02/09/2026
Sometimes clients book a session when they’re considering a job change.
I’m upfront that I don’t advise them on whether they should accept or decline an offer. What I can do is listen, ask clarifying questions, and help them arrive at a decision they can act on with confidence.
Many clients also share advice they receive from well-meaning loved ones. It often sounds like:
“If you don’t like the job, you can always quit.”
That’s true. It is an option.
But this kind of reassurance can clash with other deeply ingrained messages like:
“Winners never quit, and quitters never win.”
For anxious high performers, losing doesn’t feel like an option. So “you can always quit” isn’t comforting. It creates tension and hesitation, making new opportunities feel riskier than they already are.
My work often involves helping clients reframe that support into language that sounds more like this:
• I can make a decision based on what I know today. If I learn new information, I can make a new decision.
• If this job isn’t for me, it doesn’t mean the job or I failed. It simply wasn’t an opportunity that helped me grow in the way I intended.
Clarity reduces anxiety. Self-permission restores momentum.
Are you considering a new opportunity right now?
What questions are you asking yourself about it?
