Spence Counseling Alliance, PLLC

Spence Counseling Alliance, PLLC Helping guide people through pain towards truth, healing and abundance. Offering Telehealth, in person and outdoor movement therapy on the Eastside.

Guilt has a way of pretending to be your consciencewhen really, it’s just the echo of conditioning.You know the voice:“T...
11/09/2025

Guilt has a way of pretending to be your conscience
when really, it’s just the echo of conditioning.
You know the voice:
“They’ll be disappointed if I say no.”
“It’s easier if I just do it.”
“Rest is for later.”
But guilt isn’t truth.
It’s the alarm bell that goes off every time you start honoring your own needs.
You’re not selfish — you’re just out of practice.
• Follow along this month as we release guilt, rebuild trust, and take our peace back...


Guilt has a way of pretending to be your conscience —when really, it’s just the echo of conditioning.You know the voice:...
11/09/2025

Guilt has a way of pretending to be your conscience —
when really, it’s just the echo of conditioning.

You know the voice:
“They’ll be disappointed if I say no.”
“It’s easier if I just do it.”
“Rest is for later.”

But guilt isn’t truth.
It’s the alarm bell that goes off every time you start honoring your own needs.

You’re not selfish — you’re just out of practice. 💛

👉 Follow along this month as we release guilt, rebuild trust, and take our peace back...

11/08/2025

You’re not cold. You’re clear.
There’s a difference — and it matters.

Clarity can feel like rejection to the people who benefitted from your confusion.
But that doesn’t make you the problem.

Boundaries aren’t cruelty.
They’re definition.
They’re self-respect.

So the next time someone calls you distant?
Remember: you’re not cold.
You’re just done bending.

👉 Follow for more ways to release guilt and stand firm in your peace.
Because clear is kind.

Guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong — sometimes it just means you’re doing something different.You’ve ...
11/07/2025

Guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong — sometimes it just means you’re doing something different.

You’ve spent years prioritizing others — now your body is learning what it feels like to choose you.

That’s not selfish. That’s healing. 🌿

👉 Follow along this month as we keep learning how to rest, set boundaries, and take our peace back — gently, guilt-free, and on purpose. 🤍

11/06/2025

You don’t owe constant connection to prove you care.

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is step back and refill.

Guilt says you’re disappearing.
Peace says you’re returning home. 🤍

👉 Follow along this month as we keep releasing guilt, rebuilding self-trust, and choosing peace on purpose.

You don’t have to explain your boundaries to be understood.You’ve spent years keeping the peace — often at your own expe...
11/05/2025

You don’t have to explain your boundaries to be understood.

You’ve spent years keeping the peace — often at your own expense.

But saying no isn’t rejection — it’s direction.

The truth is, clarity is kindness.
It teaches others where connection can actually grow.

So if you’ve been called “cold” or “too much” for choosing yourself...
remind yourself: you’re not cold — you’re clear.

👉 Follow along this month as we keep unlearning guilt, reclaiming boundaries, and redefining what peace really looks like. 🤍

11/04/2025

Somewhere along the way, they convinced us rest was lazy.
That slowing down meant we weren’t trying hard enough.
That if you weren’t exhausted, you weren’t doing it right.

Let’s rewrite that lie.

Rest isn’t a reward.
It’s how you reset your nervous system.
It’s not selfish — it’s self-leadership.

You’ve earned quiet.
You’ve earned a schedule that doesn’t run you ragged.
And guess what? You don’t owe anyone an explanation for it.

This week, we’re releasing guilt and reclaiming rest — as a radical act.

👉 I dare you: take a nap.
And if you need more reminders like this? Stick around. We’re just getting started.

You’ve been running on empty for so long that stillness feels strange...But rest isn’t laziness — it’s maintenance.You d...
11/03/2025

You’ve been running on empty for so long that stillness feels strange...

But rest isn’t laziness — it’s maintenance.

You don’t need to prove you’ve earned it. You don’t need to apologize for slowing down.

Your body already knows what it needs — you’re just remembering how to listen.

Real healing happens when you stop asking, “Have I done enough to deserve rest?” and start whispering, “I’m allowed to pause now.”

👉 Follow along this month as we keep exploring what it means to release guilt, rebuild trust, and take your peace back — one boundary, one breath, one gentle shift at a time... 🤍

11/02/2025

I didn’t burn out overnight.
I just slowly disappeared — one quiet “yes” at a time.

It looked like being strong.
Like staying busy.
Like holding it all together.

Until the noise stopped —
and I realized I couldn’t hear myself anymore.

This is where it starts.
Not with fixing.
But with finally feeling.

If you’re just now realizing how heavy it’s been —
You’re waking up.

👉 Follow along this month if you’re ready to come back to yourself.

Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget...Midlife burnout isn’t just emotional — it’s physical.When you’ve sp...
11/01/2025

Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget...
Midlife burnout isn’t just emotional — it’s physical.
When you’ve spent decades managing, fixing, and caring for others, your nervous system forgets how to rest without fear.
Healing begins when you stop pushing through and start listening in.
This week, try asking your body:
“What do you need to feel safe today?”
Sometimes, peace starts with a single deep breath.…..


10/31/2025

If everyone else’s needs come first, your system isn’t strong — it’s overloaded.

You can’t keep pouring from a nervous system running on fumes.

You’re allowed to pause.
You’re allowed to rest.
You’re allowed to stop fixing what isn’t yours to hold.

Burnout doesn’t always look like collapse — sometimes it looks like competence stretched too thin.

Before you give another automatic “yes,” pause and ask:
Does this choice honor me too?

👉 Follow along this month as we unlearn burnout, rebuild trust, and take our peace back — one boundary at a time. 🤍

If you’ve ever felt guilty for saying no, you’re not alone.Most of us were raised to believe that being kind meant being...
10/30/2025

If you’ve ever felt guilty for saying no, you’re not alone.

Most of us were raised to believe that being kind meant being available.

But boundaries aren’t selfish — they’re self-respect in action.

Every time you honor what feels right for you, you’re teaching your nervous system that safety doesn’t mean silence.

This week, give yourself permission to pause, protect your peace, and let guilt be your old teacher, not your guide...

Tell me — what’s one boundary you’re working on holding this month? 💛

👉 Follow me this month if you’re ready to stop people-pleasing and start reclaiming you.

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Issaquah, WA
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