Tanja Fridolfs, MS, LMFT

Tanja Fridolfs,  MS,  LMFT It is my passion to address the whole person and to support you in living a fulfilling and healthy life. This keeps me striving to be the best at what I do.

We will work through tough questions, difficult emotions, relationship growth, choosing healthier options and learning to care for yourself. Feeling stressed, anxious, overwhelmed or depressed can leave a cloud hanging over your life. It is my desire to help you discover what has contributed to this and work together to overcome these issues. Counseling can have a huge impact on the life of an individual or couple as well as the lives of those around them. It is a privilege for me to walk with my clients as they work through tough questions, face difficult emotions, grow in relationship, choose healthier options and learn to care for themselves. Integrative counseling, that takes into consideration the whole person, including your mind, body, faith and relationships is what I’ve grown to embrace. Everything in your life is connected. Each time you make a change in one area, it can impact you significantly. All the little changes add up to big changes over time. Feelings, beliefs, relationships, brain function, faith, physical health, thoughts and past experiences all influence every part of you. Each can play a role in how you feel, how you function and what you are experiencing now. We will work together to determine what areas you would like to improve. There could be just one main issue that needs to be addressed, but life is complicated and often there are many areas that we can work on together to bring health and wholeness. Who I am

I am a therapist that values you as an individual and desires to help you reach a place of peace and fulfillment in your life. Often that can be through counseling, however I offer blogs, videos, a page and newsletter to give you resources and help you decide what is best in your situation. I value the whole person and will help you evaluate each area of your life that could be contributing to your suffering. I believe that your mind, body, faith and relationships are keys to living the life you were made for. Although I love helping others thrive, growing in my faith and supporting my own family are my biggest passions. Being a wife and mom are very important roles in my life. I have been married for 17 years and have 2 children. I am involved and serving in my church community as well. MIND
What you think, the beliefs you have and the thoughts that run through your head, have a great impact on how you feel and behave. This is a somewhat automatic process that we often don’t consider. Learning to be aware of our thoughts and beliefs is the first step in healthy change. After becoming aware, we will begin to work on evaluating if they are true and realizing that you have the ability to change your thoughts, behaviors and feelings. The things you put in your body or deprive your body of, can have a huge impact on your mind as well. A vitamin deficiency, too much sugar, not enough protein or too little movement, just to name a few, can all have an impact on your mind. Improving brain waves can also be an important part of treatment. Brain Paint (neurofeedback) is a scientifically proven way to improve the way you feel and function in the world by improving how your brain operates. It can be helpful for anxiety, depression, ADHD, trauma and many other issues. Click here https://neurofeedbackdefined.com/neurotherapy to see a full list and further explanation. I am excited to have this service as an option for my clients. BODY
I believe that the nutrients and foods we eat (or don’t eat) have a great impact on our overall wellbeing, as well as our emotions and ability to think clearly. This value has led me to many hours of study and training to better understand the relationship around food, our digestive system, nutrients we need, our brain function and our emotions. How we care for our bodies with food, exercise and sleep can have a much greater impact than many people realize. If your body doesn’t have what it needs to function correctly, it will be difficult to achieve your goals. We will consider any changes you may want to make and I will support you in these changes. FAITH
As a person of faith, I recognize that there are many faiths and each person is impacted differently by what they believe. I respect each person’s uniqueness and welcome people of all belief systems. Part of learning about each client and how they were shaped into the person they are today, is taking into consideration their personal beliefs. My Christian faith is a driving force behind who I am and the work I do. My faith has taught me to value individuals, the importance of healthy relationships and caring for our bodies. We need to be in relationship with others to thrive. We also need to nourish our bodies and our souls to be at our best. When we are whole and healthy, we are in a better place to live out the purpose God created us for. I believe the Bible has truth that is applicable to all parts of life and relationships. Discussing how the Bible applies to your situation can be part of therapy if you request this. Each person is created with value and purpose. I would love to help you see the value in yourself and work towards embracing your faith and purpose in all areas of your life. RELATIONSHIPS
We all need relationships. We all need to feel heard, cared for and important. We also need to care for ourselves and care for others. Creating healthy relationships requires vulnerability and humility as well as strength and time. This can be a struggle for many. We will work together to grow important relationships in your life, by learning and practicing healthy ways of interacting with others. Should I stay or should I go? Many people feel stuck with these two options. Staying in a tough marriage or filing for divorce are not your only choices. Similarly, cutting off a relationship with a relative or close friend or continuing to let them walk all over you are not your only choices. It is my hope to help you succeed in your goals and to have healthy relationships. I have seen one person make changes that affect the relationship in dramatic ways. I am also aware that one person cannot do everything. At some point, the other person needs to put in the effort to change. There are times where the best choice may be divorce or cutting ties. Often, well-meaning family and friends try to influence you towards what they think is best. Pressure to make a specific choice is not what you need. We will work together to explore your feelings and relationships. We will look at areas you can grow in and work towards making decisions about what direction you want to go. You will have support in whatever decision you make. We will look at all options from all angles. Once you decide what is best for you, we will move forward. If you decide you want to end your relationship, we will work towards doing that in a healthy way. Although leaving may be the option that is needed, it is not without heartbreak and complications. We will sort through these together. If you decide that you want to stay in your marriage or relationship, we will work on you growing as a person. We will look at new ways to understand your partner or family member and how to communicate more effectively. The efforts of just one person can cause a relationship to become healthier. Relationships work best when both people are engaged and growing, but one person can cause significant change. Please check out my website to find out more. www.tanjafridolfs.com

