02/04/2026
Iâm two years behind on DMs, and if I havenât gotten back to you personally, I want to explain why.
If I tried to respond to everyone one-on-one, it would take an unfeasible amount of hours every single week.
In fact, for the first two to three years of doing this work, I did respond to everyone personally. It took hours every week, and Iâm not even sure those replies were always the most helpful for the person on the other end.
Since then, things have grown, and now no matter how hard I tried, I simply wouldnât be able to keep up.
What Iâve come to realize is that I can either focus on supporting many people through my YouTube channel, my recovery program (Brain Retraining 101), and other free resources, or spend nearly all of my time replying individually.
Many creators at this stage opt to hire individuals or teams to reply for them, and I honestly think that can be a smart and caring solution. Everyone gets a response and everyone feels seen.
Iâm not saying my way is better. Itâs simply the path Iâve chosen. I want anything that comes from this account to be written by me, and realistically, hiring someone to help with this isnât an option for me right now.
I truly hope modern tools will eventually help me respond more personally in a way thatâs sustainable. Until then, please know this:
If I havenât replied, itâs not because I donât care. I see you. I read many messages. Iâm just one human.
If youâd like support, please check my bio for the ways I share recovery information and support:
- Weekly newsletter
- Brain Retraining 101 (online recovery program)
- YouTube channel with multiple new videos every week
Thank you for your understanding and for being here â¤ď¸