07/22/2021
Being able to separate eating disorder thoughts versus healthy thought patterns is an important process for anyone trying to engage in eating disorder recovery. This process typically involves three steps, each of which gets us closer to freedom from disordered eating behaviors.
1. Identify: Start trying to identify internal thought patterns and particularly, those which are disordered eating patterns versus healthy patterns. This involves mindfulness and potentially naming and stating your thought patterns out loud to figure out if they are disordered. For example, 'I'm having the urge to skip dinner to compensate for eating a large lunch. This is probably an eating disorder thought because it's not healthy to skip a meal.
2. Disagree: In this step, we intentionally disagree internally with our disordered thought pattern. So we first identify it as disordered, and then internally are able to reject it. This may not impact whether or not we act on it, but we are able to state unequivocally that we disagree with it. For example, 'I know that my urge to skip dinner is disordered, and I disagree with the idea that skipping dinner is good.
3. Disobey: This final step is built upon the previous two steps. After we have identified and disagreed with an eating disorder thought, we push ourselves to 'disobey' the same thought. That means following our disagreement with action by refusing to act on the thought. For example, 'I know that skipping dinner is a disordered idea, so I'm going to disobey this thought and go ahead and eat something.
While eating disorder thoughts can be invasive and obsessive, starting to identify and disagree with these thoughts puts us on the path to recovery. Eventually the goal is to disobey more and more often, as we move away from our active disorder.