904 Narcissist Survivor

11/20/2025

11/16/2025

Abusers constantly tell you who you are and what is wrong with you in condescending confusing statements wrapped as concern or trying to help you. Narcissists create confusion and chaos to control.

11/15/2025

It’s the plausability of the things the narc says that keeps you second guessing yourself.

11/11/2025

11/11/2025

11/05/2025

This is why every person that has lived through a narcissistic abusive relationship always gives the advice - just leave as it only gets worse over time.

10/30/2025

This video made me remember when I was with the narc, I noticed many times that our breathing would never sync. My intuition knew something was off as I would actually try to breath his same pattern of inhale/exhale as it was odd to me and every time I would be starving for air and wondering how he breathed that way. I still don’t understand it but this video explains that my intuition picked up on the red flag and how out of sync we were and how much he disregulated my nervous system. The awkward mismatched breathing patterns, awkward hand holding, awkward walking next to each other, etc. All red flags my intuition recognized as being off. It’s so obvious since I’ve been with my boyfriend that my nervous system is calm and it never feels off. We know instinctively when we are in danger even when we can’t quite figure it fully out. Always trust your gut.

10/20/2025

10/04/2025

Exactly. The covert narcissist kept his mask pretty flawlessly intact for 3 years and then the severe verbal and emotional abuse started and kept accelerating until he would sense he pushed too far and then he would love bomb, even for extensive periods, to ensure he had successfully kept me hooked on hope that things could get better and back to how they were in the beginning. People always want to blame you for staying as long as you did but they have no clue how much of a grooming predator most abusers are. My brain couldn’t comprehend the cycle/pattern of abuse because it was based on my mental state of him just taking me far enough to crush a little bit of my spirit and then, when he pushed to far, he would love bomb. Confusion and chaos with periods of putting you on a pedestal is the pattern you should look for when determining if you are in an abusive relationship. Even our mutual friends who he flawlessly groomed/manipulated with my smear campaign couldn’t even recognize how he played them just the same lol. If our close friends didn’t spot the red flags and still can’t see them clearly, then how was I supposed to?! I’m thankful that I have never blamed myself like so many other survivors unfortunately do. For me, a few days out of the relationship, I clearly could see it was all intentional acts to hurt me and I accepted the truth - that he is a pure evil abuse predator. When you come from pure intentions, you can’t even fathom that the chaos/confusion is intentional. Only survivors/thrivers understand how well they groom/manipulate to cover their tracks. We all get blindsided. It’s just that some people fortunately never get sucked in with one to understand and accept that many people they are friends with and related to are abusers behind closed doors AND that they would not easily spot the abuse either.

10/04/2025

Trust that internal ping that something is off like you owe them something. That is your intuition letting you know it’s manipulation even if they seem nice. Manipulators are often times charming and so you spot it based on how talking to them disturbs your internal peace.

09/25/2025

09/22/2025