New Way Counseling, PLLC

09/11/2025

Yes! Keep going.

09/11/2025

The way we greet children after school sets the tone for the whole afternoon

After holding it together all day, they need calm connection, not a flood of questions.

Here are some simple do’s and don’ts to make pick-up smoother for everyone.

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09/11/2025

09/11/2025

Develop a spiritual stamina...

09/11/2025

Your friend cancels plans…
Your boss is in a bad mood…
Someone posts something snarky online…

That’s not about you.
It’s about THEM.

The moment you stop making other people’s moods, choices, or opinions mean something about your worth… you get your power back.

This is the heart of the Let Them Theory:
Let Them be upset.
Let Them misunderstand.
Let Them think whatever they want.

You focus on you 💚

09/11/2025

Ask R U OK? Any Day because a conversation could change a life.

R U OK? Day a good reminder to check in with those around us. ​Complex trauma can affect trust, safety, and relationships. Even a simple “Are you OK?” can feel overwhelming if someone doesn’t feel safe, understood or deserving of compassion.​

If you’re supporting someone with complex trauma, be kind and gentle​

- Listen without judgement​
- Respect boundaries​
- Offer choice and patience​

If you’re living with complex trauma: your wellbeing matters​

Boundaries are valid​
Self-compassion is powerful​
Support is out there.

For supportive resources, please visit https://bit.ly/2Y9tQtD and https://bit.ly/3JY2LBF

09/11/2025

Ideally, when we share our limits or boundaries with other people, they respond respectfully. They accept or support what we've shared.

And when you're learning how to differentiate and strengthen your boundaries, having people like this around you is really important and helpful.
It helps you to build that muscle — their support can offer a mirror that reminds you that your needs aren't too much.

But not everyone is going to respect or support your boundaries.
Some people are going to take them personally —
some are going to have feelings about them, and others are going to continue to push for what they want even after you've told them, "No, this doesn't work for me."

For those of us who aren't used to boundaries, you're going to want to explain yourself — to continue to convince or change them until you get their approval or understanding.
But, and I truly mean this, you don't need either.

Growth is beginning to recognize where you end and someone else begins.
You're allowed to feel differently and to need different things. And they're allowed to have feelings about whatever it is you're needing or doing — and that's their business.
(and their reaction is often related to their own fears, needs, values, wounding, etc)
You can still move forward (or take your step back) and be a good, kind, worthy, functional human being.

No one else has to approve of the way you're choosing to protect your time or energy for it to be real, legitimate, or okay.
You matter.
And the better you get at recognizing and internalizing your own worth, the easier it gets to let them have their own response or experience without it turning into a big conflict.

You don't have to save an adult who is having a temper tantrum.
Neutrality is a legitimate response.
They're an adult who can do the work to navigate their own emotional reaction.

Because, remember — you are the one who's responsible for taking care of you.

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09/11/2025

That’s why it’s so frustrating when someone you love isn’t living up to what you “see” in them.

Because it’s what you see. It’s your projection, not theirs.

The only person whose potential you can truly bet on is your own.

So stop pouring all your energy into who you think someone else could be, and start focusing on who YOU are becoming.

09/11/2025

Read more: yungpueblo.substack.com

09/09/2025

https://newsletter.thedailywellness.com/p/gut-feeling-explained

Neuroscience shows your amygdala runs probability math in real time; intuition is fast data, not superstition.

09/09/2025

https://newsletter.thedailywellness.com/p/write-to-process

A 20-minute, four-day private practice to organize hard experiences; no polish, just honest words and gentle care...

09/09/2025

https://newsletter.thedailywellness.com/p/notice-then-nurture

Swap “I know better” for “I’m learning.” Awareness is progress even when behavior lags behind....