06/12/2025
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There’s a certain kind of pain that doesn’t come from the event itself, but from the silence that followed it.
No questions. No comfort. No one saying, “Are you okay?”
When no one names what you went through, it doesn’t just feel lonely- it can make you question whether it even counts.
But here’s the truth: Your nervous system doesn’t need a diagnosis to validate what it felt. It needed someone to notice. To stay. To witness.
Because trauma doesn’t just wound - it isolates. And when that kind of presence was missing, your system may still be searching for it.
Replaying the story. Rewriting the ending. Hoping someone will finally understand.
And here’s the beautiful thing neuroscience confirms: Being witnessed - truly seen and felt by another - can start to heal what disconnection created.
When someone stays present with your pain, your brain begins to come back online. Your nervous system softens. Your body stops bracing. Your story stops spinning in isolation.
Because what was broken in relationship must be mended in relationship.
That’s the power of someone saying: “I see what this did to you. And I’m not going anywhere.”
You deserved that then, and you still deserve it now.
