Think Well Live Well Counseling and Telepsychiatry

11/11/2025

It’s not a secret, it’s a shadow. There aren't two people in your relationship—there are three. You, the person you love, and their addiction.

And let's be honest: the addiction is the one in charge. 🎯 It decides your plans. It dictates the mood in the room. It controls the bank account.

You're living in a constant state of high alert, and it's utterly exhausting. But here’s the truth you need to hear: you cannot negotiate with a disease, and your love cannot cure their addiction.

If you're ready to stop being a hostage and take back control of your life, your next step is waiting. Visit the link in my bio to find your way back to you.

With strength and understanding,
Becky VanDenburgh

11/10/2025

When a Narcissist Tries to Gaslight You...
You don’t owe them an argument or your peace.
Instead of defending yourself, try these grounded responses:
✨ “That’s not how I remember it.”
✨ “We’ll have to agree to disagree.”
✨ “I’m not going to debate my reality.”
✨ “I’m clear on what happened, thank you.”
✨ “Let’s pause — this conversation isn’t going anywhere healthy.”

You can’t out-logic manipulation, but you can protect your energy.
Your clarity is your power.

11/08/2025

This "come here, go away" feeling in relationships? You're not crazy, and you're not broken. It's a survival mode your nervous system learned long ago. 💔

If you find yourself craving deep connection but then feeling the urge to run when you get it, this is for you. Healing begins the moment we understand why we do what we do. This isn't about blame; it's about awareness. Your past built a fortress around your heart, but you hold the key. ❤️

If this resonates, drop a 🖤 in the comments below. Let's show each other we are not alone in this.

11/06/2025

It’s not about their charm... it’s about their reaction to criticism. 🚩

A healthy person will listen or explain. But a narcissist? They often explode with rage, deny everything, and flip the blame onto you. This disproportionate reaction reveals a fragile ego that can't tolerate being seen as flawed.

Have you ever witnessed this? Let us know your thoughts below. 👇

11/05/2025

If these 7 signs sound familiar, you’re not broken, you’re human. Anxiety is common, and it’s treatable. Let’s talk about healing, not hiding.

11/04/2025

The Origins of Narcissism: How It Develops

Explore the origins of narcissism. We analyze how childhood trauma, genetics, and culture shape grandiose and vulnerable narcissism. Understand the root.

https://thinkwelllivewell.co/so/d4PfGTaBz?languageTag=en

11/04/2025

What if you could heal your trauma without having to find the "right" words? 🗣️➡️🤫

So many of us are told to "talk it out," but for deep, stuck trauma, sometimes words aren't enough. That's where EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) comes in.

It’s not magic—it’s neuroscience. 🧠 EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (like guided eye movements) to help your brain safely reprocess traumatic memories. The memory doesn't disappear, but its intense emotional charge and power over you can fade. It helps your brain refile the memory from a constant present-day threat back into the past, where it belongs.

It's been a true game-changer for healing.

Have you ever heard of EMDR? Are you curious?

👉 If you're curious to learn more, just comment below! I'll share more insights and resources in my posts and stories.

11/03/2025

Peace built on self-betrayal isn’t peace; it’s pretending.

10/31/2025

Love shouldn't feel like a maze. 😵‍💫

Many think the avoidant attachment is the hardest to connect with, but the real challenge is often the Disorganized Attachment Style.

Why? It's the ultimate push-pull.
❤️ They crave deep connection and love.
😰 They are terrified of it at the same time.

This internal "come here, go away" conflict creates unpredictable and confusing relationships. It's not a game—it's a survival instinct formed early in life, where love and fear became intertwined.

✨ The key takeaway? Understanding this pattern is the first step toward compassion and healing. ✨

Have you ever experienced or witnessed this push-pull dynamic? Share your thoughts in the comments below—let's talk about it.

👉 For a deeper dive into understanding attachment styles and beginning your healing journey, visit the link in our bio to read the full article on the blog!

10/31/2025

Regulation isn’t about “fixing” yourself; it’s about helping your body feel safe again. These 12 evidence-based strategies can help you reset when you feel anxious, frozen, or reactive.

10/30/2025

Feeling wiped out or emotionally raw after your EMDR session? 🧠⚡️

Believe it or not, this can be a powerful sign that you're healing. Your brain is doing the heavy lifting after your appointment, working hard to process and reorganize old memories. This mental workout can leave you drained, emotional, or with vivid dreams.

This is completely normal! Honor this process by giving your brain a break. Skip the intense movies and avoid big decisions. Think of it as essential mental recovery time—your aftercare is a huge part of the journey.

Have you ever felt this way after therapy? Share your experience below. 👇

10/28/2025

What Are You Supposed to Notice During EMDR THERAPY? A Therapist Explains

What Are You Supposed to Notice During EMDR THERAPY? A Therapist Explains