Arjan Makar Life and Relationship Coaching

12/22/2025

Seasons Greetings and New Coaching Offerings for Women AND Men!

On Thursday, January 8th I will be starting an ongoing Group Coaching for Women Relationship Alchemy and Clarity! The first meeting is free! We will meet 2X a month, on Thursdays at 5:45pm Via Zoom Investment: $47/mo. Relationship Clarity for Women Through Group Coaching! There are real challenges t...

12/20/2025

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12/19/2025

Men — by now, many of you can feel that despite the privileges you may hold, our culture has handed you deeply confusing and limiting ideas about what it means to be a man. From early on, you were taught to disconnect from your inner world, avoid vulnerability, and equate strength with self-suppression. Even well-intentioned spiritual spaces often add to the confusion, talking about “divine masculine energy” as if you don’t already carry a full spectrum of masculine and feminine qualities within you.
The result? Even genuinely kind, good men often feel unseen or unappreciated in their relationships... not because they lack care, but because disconnection from self makes deep connection with a partner difficult.
It’s time to define for yourself what it means to live in a male body and to align with your natural strengths, values, and truth.
For the first time, I’m offering a Men’s Coaching Package: a focused, supportive space for you to reconnect with your wisdom, strength, awareness, and integrity. This package includes✨ 3 months of coaching (6 sessions),✨ a $100 discount,✨ and intentional guidance to help you show up more fully in your relationships and your life.✨
If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your identity and start living from clarity and self-trust, this is your invitation. Reach out to learn more or claim your spot.

12/18/2025

I want to be part of the solution, not add to the growing polarization between men and women. Of course we’re confused and angry — capitalism and patriarchy have shaped our ideas about romance for generations, and in the process, everyone has been disempowered. What we were taught about love and partnership simply isn’t working anymore.
We are being asked to create a new paradigm for love and intimacy , one rooted in clarity, choice, and authenticity, rather than defaulting to prescribed roles or resigning ourselves to being alone. In this moment, a commitment to a fulfilling romantic relationship is a revolutionary act. It requires two people who have consciously reflected on what truly matters to them and who show up from a place of integrity and self-knowledge.
If you’re a WOMAN who feels this call and wants support in creating relationships that feel aligned, nourishing, and real, I invite you to join my Relationship Clarity Women’s Circle. WE BEGIN JANUARY 8th on Zoom, and this space is for women ready to explore love beyond old scripts and into something more honest and life-giving.
If you are a MAN, I have created a MAN PACKAGE with a special discount on 3 months (6 sessions) of coaching. DM me for details!

12/17/2025

Women’s Relationship Clarity coaching circle begins Thursday January 8th at 5:45 with a free session. Comment CLARITY and I’ll send you the zoom link!

Going forward we will meet twice a month for group coaching, support and exploration of intimacy that begins with YOU! $47/month with discounts available for registering for 3 months.

Relationship Clarity for Women Through Group Coaching!

There are real challenges to romance in this day and age. Many of us know exactly what we don’t want—but haven’t yet gotten clear on what we truly do want. As women, we care deeply about our relationships—romantic and otherwise—yet we’re navigating a cultural moment full of mixed messages about how to express that caring without abandoning ourselves or ending up disappointed.

And if you’re anything like me, it can feel tempting to throw up your hands and imagine life alone. After all, the current cultural zeitgeist tells us that women flourish solo... so why not choose that path?

Here’s why: because it’s not genuinely empowering to suppress our desire for intimate partnership. Our hearts are wired for connection. We can build beautiful, full lives on our own, but many of us won’t feel fully expressed until we honor our longing for a meaningful, aligned relationship—and learn how to work with that longing in a healthy, grounded way.

That’s why I’m inviting you to join me—and a community of thoughtful, growth-oriented women—in a group coaching journey dedicated to exploring your deepest desires, clarifying what’s truly possible in partnership, and creating a path forward with intention.

We begin in If this resonates, I’d love for you to join us. Your clarity, your longing, and your evolution belong here.