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5 Ways Anxiety Can Affect Your Physical Health (And What to Do About It)

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Written by: Denisa Cerna

Fact-checked by: Kaija Sander, Ph.D.

We all feel anxious sometimes. In fact, according to some statistics, almost 34% of people are affected by an anxiety disorder at some point during their lifetime.

Once anxiety begins to interfere with your daily life – for example, social anxiety can make it difficult for you to form new friendships whilst a general anxiety disorder could impair your work performance or sleep – you may notice that it impacts your physical health as well.

This is because anxiety is closely tied to stress, a physiological reaction put in motion by the brain’s detection of a threat. Research indicates that the body’s stress response is usually accompanied by an emotional reaction. If the threat is real and imminent, that emotion is fear. If it is potential or anticipated, it’s anxiety.

The continuous activation of the stress response can put your body under duress in more ways than you realize.

Here are the five physical effects of anxiety:

Anxiety might negatively affect your gut

Anxiety can spike blood pressure

Anxiety is linked to poor sleeping patterns

Anxiety may impair the functioning of the immune system

Anxiety can cause muscle tension

How to tame your anxiety

1) Anxiety might negatively affect the gut

Did you know that your brain and your gut exchange messages via the gut-brain axis?

In fact, they impact one another so strongly that inflammation of the gut has been linked to several mental health disorders, including depression and anxiety. What you eat can affect your mood and overall well-being.

And it works the other way around as well.

If your body constantly enters the fight-or-flight state due to anxiety (because your brain detects false threats and you worry too much), your gastrointestinal tract may become inflamed, and you may experience various digestive issues. According to studies, chronic stress is associated with the onset and exacerbation of IBS (irritable bowel syndrome) symptoms.

One question remains, however: how does this happen?

A 2023 study may have found the answer. It shows that when the body is under stress, it releases hormones called glucocorticoids, which then affect neural cells in the gut referred to as enteric glia. These release inflammatory molecules, and as a result, our gut is out of balance.

2) Anxiety can spike blood pressure

When you detect a potential threat, be it a dangerous situation or a scheduled Zoom call with your boss, the HPA axis (hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis) becomes activated. This is the main stress response system in your brain, and it’s in charge of physiological reactions to perceived threats.

One such reaction is the release of a stress hormone called cortisol. Cortisol speeds up your metabolism and spikes your blood pressure, preparing you to fight off a threat or run away from it. This is a very healthy and normal reaction that helps you stay safe.

