancestral lineage trauma and death for ‘speaking up’ or just being who they are, sisterhood wounds, and this takes a level of safety in the nervous system to stay with and to eventually use as a medicine, a nectar.
Too fast and it’s just scratching a scab which becomes covered over again. The intensity can become a familiar pattern but beware if that becomes your default as it can just be a way of not dropping deeper and ‘keeping you safe’ Our bodies are incredibly wise when we give them time and spaciousness.
It takes courage to descend, to be in the not knowing, to let go of any thing you think you may know about your voice. To open to the multi-layered woman/man that you are
But these times are calling for it. To come home to the non=duality of our being, to the union of spirit and matter, and to dropping into the deep oceanic song of your ancestors.
Through this journey comes an unrestrained gateway to pleasure and joy, a sense of coming home.
Please note – this throat/pelvic connection also applies to men. I’ve done a lot of bodywork on men who are very disconnected from their balls, their sexual organs and just one example of what can happen through this is premature ej*******on.
If this stirs something in you, this is my deep soul gift to offer others.
I bring a lived experience of many somatic trainings including Somatic Experiencing, Somatic S*x Education, Embodied Counselling, years of shamanic Womb work, Menopause and timeless years of working with the voice in different capacities.
May we remember 🐋 🌺 🐬
More to come in another post of what happens as a result of this disconnection, and what the benefits of what happens when we start to re-connect
✍️ Talia Brand