12/16/2025

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12/16/2025

For generations, women have been taught to accommodate, stay quiet, and put everyone else first. Men, meanwhile, have been taught to disconnect from their emotions and avoid vulnerability. These patriarchal teachings have been unfair to everyone involved, and now we are living with the consequences. We are more polarized than ever. I know very few couples who feel genuinely nourished by their relationships, and even fewer people who describe dating as a good experience. I’m watching men and women retreat from one another, and it’s heartbreaking.
At the same time, women are becoming more empowered. Because we were raised to be relational, many of us have deep bonds with other women and with our families that provide real support. Because emotional expression was allowed—even expected—we often have greater access to our inner worlds, even while living in systems that privilege men. Women are setting boundaries, choosing themselves, and developing the capacity for honest self-reflection. This is vital and necessary work.
And yet, there is a growing tension.
As women grow, the gap between the s*xes can widen. Some women have chosen to opt out of partnership with men altogether, turning inward and cultivating self-connection as a path to fulfillment. For many, this is healing and liberating.
But for those of us who still long for a deeply connected, pair-bonded relationship, this doesn’t feel like the end of the story. We don’t want to abandon love...we want to relearn how to meet one another in it. We want relationships that honor our wholeness, invite vulnerability, and allow for repair.
This kind of partnership doesn’t happen by accident. It requires unlearning old patterns, practicing new skills, and being held in community as we find our way. This is the heart of the work I do.
✨ You’re invited to the Relationship Clarity Coaching Circle for Women ✨
A supportive space to explore what you want in relationship, clarify your boundaries, and reconnect with the possibility of love—without self-abandonment.
🗓 FREE First Meeting: Thursday, January 8th
⏰ 5:45 PM
If this speaks to you—if you’re not willing to give up on love but know something has to change—I would love to have you join us.

12/10/2025

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12/09/2025

Relationship Clarity for Women Through Group Coaching!
There are real challenges to romance in this day and age. Many of us know exactly what we don’t want—but haven’t yet gotten clear on what we truly do want. As women, we care deeply about our relationships—romantic and otherwise—yet we’re navigating a cultural moment full of mixed messages about how to express that caring without abandoning ourselves or ending up disappointed.
And if you’re anything like me, it can feel tempting to throw up your hands and imagine life alone. After all, the current cultural zeitgeist tells us that women flourish solo... so why not choose that path?
Here’s why: because it’s not genuinely empowering to suppress our desire for intimate partnership. Our hearts are wired for connection. We can build beautiful, full lives on our own, but many of us won’t feel fully expressed until we honor our longing for a meaningful, aligned relationship—and learn how to work with that longing in a healthy, grounded way.
That’s why I’m inviting you to join me—and a community of thoughtful, growth-oriented women—in a group coaching journey dedicated to exploring your deepest desires, clarifying what’s truly possible in partnership, and creating a path forward with intention.
We begin in January with a free online gathering. Details to come!
If this resonates, I’d love for you to join us. Your clarity, your longing, and your evolution belong here.

11/26/2025

There is only so much an individual can shift alone.
What truly carries us forward—especially in the times ahead
is the quiet strength of our communities
and the tenderness of the bonds between us.

And those bonds are shaped not just by what we intend,
but by how we are received… our actual impact.
So often we cling to our intentions,
hoping they will absolve us from the ache of having hurt someone.
But love asks something braver:
to notice when our impact misses the mark,
to own the harm without collapsing into shame,
and to offer repair with an open heart.

This kind of accountability is not a punishment
it is a devotion.
A way of honoring the people we walk with,
and softening toward the person we are becoming.

In my program, we practice this art
learning to repair gracefully,
to love honestly,
and to strengthen the communities we belong to.

11/25/2025

This is a rewrite of an older blog post. Posting again because it's proving to be the best advice and hardest to follow!

I really do believe we’re evolving as a species. One of the clearest signs is the surge of relationship wisdom on social media. I often think about how much I could have used all those conversations about attachment, love languages, and trauma bonding when I was younger. It’s encouraging to see us questioning old relationship norms and creating space for new ways of connecting.

One big shift I’m noticing is that people are slowing down—questioning quick commitments and wanting to build lives where partnership sits alongside friendships, passions, and personal well-being. But what does “going slow” actually look like? To me, it means nurturing a connection in a way that allows a true foundation to form. A few ways to do that:

Wait to be s*xual (if you want to).

This isn’t about morality. There’s nothing wrong with sharing pleasure early on. But if you’re seeking long-term partnership, waiting can help you sense what other forms of connection exist—and build some delicious anticipation. It creates space for conversations about what s*x means to each of you and lets emotional and intellectual bonds grow.

Include each other’s friends.

Bringing friends into the early stages of dating reveals so much about who a person is. Friend groups reflect values, lifestyle, and support systems. Plus, being around people who know you can ease the intensity of early dating. Instead of asking friends what they think of your date, try asking how you seem when you’re with them.

Commit in stages.

Our culture often jumps from first date to “couple” without clarifying what commitment means. Rushing builds a shaky foundation—especially when people lean on each other to fill emotional or financial gaps. Ideally, commitment unfolds gradually: first shared agreements, then practical conversations about future logistics, and only later longer-term intentions like living together or marriage.

Keep doing the things you love.

Falling in love can be intoxicating, and it’s easy to let everything else slide. But your interests, rituals, and relationships are part of what made you you in the first place. Keep nurturing them. They stay essential to your well-being and to the health of the relationship.

Spend time alone.

A bit of solitude helps you stay connected to your own values and desires. When we care for someone, we naturally absorb some of their perspectives; alone time helps you integrate what fits and stay grounded in yourself.

What ideas do you have to not get swept up in the anxiety and hormone rush of a new relationship?