If your body releases high amounts of cortisol too frequently, however, it could possibly lead to hypertension, which is a condition associated with high or raised blood pressure (140/90 mmHg or higher, according to the WHO).

A 2021 systematic review and meta-analysis confirms this: after having analyzed 59 studies, the authors have found a significant association between anxiety and hypertension.

Moreover, a 2021 study of more than 400 participants discovered that people who have normal blood pressure and high levels of stress detected in their urine were more likely to develop high blood pressure in the next six to seven years.

Higher levels of cortisol were also linked to an increased risk of heart attack and stroke. This is because high blood pressure may damage our arteries, reducing the flow of blood and oxygen into the heart.

3) Anxiety is linked to poor sleeping patterns

About 24 to 36% of people who suffer from insomnia (the trouble of falling or staying asleep) also experience anxiety.

Researchers say that frequent anxiety is essentially a set of false alarms, and since these alarms can be very intense, they may lead to sleep-wake difficulties.

For example, you might struggle to fall asleep because you’re overthinking, or you may wake up in the middle of the night and find it difficult to go back to bed because your worries have triggered you to enter a fight-or-flight state.

The health consequences of sleep disruption and deficiency are plentiful. In the short term, you may experience:

Performance deficits

Cognitive impairment, such as trouble with memory and focus

Mood swings

Increased stress responsivity

Irritability

As for long-term effects, sleep disruption is associated with hypertension, cardiovascular diseases, type 2 diabetes, and weight-related issues, to name a few.

4) Anxiety may impair the functioning of the immune system

The activation of the stress response goes hand in hand with multiple different physiological effects, from the release of cortisol to metabolic changes and visible effects such as increased breathing.

What many of us don’t realize is that it actually also impacts the functioning of our immune system.

Since your body doesn’t know whether you’re about to get injured, it tries to prepare just in case. It increases the blood levels of pro-inflammatory cytokines, kicking off a short-term inflammation response that promotes healing and eliminates pathogens.

Unfortunately, chronic stress caused by frequent anxiety can lead to systemic inflammation, meaning your immune system gets dysregulated and may be more susceptible to some chronic diseases.

5) Anxiety can cause muscle tension

Do you know that feeling when you’re about to do something stressful, such as taking an important exam or jumping down from a safe yet uncomfortable height? Your teeth grind against each other, your hands may ball into fists, and your whole body tenses in anticipation.

This is yet another way that your body tries to guard itself against potential injury and pain, explains the American Psychological Association. Once the anxiety-inducing situation is over, your muscles release the tension, and your body returns to a relaxed state.

When you regularly experience high levels of stress and anxiety, though, your muscles are almost always tense. This may play a large role in other stress-related disorders or pains.

As APA describes, chronic muscle tension is associated with tension-type headaches and migraines due to the tension in the shoulders, neck, and head. You may also feel pain in the lower back.

Muscle tension is such an important part of anxiety that the mental health researcher Dr Olivia Remes categorizes it as a symptom of an anxiety disorder: “The core of anxiety is fear and restlessness,” she tells Cambridge University. “An example is excessive worrying. If you worry so much that you start to have muscle tension, or if it interferes with your sleep, relationships, or work – that’s when you might have an anxiety disorder.”

How to Tame Your Anxiety: 4 Tips

If you think you may suffer from an anxiety disorder or find it challenging to handle your anxiety symptoms, remember that the best course of action is to consult a mental health professional.

Together, you will be able to create a treatment plan tailored to your specific situation.

The following information could potentially help you along the journey, but it is not a one-size-fits-all solution.

Tip 1: Eat a healthier diet: As discussed above, your diet can have a fundamental impact on your anxiety levels due to the brain-gut connection. According to a 2021 scoping review, higher levels of anxiety are associated with a high-fat diet, as well as a high intake of sugar and refined carbohydrates. Eating more fruits and vegetables, omega-3 fatty acids, probiotics, and getting all important micronutrients is linked to less anxiety.

