Well Minded Therapy

12/18/2025

When a trauma wound is activated, your nervous system doesn’t respond from your present-day self.
It responds from the age you were when the hurt first happened.

That’s why a calm conversation can suddenly feel overwhelming—why you might shut down, panic, or lash out in ways that don’t feel like you. This isn’t a failure. It’s often a protective part, a younger part, trying to keep you safe.

When you begin to recognize these moments as emotional time travel, everything changes.
You stop blaming yourself and start making sense to yourself.

Healing isn’t about forcing yourself to “act your age.”
It’s about meeting the younger you with the safety, attunement, and compassion they never had.

12/18/2025

Trauma can literally change the structure of your brain.🧠

That’s why symptoms like flashbacks, nightmares, and triggers from certain sounds or smells are real neurological responses, not signs of weakness or
“overreacting.”

Here’s what’s happening inside your brain after trauma.
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1️⃣ The Hippocampus: your memory center.
When it shrinks after trauma, it struggles to tell the difference between past danger and present safety.
That’s why flashbacks feel like they’re happening right now.

2️⃣ The Amygdala: your internal alarm system.
If a traumatic memory is stored incorrectly, the amygdala stays on high alert, sending fight-or-flight signals even when there’s no real threat.

3️⃣ The Ventromedial Prefrontal Cortex : your emotional regulator.
When this area goes offline, it becomes harder to manage big emotions — which is why you might
“overreact” to something small.

Your brain isn’t broken; it’s protecting you.

The good news? The brain can heal.

12/18/2025

The memory of the traumatic event is stored in the amygdala, which ensures you do not find yourself in this dangerous situation again. However, the amygdala doesn’t save the events as if it was a story- the amygdala saves the emotional significance of the traumatic events as experienced by our five senses.

Learning about the power of neuroplasticity through therapy, and practices such as EMDR,meditation, journaling, gratitude and ... can help you to process those unprocessed emotions and store those events and memories in a less triggering and harming form.

Source: The body keeps the score.

11/05/2025

Staying connected and keeping the love alive requires work, repair, communication, willingness and openness to change, vulnerability, courage to accept challenges... “for a lantern to stay on, you need to add oil in it”.

Love map: A Love Map is essentially the mental and emotional map you have of your partner’s world — the details that make them who they are.

Nurture fondness & admiration: focusing on what you appreciate, respect, and love about your partner, even during conflict or stress.

Turn towards each other instead of away: Each time you turn toward your partner — even in small moments, you make a micro-deposit into your emotional bank account, strengthening trust and connection.

Let your partner influence you: Healthy relationships aren’t about keeping score or dominating decisions. Instead, partners respect each other’s opinions, feelings, and perspectives, and allow these to shape their own choices.

Solve your solvable problem: focuses on handling the day-to-day disagreements that can be fixed, rather than getting stuck in endless arguments.

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Overcome Gridlock: Gridlock happens when couples have persistent, unsolved conflicts that feel impossible to resolve. These usually revolve around deeply personal dreams, values, or life goals.

Create shared meaning: This principle is about building a life together that feels purposeful and meaningful for both partners, beyond just managing day-to-day logistics.

11/05/2025

Rather than strive to be right, strive to make things right.

11/05/2025

Hold on tight to your umbrella. The storm may seem endless now, but it will pass — it always does. And when it does, you’ll step out into the light not as who you were before, but as someone wiser, steadier, and far more resilient.

10/08/2025

Erectile dysfunction, or ED, refers to difficulty achieving or sustaining an er****on suitable for in*******se. This condition affects s*xual relationships and daily life.

Underlying factors may include health issues like diabetes or psychological concerns like performance anxiety. A healthcare provider can assess physical causes, and a trained therapist can help manage mental health-related issues.

Please ask for help

10/08/2025

10/08/2025

Let’s talk about Vaginismus:

When s*x isn’t pleasurable, but painful. This condition affects many women, causing involuntary pelvic muscle tightening.

It’s time to shatter the stigma and seek help.
Your pain is real, your body is not broken, and your healing matters.

Watch out for:
✔️pain with pe*******on
✔️muscle spasm near vaginal opening
✔️anxiety around intimacy
✔️questioning s*xual identity

10/08/2025

Let's talk about Vaginismus:

When s*x isn't pleasurable, but painful. This condition affects many women, causing involuntary pelvic muscle tightening. It's time to shatter the stigma and seek help.

Your pain is real, your body is not broken, and your healing matters.

Watch out for
✔️pain with pe*******on
✔️muscle spasm near vaginal opening.
✔️anxiety around intimacy
✔️questioning s*xual identity

09/30/2025

What happened to me shaped me, but it does not define me.
I define myself-
by who I choose to become.