Dr. Sahar Martinez, LMFT

Dr. Sahar Martinez, LMFT Helping individuals, couples and families through transitional phases of life. Specializing in maternal mental health, couples, and women's wellness.

04/06/2026

your inner critic isn’t trying to destroy you. it’s trying to keep you safe.

in IFS, we call it a manager part — and its whole job is protecting you from a pain it decided (a long time ago) was too much to feel.

so before you try to silence it or shame yourself for having it, try getting curious.

ask it: what are you scared will happen if you stop?

that one question can change everything.

this is the work. it’s not about “fixing” yourself, it’s about getting to know yourself, honestly and deeply. it’s about embracing all of yourself.

drop a 🤍 if your inner critic has been loud lately.

felt foolish, might delete later 💌
04/02/2026

felt foolish, might delete later 💌

Spring equinox lovenotes 🪻✨🤍 take what you need
03/20/2026

Spring equinox lovenotes 🪻✨🤍 take what you need

That’s it. That’s the post.
03/18/2026

That’s it. That’s the post.

Six years ago the world shut down and what I thought would be 2 weeks of sheltering in place turned into months of just ...
03/14/2026

Six years ago the world shut down and what I thought would be 2 weeks of sheltering in place turned into months of just the four of us. We eventually podded with my sister and parents in the summer of 2020, but looking back on these photos is a reminder of what we endured in those early days.

For me, it was a mix of savoring every moment with my babies and husband, Zoom dates with friends and family, trying new recipes, so many crafts, care packages, group texts organizing grocery runs, panic attacks, drive thru birthdays, constant fear, locking in on writing my dissertation, lots of watching through the window and trying to find the beauty where ever we could while we tried to create joy for our boys.

Been a minute since I’ve dropped some love notes (because what in the actual f**k, 2026?!) 💌 take what you need ✨
03/09/2026

Been a minute since I’ve dropped some love notes (because what in the actual f**k, 2026?!) 💌 take what you need ✨

I used to think I was perpetually in a burnout cycle.But if I’m honest, I wasn’t collapsing.I was still delivering. Stil...
03/03/2026

I used to think I was perpetually in a burnout cycle.

But if I’m honest, I wasn’t collapsing.
I was still delivering. Still holding everything together.

What I eventually realized was something else entirely:

I had quietly become the default nervous system in too many areas of my life.

The one who absorbs tension.
The one who anticipates needs.
The one who keeps the emotional temperature steady when things start to escalate.

Over time, I started noticing patterns in the women around me too.

Four roles we slip into without even realizing it.

To be clear, none of these are diagnoses. They’re simply patterns many of us move through when we’ve spent years holding more than our share.

I’m curious, do any of these resonate for you? I’m landing in the quiet rebel, but have definitely had my seasons in each of these archetypes.

Read the full essay over on substack 🤍

Our new besties .door photographed our team at our annual Process Day. What an incredible reminder of the magical helper...
03/02/2026

Our new besties .door photographed our team at our annual Process Day. What an incredible reminder of the magical helpers, healers and deep feelers I get to walk alongside every day. Grateful to these women for the ways in which they show up every single day.

My favorite part of our annual gathering? Getting a whole day to hang with our team and their loved ones (aka babypalooza!).

In a time where things feel particularly dark, I’m grateful to these folks for being the light ✨

(swipe to the end if you’re curious about the aura of two kids that have been in love for 20+ years 😻)

this & accountability.
02/01/2026

this & accountability.

12/05/2025

Shout out to Mr. Campbell. Hope you’re doing well, my guy.

Signed,
Dr. Sahar Martinez, Psy.D, LMFT, PMH-C

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