07/01/2024
We don't see things as *they* are, we see them as *we* are, right?
I keep seeing that video with the girl asking her bf to peel her an orange and he responds with something like "I don't help you because I'm trying to build you up as a female" AND THEN "you're not even that special" đŗ
It literally crushes me that people like that exist and at the end of the post, i'll tell you why.
If I said "can you peel this orange for me baby?" my husband would be confused, but he would do it happily, and probably steal a slice. If he said "I'm so hungry, but I don't know what to eat," I would help him look in the cabinets and offer to cook and he might say yes or he might want to cook it himself if it's meat. It's just not that hard to be nice to your partner.
I feel so bad and heartbroken for people who are aggressive and mean like the man in this video because it shows *that's* how he was spoken to growing up and he has never healed that inner voice, or his inner child's rage. Every inner belief is taught, every behavior has a thought or a belief guiding it. He was likely taught that to ask for help will or should result in ridiculing the person until they do it themselves, and that you're actually "helping them" or "teaching them some kind of lesson." In reality, small acts of service make a society worth living in, they are part of the reason humans are pack animals, they are something you can do no matter your age or condition or if you have money or anything else. Being raised unkindly will result in a backwards world view that being cruel is appropriate bc it makes the other "tough," when we should not have to build toughness through cruelty and abuse to survive in the first place.
When you are born in a burning house, you will believe the whole world is on fire.