Just Love Therapy, LLC.

01/24/2024

Want a happier life, remember 5S-G.

keep it Simple, don't overthink.
be Sincere in life
Suspend negativity
Success needs to be acknowledged
Self, treat yourself as you treat others
Finally, live with Gratitude for those around you.

11/28/2022

https://www.justlovetherapyllc.com/post/the-gremlins-of-our-lives

Everyone suffers from gremlins. You. Me. Your parents. Your friends. Your partner(s). Even your children. Everyone. So, what are gremlins? I refer to these things as the little sh*ts that just want to cause chaos or make our lives harder. Some examples of external gremlins: A horrible boss An abusiv...

09/01/2022

Consent can be a tricky topic to talk about in s*x education curriculums, but it doesn't have to be. In this hilarious and relatable talk, s*x educator and TED Fellow Kaz offers a fresh look at teaching young people about the core principles of consent -- and shows how demystifying this topic leads ...

08/10/2021

An older article, but still a good one.

As more people embrace their inner ki****er, doctors need to know the details to provide quality health care. This… can be complicated.

05/19/2021

This is a topic that many individuals struggle with. This is a complicated topic that has multiple issues all rolled up into one overwhelming problem for any relationship.

I specialize in both intimacy recovery and ethical non-monogamous relationships. Yes, that even includes helping people learn how to open their relationship up. If you are in a relationship and struggling with this same topic, please fill free to reach out to me and schedule a free informational visit to see if I would be a good fit for your therapy needs.

He’s my best friend and I would never leave him. But I feel bereft after he withdrew all s*xual intimacy from me years ago

10/14/2020

Another really valid, but difficult question.

"As a marriage therapist, when do you tell your patients it is time to get a divorce?"

My answer. "The simple answer is I don't. I am not here to sit in judgment of another person's life. I don't press upon anyone what I think that they should or should not do. No matter how dysfunctional someone's marriage or relationship is, it still is their relationship, not mine. And as long as they are willing to put in the work, there is the possibility of a better relationship.

That, however, does not mean I am trying to save every marriage or that I believe every marriage needs to be saved. There are some absolutely toxic relationships out there. One of my personal goals when helping any relationship is the safety and well being of my clients. If the client thinks that means ending a relationship, then that is OK. I will do my best to help them do so safely.

Now to whomever sent that, thank you for reaching out to me. I don't know what you are going through. I would invite and encourage you to actually talk to a marriage counselor. If you have a particular faith, there are counselors and therapists who adhere to that faith.

If you don't want a particular faith-based therapist, there are a lot of therapists like myself, who are secular. I personally cater towards the non-traditional relationships and those who want to rebuild intimacy. The point is, there is someone out there who specializes in what you are going through.

09/30/2020

I specialize in numerous issues and demographics. The topic of s*x is a passion of mine, but that is actually not that hard of a topic to talk about. I have found that most people, once they are comfortable, will open up about their struggles to have a s*xually fulfilling life.

For me though, the hardest specialty I deal with is the topic of grief and bereavement. As a therapist, part of my job is climbing into the figurative hole that a person is in. I help the client by being there with them as they face some of the most gut wrenching emotional pain a person could ever imagine.

While most competent therapists are trained on how to be empathic, grief work is a truly special form of therapy. Not every therapist would be good at bereavement counseling, just as not every therapist would be good at dealing with addictions, severe mental health issues, or personality disorders.

This past week alone I had two different client interactions that drove home how vital it is to find a counselor or therapist who specialized in the issues you face.

09/29/2020

https://www.justlovetherapyllc.com/covid-deaths-grief-support-group

No matter how you look at it, COVID-19 has had an everlasting impact on our society.  One of the most heart wrenching impacts has been tremendous death toll.  The people who have died leave behind many loved friends and family members.  Those loved ones now are trying to grieve why the rest of th...

09/28/2020

My personal views on s*x education. Sorry, 'work' safety...

Workplace safety I am not going to talk about s*x education. I am going to talk about “work.” Imagine, if you will, you live in a society where everyone at some point wants to go to work. They may at first go to ‘work’ on their own. Eventually they may decide to carpool with someone to ‘wo...

09/24/2020

Had a wonderful question come in last night.

Email: Hello, I have been married to my wonderful wife for the past 15 years. This is actually my second marriage, but that is besides the point. I love my wife very much and would do almost anything for her. However, I no longer feel s*xually attracted to her. If I am honest, I don't think I ever really was s*xually attracted to her, or many other women. I am tired of hiding who I am from everyone. How do I come out as gay to her and still save my marriage?

My answer:

Thank you for reaching out. That is a very difficult and delicate situation. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer. Every couple and relationship is a little different. I would advise both of you to go to see a couple's therapist who specializes in LGBTQ clients. Couples therapy does not have to wait until one partner has a foot out the door. Therapy can help overcome many life transitions and challenges.

That being said, I think it is also important to provide some things.
1. Many couples have faced this very issue. Some have ended in divorce, others have decided to stay married and have made it work. I imagine that you are probably both scared and frustrated with the whole situation. This is revealing a big part of yourself and you are opening yourself up to either be embraced or punched.

2. I don't know if anyone has ever told you this before, but s*xual orientation is not a stagnant binary. Meaning, it is not you are either straight or gay and that is it. It is better to think of s*xual orientation as a fluid spectrum. A person may (or may not) find that as their life changes, who they are s*xually attracted to changes as well. Yes this even includes gender specific attractions.

If you are in the Jacksonville area, and want to talk to a therapist either before or after you declare your orientation to your spouse, give me a call. If your not in or near Jacksonville, there very well may be a competent therapist near you to talk to.

09/12/2020

S*xual Bereavement is a form of grieving. Specifically, it is the grieving of s*xual intimacy with your partner. Like other forms of grief, talking to others with a similar loss can be helpful.

Starting Tuesday September 29th, I will be offering an in-person female only s*xual bereavement support group.

Wednesday September 30th, I will be offering an in-person male only s*xual bereavement support group.

Message me on here or call me at (904) 256-4904 for more information.