Kelsey Barrett, M.S., LPC

02/23/2024

https://www.ashestoemberscounseling.com/post/coping-skills-abcs-j-q

In doing my coping skill series of blog posts I realized, that a majority of you are probably looking for a coping skill list. I think lists can be helpful, but all of these skills need context. If you want more I've written other blog posts on coping skills that might be helpful, and I plan to cont...

10/05/2022

08/22/2022

A closer look at the sand tray miniature.

08/20/2022

Sandtray is such a beautiful way to access our right brains through our senses. This visual form of emotional processing can be so powerful and raw.

08/03/2022

https://www.ashestoemberscounseling.com/post/finding-the-best-counselor-for-you-in-your-area

1. Find a fit of personality It is more about trusting your therapist than likability, but the research is clear the therapeutic relationship is the most important component for healing. Everything else will flow from this piece. Don't be afraid to call or meet with a counselor to see if you vibe, a...

07/28/2022

Self Care, but make it next level

Blog Post:
https://www.ashestoemberscounseling.com/post/self-care-but-make-it-next-level

07/23/2022

Another beautiful explanation of boundaries.

05/11/2022

The only thing I would add is that co-regulation is mainly about bringing your calm to a situation rather than joining the chaos or the feeling.

You do not always need to touch to co-regulate. Presence can be enough. During peak tantrum touching my daughter & sometimes even looking at her does not work. But I still co-regulate through it.

I think age also matters for touch.

Also co-regulation is the ideal, but if you become so angry that you are going to scream or hit then you may have to take a step away first to regulate yourself. This is the same as setting a baby in a crib for a few minutes and walking away if you are overwhelmed and are thinking about shaking the baby. Tapping out to self regulate is ok, especially when we know the most helpful thing is to co-regulate. The goal in those moments is to first do no harm and second to help.

04/16/2022

If self care is so simple why talk about it…

02/22/2022

I’m living for this boundary series KC Davis is doing right now. I love her and highly recommend her book, How to Keep House While Drowning.

She explains her view on boundaries is a bit different. A boundary is something you fully have control over, and each video gives examples of how you can enforce boundaries without jumping into someone else’s hula hoop and controlling them.