Amber Trejo, LMFT

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Amber Trejo, LMFT

Trauma and Attachment Specialist | I help people heal from complex trauma and break the cycle.

03/27/2026

Something I’ve learned over the years as a therapist who specializes in C-PTSD is not to judge a book by its beautiful, perfect, high achieving cover.

Some of the most successful people you know, ones that you may even be intimidated by, are just little children inside trying to prove they’re worth loving.

The harsh inner critic, one of the core symptoms of C-PTSD often drives us towards perfectionism and achieving and proving ourselves. That combined with hyper-independence and a need to control can lead to traits that lead us to be quite successful in our life.

But being successful and being perceived as having the perfect life, is not the same as feeling happy and present inside of it.

If you find yourself having the “perfect” life on the outside but still feeling that lonely ache on the inside, it may be time to do some trauma work.

This is something I’m STILL working on myself.

Sending love if this is you 🫶

Xoxox,

03/21/2026

There is so much garbage parenting advice out there from people who aren't even qualified to give it.
And it's harmtul to moms and kids.

Co-regulation is not something that happens by faking calm.

That's why I created Beyond Survival, a parenting course by an actual therapist who specializes in trauma and the nervous system.

It teaches parents about what is happening in their body and how to ACTUALLY shift what is happening for them not just pretend they did.

So they don't look like a psychopath 😬

Link is in bio 🫶

03/19/2026

There's a moment that happens for so many mothers. You look at your child at the exact age you were when things started going wrong and something breaks open inside you.

Suddenly you don't just remember being that age. You see it.

You see how small they are. How much they still need you for everything. How they trust you completely, without question, because that's what children do. That's what they're supposed to do.

Motherhood is one of the most powerful portals to healing I've ever witnessed because it makes the truth impossible to ignore. Seeing how much your child still needs you, how much they rely on your voice, your presence, your safety helps you truly understand how much you were impacted by what happened.

The realization can be overwhelming. Motherhood can pull you back into the past without warning, a tone of voice, a moment of helplessness, a look on your child's face and suddenly you're not the parent anymore. You're the child.

That's called an emotional flashback, and it can quietly change the way you show up in your relationships, in your parenting, in how safe you feel in your own body.

Hi, I'm Amber Trejo, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in trauma. I help women untangle the past so they can show up fully for themselves and for their children.

03/13/2026

Emotional flashbacks are one of the most pervasive symptoms of C-PTSD. They show up in our closest relationships, our parenting, and our work environment. If you’re living in America right now they may be showing up due to all the crazy things happening in our government.

When we are in an emotional flashback we show up as younger parts of ourselves, have limited access to our prefrontal cortex, and feel stuck and unable to move towards action.

Everything changes when we are able to recognize we are in an emotional flashback, ground and soothe ourselves. That’s why I created the SHORES method and use it regularly with my clients.

When emotional flashbacks threaten to take you out to sea SHORES will guide you back, gently.

Join me for this low cost workshop where I will explain more about emotional flashbacks and walk you through the SHORES method.

Q&A will be through the chat and cameras will be turned off so you can remain confidential you want and it will be recorded if you miss it live!

COMMENT or DM me SHORES and I’ll send you the info!

03/05/2026

Ooooof the struggle is real!

Something that has absolutely wrecked me as a mom with childhood trauma is watching my children struggle and holding space for their emotions without jumping into fix their problems.

As a therapist, I know it’s necessary and absolutely crucial for my children to struggle and feel pain. I know that fixing or making things better for them isn’t what they need.

What they need is to learn how to navigate hard things and difficult people and their big emotions in safe place with a safe person, so one day when these things come up and they are alone, they know how to cope in a healthy way.

But as a mom with trauma, when my kid feels something hard it can trigger me into an emotional flashback. Suddenly it feels like they are experiencing the same trauma I went through, feeling the same feelings. I don’t want them to ever feel pain, I want to protect them from everything.

I have to remember that my children feeling pain and struggling and having a secure attachment and safe home to process in, is quite different than what I experienced growing up with abuse and neglect in my home. They can learn how to navigate things like bullies and harsh teachers and feeling overwhelmed at school without me jumping into fix it.

Then it becomes about soothing the part of me that feels desperate to stop them from feeling any pain whatsoever. Reminding my inner child she is safe, they are safe and we can get through anything together ❤️

✨ Hi I’m Amber, a licensed family therapist who specializes in trauma and the family system. I’m also a mama to 3 boys healing from C-PTSD from my own traumatic childhood. I help people understand how trauma shows up in their relationships and parenting ✨

Follow along if this feels familiar ❤️

02/03/2026

So many trauma survivors carry this secret wish:

“If I can just heal everything first, then I’ll finally be worthy of being a parent.”

But here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way. Waiting until you’re “perfectly healed” before having kids is a myth that will keep you trapped in shame.

Parenting doesn’t require pertection.

What our children really need is a parent who is willing to repair, to model, to show what healing looks like in real time.

When your child sees you pause, breathe, and apologize instead of exploding... when they watch you care for your nervous system... when they hear you say, “I’m learning too”

You’re not failing them. You’re teaching them something more valuable than perfection: the art of being human.
Healing in front of your kids is not a weakness. It’s a generational gift.

If you’re a parent who longs to heal the trauma that is keeping you from being a present and joyful parent COMMENT QUIZ and I’ll send you my free quiz to help you find out how your wounds are showing up in your parenting and best next steps to heal!

01/25/2026

Thank you for putting our collective grief into such beautiful words.

Heartbroken over the state of our country. Heartbroken at the senseless murders and trauma and abuses taking place.

💔💔💔

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