Well Minded Therapy

11/05/2025

Staying connected and keeping the love alive requires work, repair, communication, willingness and openness to change, vulnerability, courage to accept challenges... “for a lantern to stay on, you need to add oil in it”.

Love map: A Love Map is essentially the mental and emotional map you have of your partner’s world — the details that make them who they are.

Nurture fondness & admiration: focusing on what you appreciate, respect, and love about your partner, even during conflict or stress.

Turn towards each other instead of away: Each time you turn toward your partner — even in small moments, you make a micro-deposit into your emotional bank account, strengthening trust and connection.

Let your partner influence you: Healthy relationships aren’t about keeping score or dominating decisions. Instead, partners respect each other’s opinions, feelings, and perspectives, and allow these to shape their own choices.

Solve your solvable problem: focuses on handling the day-to-day disagreements that can be fixed, rather than getting stuck in endless arguments.

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Overcome Gridlock: Gridlock happens when couples have persistent, unsolved conflicts that feel impossible to resolve. These usually revolve around deeply personal dreams, values, or life goals.

Create shared meaning: This principle is about building a life together that feels purposeful and meaningful for both partners, beyond just managing day-to-day logistics.

11/05/2025

Rather than strive to be right, strive to make things right.

11/05/2025

Hold on tight to your umbrella. The storm may seem endless now, but it will pass — it always does. And when it does, you’ll step out into the light not as who you were before, but as someone wiser, steadier, and far more resilient.

10/08/2025

Erectile dysfunction, or ED, refers to difficulty achieving or sustaining an er****on suitable for in*******se. This condition affects s*xual relationships and daily life.

Underlying factors may include health issues like diabetes or psychological concerns like performance anxiety. A healthcare provider can assess physical causes, and a trained therapist can help manage mental health-related issues.

Please ask for help

10/08/2025

10/08/2025

Let’s talk about Vaginismus:

When s*x isn’t pleasurable, but painful. This condition affects many women, causing involuntary pelvic muscle tightening.

It’s time to shatter the stigma and seek help.
Your pain is real, your body is not broken, and your healing matters.

Watch out for:
✔️pain with pe*******on
✔️muscle spasm near vaginal opening
✔️anxiety around intimacy
✔️questioning s*xual identity

10/08/2025

Let's talk about Vaginismus:

When s*x isn't pleasurable, but painful. This condition affects many women, causing involuntary pelvic muscle tightening. It's time to shatter the stigma and seek help.

Your pain is real, your body is not broken, and your healing matters.

Watch out for
✔️pain with pe*******on
✔️muscle spasm near vaginal opening.
✔️anxiety around intimacy
✔️questioning s*xual identity

09/30/2025

What happened to me shaped me, but it does not define me.
I define myself-
by who I choose to become.

09/30/2025

Well hello there — it’s been a while since I’ve made a personal post, so let me (re)introduce myself…

I’m Dr. Ari —
Straight, married, mom of two amazing boys, and a supervisor in the mental health field.
I hold a doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy, and after many years of deep and transformative training, I became certified in S*x Therapy and trained in Trauma work.

I’m Persian and speak fluent Farsi — my cultural roots run deep, and much of my therapeutic approach is shaped by growing up in a collective culture that values connection, family, and resilience.

When I’m not in the therapy room, you can find me:
💪 Doing high-intensity workouts
🍽️ Cooking (and eating!)
💃 Dancing my heart out
🌿 Meditating in nature
🎨 And lately… learning to become a potter
Professionally, I’m passionate about working with:
✨ Non-monogamy
💔 Infidelity
💑 Couples
🧠 Trauma
🔥 And everything related to s*x and intimacy

If you’ve made it this far — thank you for being here. I’m excited to continue sharing, growing, and connecting. 💛

09/15/2025