Tip 2: Get active: Research shows that exercise offers multiple benefits. For example, it could reduce anxiety sensitivity due to frequent exposure to similar physical symptoms (e.g., rapid heartbeat), it could play an empowering role when it comes to your ability to handle potential threats, and it may also be a helpful distraction technique.

Tip 3: Dance it out: Dance movement therapy (DMT) has been shown to decrease depression and anxiety. DMT can be practiced with a professional, however, you can also try putting on headphones and dancing at home when you’re feeling particularly anxious. Conscious dance, for example, is a form of unchoreographed and mindful movement that reduces feelings of anxiety and promotes self-expression. Since dancing is so closely tied to creativity, it could provide an outlet for emotions and stress in a way that traditional workouts might not.

Tip 4: Try neurofeedback therapy: Neurofeedback training improves emotional self-regulation by optimizing brainwave activity (brain frequencies that are associated with specific mental states). For example, you can learn how to reduce your anxiety by training your brain to enter a relaxed and meditative frequency. Nowadays, this kind of training can be done via apps and EEG technology provided by specialists such as Myndlift in the comfort of your home.

Conclusion

When you think about it, anxiety is essentially your body trying to protect you in the best way it knows how – by preparing you for a survival situation.

Unfortunately, the anxious brain struggles to recognize that the threats you face are nothing but a work meeting or a first date, and so the stress response ends up having a negative impact on your body in the long term.

The good news is that it is possible to tame your anxiety and look after your health. With the help of a mental health professional, a deeper understanding of how your anxiety works, and some of the tips above, you can slowly but surely show your brain that there is nothing to be scared of.

Myndlift provides a personalized expert-guided brain training program that can help you increase calm, as well as alleviate anxiety symptoms and create a generally relaxed state of well-being. Take this 10-second quiz to check if you’re eligible to kick-start your journey for better brain health.



About the author:

Denisa Cerna is a non-fiction and fiction writer who's passionate about psychology, mental health, and personal development. She's always on a quest to develop a better insight into the workings of the human mind, be it via reading psychology books or combing through research papers.

About the reviewer:

Kaija Sander is a cognitive neuroscientist and scientific consultant for Myndlift. She holds a BSc in Biomedical Science with a specialization in Neuroscience and Mental Health from Imperial College London and a PhD in Neuroscience from McGill University. Her doctoral research focused on brain connectivity relating to second language learning success. She is passionate about the broader applications of science to have a positive impact on people’s lives.



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OCTOBER IS ADHD AWARENESS MONTHADHD in Women Is Under-Diagnosed: 15 Symptoms to Keep an Eye Out For✎ Written by: Denisa ...
10/24/2023

OCTOBER IS ADHD AWARENESS MONTH

ADHD in Women Is Under-Diagnosed: 15 Symptoms to Keep an Eye Out For

✎ Written by: Denisa Cerna

✓ Fact-checked by: Kaija Sander, Ph.D.

[This article is from myndlift.com. I use the Myndlift system to provide neurofeedback through my office in Kingsburg. If you have questions or would like more information, please reach out:
tanja@tanjafridolfs.com
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You may think you’re just forgetful or easily distracted, and that may very well be the case. But sometimes, there’s more to absent-mindedness and losing focus than meets the eye.

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a condition that causes trouble with paying attention, impaired time management skills, impulsive behavior, and emotional overwhelm.

However, it’s not as simple as that. There are three types of ADHD:

Predominantly inattentive ADHD involving difficulty sustaining attention, following detailed instructions, and organizing tasks and activities

Predominantly hyperactive-impulsive ADHD involving the need for constant movement, frequent fidgeting and squirming, and trouble staying seated

Combined ADHD involving symptoms related to both types

These three types of ADHD include different symptoms and manifestations, however, they do have one thing in common, and that’s the fact that ADHD is underdiagnosed in women.

In adolescents, 13% of males are diagnosed, while only 4.2% of females can say the same. This is not because women are less likely to have the condition but because they often go their whole lives without getting diagnosed for a variety of reasons.

