Circle of Influence

11/15/2024

Taking a look at yourself in the mirror and discovering an aspect of your self you don't like is hard. Harder still is accepting and loving it as a part of you while also acknowledging how people see it and react to it, still hurts.

Being able to sit with the discomfort of an insecurity, accepting the aspect that causes the insecurity as a part of who you are, is a sign of good mental health and self acceptance. It does not take away the pain or hurt caused by the insecurity, it gives you an opportunity to love yourself that much more.

11/01/2024

08/09/2024

Seek to find those that add to your life. Those that make you feel good about yourself. Those that are honest and understanding with you while also being compassionate. Those that can call you on your BS with love. Learn to avoid those who tell you who you are, tell you how you feel about things, disregard how their behavior effected you. Those that make you out to be the villain, the mean one, the narcissist simply because you told them "no."

Put your energy and attention into the former, limit how much you give to the former. Always take outside perspective inward to challenge the idea of who you are. Some of it will be founded, some of it won't.

05/18/2024

Of the things that bring you joy, allows you to practice mindfulness, and helps you feel calm find a way to do it on a budget... Plants can get expensive! I pick up the ones that are marked down, thrift or gifted pots, and buy soil when it's on sale. That way I'm always prepared to re"home" a struggling plant.

There is no greater sense of joy, satisfaction, and validation as when those plants come back to life.

05/16/2024

If supporting you hurts me, I'm not supporting you. I'm enabling your hurtful behavior.

05/07/2024

The most important skill we can practice on our journey of self healing is "repair." Seeing and understanding how our actions hurt others, even if unintentional. Being able to take accountability and apologizing for how we wronged another. This can also look like forgiving someone who has wronged you or hurt you in your past. Although they hurt you, you understand why they did what they did, and can let go of the anger and hurt it caused.

Forgiveness is not for them. It is for you. You can forgive them and never tell them. You can forgive them and still want nothing to do with them. "Repair" isn't about fixing realtionships, it's about mending your emotional wounds.

04/26/2024

It's hard to keep going after you fail. It's hard to continue to pick yourself up when the patterns on constant repeat. It gets old and you get worn out. Tired. Frustrated. Overwhelmed. Know that you are not alone. Know that there are others who are giving their best and finding, time after time, that it's just not good enough. THIS is where your resilience is tested and is where it will crack. Sometimes you wish the world would just stop moving forward so you don't have to keep fighting to stay a float.

There is no right answer, there is not fix. When you fail, stay down. Cry. Scream into the void. Curse the universe. Hold yourself. Feed yourself. Then when you've nothing left to give, your voice horse, and your mouth dry, GET BACK UP.

04/23/2024

Discovering the power of memories while looking through almost two decades of photos. I smiled, I reminisced, and I cried. A snapshot of my life's journey unfolded in front of me, showcasing where I've been and the incredible experiences I've had. My photos have reminded me to embrace the present with gratitude and look forward to the future with hope and excitement.