Think Well Live Well Counseling and Telepsychiatry

01/03/2026

It wasn’t an act of abandonment. It was an act of survival. ❤️‍🩹

No child grows up hoping to one day cut off the people who raised them. That decision doesn’t happen overnight. It happens after years—sometimes decades—of pain, invalidation, and survival mode.

As we grow, heal, and build our own lives, we realize that peace isn’t just a luxury; it’s a necessity. Sometimes, the healthiest choice is the hardest one: walking away.

If you’ve had to make this choice, know this: You didn't leave to hurt them. You left to save yourself. And that is valid.

Drop a "🤍" if you are prioritizing your peace this year.

12/30/2025

If the “New Year, New You” pressure leaves you feeling exhausted, not excited—this is for you. ❄️

We’re trying to force a massive rebirth in the middle of winter, while nature is hibernating and resting. No wonder we feel resistance—it’s not laziness, it’s being out of sync with the season.

What if January wasn’t for doing, but for dreaming?
You don’t have to launch a business or run a marathon on day one. You just have to plant the seed.

Give yourself permission to slow down. The year is long—you don’t have to win it in the first week.

If you want to approach 2026 with more grace and less pressure, I’m here to support you. 🌱

12/23/2025

Feeling the pressure to perform joy during the holidays?

We often mask our true emotions under the weight of expectations. After the festivities, that hollow feeling can set in. Discover more about managing holiday stress and being authentic in our latest blog post. Read it here: https://wix.to/EbI8f2Q

There is a specific moment I hear about constantly in my practice during December.It’s the moment you get back to your car after the family dinner, or the moment the last guest leaves your house. The door closes. The silence hits. And you don’t just feel tired.You feel hollow.You spent the last ...

12/23/2025

A moment of pause and deep gratitude. ❤️

To my incredible clients: I know that sitting in this chair—or on the other side of the screen—is one of the most vulnerable things a person can do. In 2025, you trusted me with your stories, your fears, and your biggest breakthroughs.

It is a profound honor to be the person you chose to walk through the hard stuff with. I don’t take that trust lightly.

Whether this season is full of joy for you, or if it feels more complicated and tender—I hope you can find a moment of peace, presence, and gentle self-compassion.

From my family to yours… thank you. I can’t wait to see what we build together in 2026. 🌱

12/22/2025

If you were raised by an almond mom, this might hit a nerve.

You learned early that hunger was something to manage, not listen to.
That eating less was discipline.
Those comments about bodies were “concerning.”
That ordering fries felt like a personality flaw.
Signs you were raised by an almond mom
You feel guilty eating past fullness
You hear a critical voice when choosing food
You struggle to trust your body’s signals
You confuse control with worth
You think being “good” means being smaller
This isn’t about blame.
It’s about unlearning quiet rules that still live in your nervous system.
You don’t need to earn food.
Your body isn’t a problem to fix.
Healing starts when you stop arguing with your needs and start honoring them.
If this resonates, you’re not broken. You were conditioned. And that can be undone.

Save this. Share it. Talk about it.

12/21/2025

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12/20/2025

EMDR is one of the most powerful tools I use—but I won’t use it on everyone. Here’s why. 🧠

EMDR is not a light therapy. It’s a deep, powerful process. Think of it like a controlled burn—designed to clear out old trauma and make space for new growth.

But you can’t start a controlled burn in the middle of a wildfire. EMDR is not for someone in acute crisis or who lacks coping skills. The emotional processing doesn’t stop when the 50-minute session ends—you need tools to feel safe in your body between sessions.

My job isn’t just to offer a tool. It’s to know when and how to use it safely. EMDR isn’t a quick fix. It’s a specific, transformative process that requires preparation, stability, and timing.

I’m Becky VanDenburgh, and I’m here to guide you safely toward healing. If you’re curious whether EMDR is the right next step for you, click the link in my bio to book a consultation.

Your healing deserves intention, not just intervention. 💫

12/18/2025

Stop asking why they ghosted you. Stop asking why they blow up your phone. You're asking the wrong questions. 🔍

The real question is: How do they attach? Understanding this changes everything.

1️⃣ They crave connection. This is the anxious style. They need constant reassurance, pull you close, but are terrified you’ll leave.

2️⃣ They feel caged by connection. This is the avoidant style. Intimacy feels suffocating. They push you away to find space and independence.

3️⃣ They create chaos. This is the disorganized style. They crave connection and feel trapped by it—resulting in the exhausting "come here, go away" storm.

You can’t heal what you don’t understand. Clarity is power.

I’m Becky, and I’ve created a free guide to help you identify these attachment patterns—in yourself and your partners. No more confusion, just clarity.

👉 Click the link in my bio to download it today.

12/17/2025

Why You Dread the Holidays: The 4 Types of Holiday Anxiety
Stop calling it "stress." Discover the 4 specific types of holiday anxiety—from perfectionism to sensory overload—and learn actionable tips to reclaim your joy.

Why You Secretly Dread The Holidays (It’s Not Because You’re Mean) The 4 Types of Holiday Anxiety.

12/16/2025

▶️ How long does it take?
If it’s one big event (a “Big T” trauma like an accident), healing can be incredibly fast.
If it’s complex trauma—a childhood of feeling unsafe and unseen—it’s like cleaning 1,000 small wounds.

It’s not about speed. It’s about depth.

The goal isn’t just to cope with your past. It’s to stop letting it control your present.

I’m Becky, a certified EMDR therapist. If you’re ready to stop managing symptoms and finally start healing your nervous system, click the link in my bio to book a free consultation.

Your body is ready to feel safe again.

12/15/2025

This is why I do this work.
Not to give advice.
Not to have all the answers.
But to help people feel steadier, clearer, and more like themselves again.

12/14/2025

I will be home for Christmas, and in therapy by New Years.

Because going back to your family doesn’t magically heal old patterns.
It activates them.

You can love your family and still need support after being around them.
You can enjoy the holidays and still feel dysregulated, guilty, exhausted, or confused.
Both things can be true.

Therapy after the holidays is not a failure.
It is a reset.
A boundary.
A choice to stop carrying what was never yours to begin with.

If Christmas pulls you backward, New Years is where you move forward.