For example, research shows that women tend to develop coping mechanisms that mask their symptoms, such as bottling up their emotions or internalizing their hyperactivity (e.g., they may experience anxiety because they’re not letting their energy manifest through a physical outlet).

If you think you or another woman you know may have ADHD, read on for the 15 symptoms to watch out for. However, keep in mind that this article does not serve diagnostic purposes. If you think you have ADHD, we strongly recommend you speak to your doctor or mental health professional.

Please note: ADHD symptoms vary from person to person. Not everyone will experience the same challenges and to the same degree.

Inattentive Symptoms

Hyperactive/Impulsive Symptoms

Other Important Symptoms

Do You Think You May Have ADHD? Here’s What to Do Next

Inattentive Symptoms

Inattentive ADHD may be more challenging to diagnose because it’s not as obvious as hyperactivity. Women who have this ADHD type might appear quiet and introverted, which means they don’t draw as much attention to themselves. As a result, their symptoms are less noticeable in social situations. Since girls and women are more likely to be inattentive than hyperactive, this might mean they are more likely to get diagnosed later in life or not at all.

Some of the most common inattentive symptoms women experience are:

Trouble focusing for longer periods of time. Struggling to concentrate in class or at work, which may result in daydreaming or absent-mindedness.

Getting distracted easily. Losing your train of thought during a conversation because something moved behind the person you’re looking at.

Poor organization. Forgetting appointments unless you write them down, losing or misplacing things because you’re not fully present or are overwhelmed by all your other day-to-day tasks.

Daydreaming. Escaping the real world and losing yourself in your imagination.

Indecision. Feeling overwhelmed by the decision at hand and taking a long time to choose, for instance in a restaurant.

Procrastination. Having difficulty initiating tasks or sustaining attention for a long time, which leads to putting off your responsibilities until the last minute.

What’s important to remember is that we may all exhibit these symptoms from time to time, especially when under stress. But if you have ADHD, it means these challenges occur on a regular basis and are disruptive to your daily life.

Hyperactive/Impulsive Symptoms

While hyperactive ADHD is more commonly diagnosed in men, it can still affect many women and girls – just in different ways.

According to research, hyperactive ADHD in women is complex and influenced by a variety of factors. For example, women are much less likely to externalize their hyperactivity, which means they are less disruptive within their environment (e.g., they don’t necessarily display physical aggression or excessive physical movement).

Their hyperactivity may translate into more subtle behavior, such as:

Fidgeting in ways that are socially acceptable. Experiencing the restless-leg syndrome, always playing with your necklace, a pencil, or anything else to keep yourself occupied, biting your nails.

Hypertalking. Talking excessively, interrupting others during a conversation, speaking before thinking your words through.

Crying easily. Feeling overwhelmed and bursting into tears as a result.

Impatience. Difficulty waiting your turn or waiting in lines.

Since these symptoms are more challenging to pinpoint than the highly disruptive behavior present in men, girls and women with ADHD often struggle in silence. What’s more, parents tend to underestimate the severity of hyperactive/impulsive symptoms in girls, which may lead them to develop coping behaviors (e.g., internalizing their ADHD) that they carry into adulthood.

Other Important Symptoms

New research has found that girls with ADHD experience higher levels of depression and impairment than boys, even though they exhibit fewer ADHD symptoms.

It is therefore not surprising that women with ADHD face the same predicament; in general, they are more susceptible to anxiety, depression, and other internalized conditions, while many men suffer from substance abuse, excessive physical movement, or having a short temper.

Here are five more ADHD symptoms in women to watch out for:

Emotional overwhelm. Middle-aged women with ADHD often report feeling emotionally overwhelmed and exhausted, something that is even more complicated when hormonal changes are added into the equation. While ADHD is often studied as a cognitive condition, emotional symptoms are just as important because you may experience emotional dysregulation (being unable to cope with your emotions effectively) at any age, and therefore succumb to your feelings easily.

