Intimate Partner Betrayal Alliance

03/14/2026

03/13/2026

When you know better, you can do better.

03/12/2026

Ten years ago, life as I knew it stopped.

A line was drawn across the timeline of my life and everything became split. Life before I knew and life after discovering a devastating betrayal.

I was 46 years old with a life I loved and then in an instant, it shattered. A photographer happened to catch this photo the very night I found out. I could hardly breathe.

If you’re there right now, it may feel like your future has been stolen. But it hasn’t.

You will cry and you will grieve and you may feel like the unfair hardships and heartbreaks and chaos will always be there. But slowly, you’ll realize God has not forgotten you or abandoned you. The Lord is in the process of healing you, growing you, and redeeming what the enemy thought he could use to take you out.

Healing and moving forward doesn’t mean you understand why this all happened. Healing means you refuse to get stuck in all the pain.

If I could go back and talk to myself on this day ten years ago, I would say don’t get swallowed up by the terror before you. You will survive this. You will get through this. This heartbreak will not break the best parts of you.

Fight for your healing with everything you’ve got. Stay close to Jesus and the people who truly love Him.

And one day you’ll be surprised by how much the Lord helped you all along the way. Even when you couldn’t see it, He was walking you toward redemption. And though this shattering was part of your story… it won’t be the whole story. It absolutely will not be the whole story. You’ll see.

03/11/2026

Thanks for the laugh !

I try really hard not to have regrets. Getting a divorce is not easy, but neither is staying in a life-sucking marriage. At some point, we all have to decide what freedom is worth. I’ve decided that to me, it’s worth everything!

03/11/2026

🤢I can’t believe I used to like this book. Reading this through a new lens is so disgusting.

Does Emerson Eggerichs even LIKE women?

Seriously, look at all the misogynistic tropes he’s included here—the pointy finger, the rolling her eyes, the hands on her hips.

Maybe women just sometimes get upset! And maybe they get upset when men so obviously hate them.

We recently produced a 3-part video docuseries on Emerson Eggerichs’ book Love & Respect, and the major problems with it.

But did you know that he ALSO has a parenting book, called Mothers and Sons, telling mothers that they should respect their sons? And that’s where this gem comes in.

I guess part of respecting your son is teaching your son that women are harpies.

We can do better than this. Let’s not take our advice from people who so obviously hate us. Let’s listen to people who act and sound like Jesus, okay?

Because Jesus didn’t treat women like problems to be handled or people to be corrected. He treated us as full people, made in His image. And we matter.

Check out our books, especially The Marriage You Want and The Great S*x Rescue, to correct this whole way of seeing women.

03/08/2026

03/06/2026

This is a wake up call! How many times do we need to hear the same message before we do something about it. It’s time for a change. The next generation deserves better.

03/05/2026

“The wounds of trauma are not merely those caused by the perpetrators of violence and exploitation; the actions or inactions of bystanders—all those who are complicit or who blame the victims—often cause even deeper wounds.”

— Judith Lewis Herman, Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice (New York: Basic Books, 2023).

03/04/2026

Betrayed partners know! Intimate partner betrayal is not “just cheating”. It’s a traumatic violation that causes havoc to your nervous system.

Repost from .adamdell
•
If you’ve experienced interpersonal betrayal, you may experience PTSD as well! Betrayal is a deeply personal, intensely emotional, and grievous offense. What was shared with someone before the betrayal—mutual trust, vulnerability, finances, hopes, and perhaps a bonding together in love—is gone.

You were innocently loyal, while another person, unexpectedly but deliberately, caused you great harm. Betrayal decimates the relationship, your mind, and emotions as well. It causes you to never want to open yourself to another again.

The question that eventually presents itself is this: Will you decide to trust or love another person that comes into your life, or will you live emotionally cut off from people? It’s difficult to open yourself again in the midst of such darkness, but gentle truth can illuminate your way. Whether through therapy or a safe, loving person, truth always brings with it the opportunity for life. Your hope can be restored and you can heal. Your very best life is found in loving relationships, not in isolation.

03/02/2026

Women’s National Anthem
Congratulations! You’ve just been nominated to pick a song to serve as the women’s national anthem! What
“out of the box”, unhinged song are you picking? The more unhinged the better!

03/01/2026

It’s not “just cheating”.

03/01/2026

The first edition was great! If you need a book that is safe and validates what betrayal feels like, this is the one.