01/05/2026
I am officially enrolled in the 9-month Integrative Thanatology: Death Education Counselor Program with the , led by ! This has been on my radar for a while now!
For a long time, I’ve understood in a knowing/intuitive way that death and grief sit at the core of my work. I tend to have a feel before I ever have the words. Not just literal death, but the metaphorical deaths within life. The endings, the transitions, the unravelings, the identities we shed, the seasons we outgrow. Every new beginning asks something to die. And every threshold carries grief.
I first found Cole in 2020 when I was grieving the death of my soul dog, Otis. I must have stumbled into her work through that loss (hey algorithm) because she also grieving the death of her soul dog Ruby. The world was shut down, I was grieving my dog, grieving the collapse of my early massage career, grieving the life I thought I was building… and grieving the world in front of me that was suddenly unrecognizable.
Cole introduced me to the language of shadow loss which she describes as the loss of something, not someone. And it restructured my entire understanding of myself.
Shadow loss gave words to a kind of ache I had never been able to articulate. It became the foundation of the way I hold clients in bodywork, now birthwork, and in all the liminal places in between.
Because the truth is: People are grieving everywhere. Daily. In ways our culture doesn’t even recognize as grief.
Death and the fear of death shapes everything. It drives decisions. It drives avoidance. It drives the urgency to stay busy, stay numb, stay “fine.” Avoidance of grief is, in so many ways, avoidance of life.
Lately, I’ve been holding more grief than I ever have. It’s deep to the core of my being, heavy, full-body grief. Yet, no one has died. That’s the power of shadow loss.Having language for it has been life-saving.
And now… being trained to walk with others through these terrains feels like the most honest extension of everything I already do. I am so excited for this cohort to begin 🤍💜✨