11/11/2025
𝗖𝗢𝗠𝗣𝗟𝗜𝗔𝗡𝗖𝗘 𝘃𝘀. 𝗥𝗘𝗟𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡𝗦𝗛𝗜𝗣
What other differences can you think of between compliance-based approaches and Relationship-based approaches?
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𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Focuses on controlling behaviors
𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Focuses on understanding the sources of behaviors
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𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Blame is on the child (how can the child change the behavior?)
𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Ownership is on the adult (how can I change my behavior to be a better support?)
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𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Forces child to mask or hide inner experiences to comply.
𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Validates and supports each unique inner experience.
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𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Use of external forms of motivation.
𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Builds internal motivation through self-understanding.
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𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Rooted in power hierarchy (please me to earn reward).
𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Rooted in safe relationships (Do well because you feel safe).
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𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Forms conditional self-worth (Good Behavior = Good Child)
𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Forms unconditional self-worth (your feelings are valid).
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𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: May see immediate results to the detriment of mental health.
𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽-𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱: Gradual results with positive long-term impact on health.
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