Amber Trejo, LMFT

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Amber Trejo, LMFT

Trauma and Attachment Specialist | I help people heal from complex trauma and break the cycle.

02/01/2026

IYKYK 🙌🏻

Respectfully, if you don’t know what raising multiple neurodivergent children is like while also healing from complex trauma I really don’t want your parenting advice.

Often times the thing that regulates our neurodivergent child’s nervous system is the very thing that dysregulates ours.

The key is understanding that BOTH are important. BOTH nervous systems matter. And figuring out a comfortable medium where you and your child both feel supported.

Are you trying to follow parenting advice that leaves you feeling ashamed and like a failure because it wasn’t meant for you or your child? If so, you’re welcome here ❤️

01/25/2026

Thank you for putting our collective grief into such beautiful words.

Heartbroken over the state of our country. Heartbroken at the senseless murders and trauma and abuses taking place.

💔💔💔

01/18/2026

For a long time, I thought healing meant pushing past my reactions.
Regulating harder. Understanding more.

But complex trauma doesn’t heal through effort alone. It heals through relationship.
Reparenting changed everything because it showed me that the parts of me that felt reactive, overwhelmed, or stuck weren’t problems to solve. They were younger parts still waiting for attunement, safety, and repair.

With complex trauma, we grow up learning how to survive without being supported. We develop incredible awareness and resilience, but we never get the chance to internalize a steady, compassionate caregiver. So when life gets loud or relationships get close, our system does what it learned to do a long time ago.

Reparenting asks a different question: “What happens when I respond to myself the way I should have been responded to then?”

That question reshaped how I relate to my emotions, my body, and my capacity. It taught me how to meet shutdown with gentleness instead of urgency, overwhelm with care instead of criticism.

That’s why I created this journal.
To guide you into a relationship with yourself, one page at a time.

This journal gently walks you through beginning to connect with your inner child through self-compassion, reflection, and reparenting practices designed for complex trauma.

Head to the link in my bio to download yours today!

01/12/2026

Comment GUIDE and this $27 guide will be yours for FREE!
(If you’re in Facebook you’ll have to go to the link in my bio)

One of the most important things I ever learned on my own personal healing journey that I have since begun teaching my clients is how complex trauma changes our nervous system.

When we go through complex trauma our system of safety and connection goes offline because safety and connection become an actual threat to our survival.

This is why most complex trauma survivors are always cycling through fight/flight and shutdown.

It’s absolutely crucial we learn about our nervous system and be intentional about spending time in our Ventral Vagal space.

Once we begin practicing this it changes everything! My clients notice a difference almost immediately after learning these techniques.

So I created a 19 page guide on how complex trauma impacts your nervous system with a checklist and in-depth exercises you can start TODAY to start changing your nervous system.

Comment GUIDE and you’ll get it (a $27 value) TOTALLY FREE! No strings attached!

01/11/2026

Allow me to re-introduce myself, I’m Amber Trejo.

My mental health journey began as a new mom in a new marriage navigating the overwhelming symptoms of CPTSD while searching for the support and tools I desperately needed.

I believed I had “healed” from my childhood trauma until I found myself in a safe relationship for the first time and felt the deep love I had for my child when he was born. These two things triggered all the attachment trauma from my past and symptoms of C-PTSD began surfacing that I never had before.

I went back to school and began therapy to better understand what was happening inside of me and to make sure I stopped the cycles of abuse and trauma that had existed in my family for generations.

Driven by my own healing journey and deep desire to break cycles for my children, I earned my license in Marriage and Family Therapy and began my own private practice specializing in complex trauma.

However, I still felt like there were sooo many survivors and parents who needed the information I had who couldn’t afford therapy, couldn’t find a good therapist or just didn’t understand what was going on inside of them.

So I started sharing my struggles, my research, my revelations and the things that have helped me via this page.

I have free reparenting and nervous system resources for survivors in my bio and most recently I’ve created a groundbreaking course tailored specifically for parents with complex trauma.

My work integrates evidence-based practices with deep empathy and lived experience, empowering survivors to heal, reparent themselves, and break generational cycles of trauma.

I am passionate about creating a space where adult survivors and parents who have experienced trauma can feel seen, validated, and supported as they reclaim their lives and nurture their children (and/or themselves) with intention and love.

For even more free healing info and exclusive discounts on products make sure you sign up for my email list by getting one of my freebies.

01/10/2026

Okay so truth is, I’ve never worked with a client who chose no contact with an emotionally safe parent.

I have worked with clients who tried to set boundaries and were labeled ungrateful, dramatic, or cruel.

I’ve worked with clients who attempted conversation after conversation, only to have their words twisted, minimized, or used against them.

I’ve worked with clients who did everything “right” — therapy, patience, compassion, explanations — and still left every interaction feeling smaller and less safe in their bodies.

What it ultimately came down to wasn’t punishment.
It wasn’t avoidance.
It wasn’t a lack of love.

It was this:
They couldn’t protect themselves and maintain the relationship at the same time.

No contact is rarely the first choice. Even for people who were abused and neglected as children.
It’s often the last line of self-protection when every other option has been exhausted.

01/07/2026

So much of modern parenting advice completely ignores the nervous system capacity of the mother.

It tells us to stay calm.
Validate every feeling.
Co-regulate flawlessly.

As if we’re robots.

As if our own internal experience doesn’t exist.
I’m sorry but F*CK that!

When I first became a parent, I was desperate to break generational cycles of trauma and abuse. I read everything. I tried to do it “right.”

But every expert focused only on what my child needed, never on what was happening inside of me.

And it wasn’t sustainable.

Because when a parent’s nervous system is overwhelmed, no script or strategy can override biology.

What followed was emotional eruptions... or total shutdown.

And the quiet, devastating belief: I’ll never be what my children need.

Trauma-informed parenting doesn’t start with doing more for your child.

It starts with understanding your own nervous system, your limits, and your lived history.

You don’t need to erase or suppress yourself to be a good parent.

Your internal experience matters because it shapes everything you do.

Comment GUIDE and I’ll send you my FREE guide on healing your nervous system after trauma

01/05/2026

If it feels heavy, it’s because it is.

I used to compare myself to other mothers and come up short every time. I didn’t see the full picture, that I was mothering while carrying the unresolved weight of my own childhood trauma. Moms with C-PTSD aren’t just doing “normal” motherhood. We’re parenting on top of a nervous system shaped by survival, hypervigilance, and grief that never had a place to land.

Back then, instead of recognizing how extraordinary that was, I shamed myself. For saying “be careful.” For choosing chicken nuggets when I was exhausted. For choosing public school instead of homeschool. For not being more relaxed, more effortless, more like the mothers I was watching from the outside. I couldn’t yet understand that those choices weren’t failures, they were adaptations.

What I know now is this: it is miraculous to raise a child while actively breaking generational cycles of abuse and neglect. It is not weakness to be cautious when your history taught you the world could be dangerous. It is not neglect to choose ease when your system is overwhelmed. Moms with C-PTSD are carrying far more than most people can see and still, we show up. That deserves compassion, not shame.

Something I tell the parents I work with all the time is it’s time to throw out the “rule book” when it comes to parenting after childhood trauma. Traditional parenting advice, most of it isn’t made for us. It doesn’t honor our capacity. It doesn’t acknowledge our lived experience and the fragility of our nervous system.

Learning to unburden ourselves of the things that were never ours to carry - the self-hatred, perfectionism, and all the other lies trauma led us to believe. That’s what will truly help our children.

If this is you, I hope you feel seen in my page. I hope you feel seen in my posts. I hope you know you aren’t alone.

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