Internalizing feelings and painful experiences. As mentioned above, women are more likely to experience a sense of inner hyperactivity or emotional overwhelm that gets pushed down. They may also remain silent after experiencing trauma or pain, which can be very isolating.

Anxiety and depression. These conditions often co-occur with ADHD. What’s more, if ADHD is disrupting your performance at work or your academic studies, you may feel overwhelmed, stressed, sad, or not up to the task, and suffer from anxiety or depression as a result.

Low self-esteem. Studies show that poor self-esteem is yet another female ADHD symptom, especially if your ADHD is undiagnosed. Since ADHD can impact your daily life, work performance, and personal relationships, it is common for women to be overly critical of themselves, feel ashamed, and lack confidence.

Struggles with social interaction. ADHD goes hand in hand with processing difficulties, which might make social interaction challenging. For example, you may misread social cues, struggle to follow quick chatter, and misunderstand jokes. Women with hyperactive/impulsive ADHD may also frequently interrupt others and say inappropriate or hurtful things. As a consequence, it’s possible to end up feeling rejected by your social groups or like you’re unable to keep up with social expectations.

Do You Think You May Have ADHD? Here’s What to Do Next

If the 15 symptoms outlined above sound familiar, the next step is to get officially diagnosed. While the specifics of the process can vary from country to country, consider speaking to your family doctor who can refer you to a specialist or talking to a psychologist.

Studies confirm there is a sense of relief and validation that comes with receiving an official diagnosis; one woman reported she had experienced “a huge sense of relief, this isn’t all my fault… the fact that you could see a reason for it and deal with it was tremendously helpful.”

Since other conditions may go hand in hand with ADHD, such as anxiety, depression, or bipolar disorder, it’s crucial to speak to your doctor or mental health professional to ensure you are getting the right treatment.

Of course, there are also some things you can start doing alongside your treatment, for instance improving your time management skills. Women with ADHD can be forgetful, get lost in one task for so long that they push other responsibilities into the background, or struggle to stay focused.

It could help to:

Write a to-do list for every day and keep it on your person at all times. You can create it in Notion and then have the app both on your phone and your laptop.

Use timers like Pomodoro, a system that helps you work in sprints, to stay focused and on track.

Put reminders on your phone.

Reflect on your past experience to determine how long a specific task will probably take you. You may notice that it’s better to give yourself some extra time to make sure you never miss a deadline.

Try to reduce ADHD symptoms through exercise – research suggests even one session of aerobic exercise may be beneficial.

Consider giving neurofeedback therapy a try. This involves training your brain to amplify beta brain waves which are associated with focus. Research has shown it helps alleviate ADHD symptoms.

Conclusion

Now that we’ve gone over the 15 ADHD symptoms in women, it bears repeating that not everyone will experience the same symptoms to the same degree. You may be leaning toward inattentive ADHD more than hyperactive ADHD or the other way around. You may also experience challenges on both sides of the spectrum.

If you think you may have ADHD, remember that consulting a medical professional is always a number one priority. It can help a great deal to be able to put a label on the challenges you’ve been experiencing, not to mention you’ll understand yourself on a whole new level.

ADHD is challenging, but challenges can be dealt with. Be patient with yourself. And remember – you are stronger than you know.

Myndlift provides a personalized expert-guided brain training program that can help you achieve your goals towards reaching optimal mental wellbeing. Check if you’re eligible to kick start your journey with us for better brain health from here.



About the author:

Denisa Cerna is a non-fiction and fiction writer who's passionate about psychology, mental health, and personal development. She's always on a quest to develop a better insight into the workings of the human mind, be it via reading psychology books or combing through research papers.

About the reviewer:

Kaija Sander is a cognitive neuroscientist and scientific consultant for Myndlift. She holds a BSc in Biomedical Science with a specialization in Neuroscience and Mental Health from Imperial College London and a PhD in Neuroscience from McGill University. Her doctoral research focused on brain connectivity relating to second language learning success. She is passionate about the broader applications of science to have a positive impact on people’s lives.



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