12/11/2025
One of the ways we help women and folx in our community is by providing support through relationship abuse. Abuse can look very different than physical abuse or domestic violence.
Here are some common signs of relationship abuse, as provided by UNWOMEN
If you are experiencing any of these signs, please know that you are not alone, and there is help and hope!
Send us a message if you are ready to start your journey of safety and personal sovereignty.
-Your partner keeps track of everything you do. They monitor where you are and who you are with at all times. They prevent or discourage you from seeing friends, family, or going to work or school.
-You partner insists that you reply right away to their texts, emails, and calls, and demands to know your passwords to social media sites, email, and other accounts.
-An abusive partner may act jealous, including constantly accusing you of cheating. -They may attempt to control how you spend money and your use of medications or birth control. They may make everyday decisions for you, such as what you wear or eat.
-They may be demeaning. They may put you down by insulting your appearance, intelligence, or interests. They may try to humiliate you in front of others and attempt to destroy your property or things that you care about.
-An abusive partner may act angry or have a quick or unpredictable temper, so you never know what might cause a problem. They may blame you for their violent outbursts and physically harm or threaten harm to you, themselves, and members of your household, including children or pets.
-They may hurt you physically, such as hitting, beating, pushing, shoving, punching, slapping, kicking, or biting. They may use, or threaten to use, a weapon against you.
-They may be s*xually abusive, including r**e or other forced s*xual activity. They may incorrectly assume that consent for a s*x act in the past means that you must participate in the same acts in the future. They may also incorrectly assume that consent for one activity means consent for increased levels of intimacy. For example, an abuser may assume that a kiss should lead to s*x every time.
-An abusive partner may threaten to turn you in to authorities for illegal activity if you report the abuse, or if you resist.
-They may also threaten to share private, explicit or intimate images or videos to shame, blackmail or coerce you.
-An abusive partner may use digital technologies to control and abuse you including through spyware, surveillance or location tracking devices. This can also extend to smart home technology such as video cameras, locks, lights or thermostats.
-They may also hack your personal social media accounts or impersonate you to gain access to your accounts, set up fake social media accounts and harass you online.
