Nes Pinar Psychotherapy

04/17/2026

So many women in healing professions carry a quiet pressure to be endlessly steady, capable, and composed. We hold space for others with such care — yet often hide our own exhaustion, doubt, or tenderness behind a polished exterior.

I’ve been writing about this invisible pattern, something I call silent perfectionism — the internal expectation to be “the strong one” at all times, even when our humanity is asking for rest or support.

If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold everything together… or if you’re curious about the quieter ways perfectionism shows up in our work… I hope this piece meets you gently.

📝 Read the full blog post: The Hidden Cost of Care: Breaking the Cycle of Silent Perfectionism www.eastbaytherapistcommunity.com/communityblog

04/07/2026

Give Yourself Permission To Not Have This All Figured Out...

Transformation is rarely clean or linear, at any age. There will be days when everything feels newly possible—when the path ahead seems clearer than it has in years, and the person you’re becoming feels genuinely exciting.

And there will be days when the uncertainty is almost physical, when the old life no longer fits and the new one hasn’t fully arrived yet, and the space between the two feels very hard to stand in.

Both kinds of days belong to the same process. Neither cancels the other out.

From www.aconsciousrethink.com, on "Midlife Awakening"

02/05/2026

One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you cannot change.

Not because it didn’t matter.
Not because it didn’t hurt.
But because holding on was costing you your peace.

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up.
It means choosing yourself.
It means accepting reality instead of fighting it.
It means freeing your mind from battles that were never yours to win.

Some things are out of your control.
Some people will never change.
Some situations will never give you closure.

And that’s okay.

Peace begins the moment you stop resisting what is and start focusing on what you can control.
Your mindset.
Your actions.
Your future.

Let go.
Breathe.
Move forward lighter.

-Jodie Foster

12/04/2025

11/18/2025

A good reminder for the upcoming couple of months. Be kind to yourselves 💙
https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/49717/people-who-grow-apart-from-friends-and-family-as-they-get-older-often-display-these-9-behaviors/?fbclid=IwdGRjcAOI6QRjbGNrA4jlXGV4dG4DYWVtAjExAHNydGMGYXBwX2lkDDM1MDY4NTUzMTcyOAABHqf7HzJ9I6CwnBOQPlobjq8gl-f9sGI99TPEX1yBQftmgUV9qn-VJMVwANGA_aem_xgalvc2BpTdQa1QYsGH7OA

Growing apart from family and friends is often portrayed as a sad, regrettable phenomenon—a failing of connection in our increasingly disconnected world. Yet the reality is often far more nuanced. As we journey through life’s chapters, our relationships naturally evolve, sometimes growing strong...

09/29/2025

Happy and honored to host this community gathering for therapists, healers, and psychologically oriented souls drawn to myth, archetype, the symbolic layers of story, and candles! October 22nd, at EBTC - East Bay Therapist Community. Join us to connect both personally and professionally, with room for reflection, conversation, and community. Registration required, free event.
https://hekatesflame.com

Join us for an evening of myth, archetypes, and candlelight with Hekate’s Flame Apothecary. Explore hand-poured, clean-burning candles inspired by goddesses like Hekate, Athena, Isis, and Freyja. Connect in community, share stories, and enjoy refreshments and light nourishment.

07/28/2025

Clarity comes from action, well said.

07/10/2025

Don't forget to let joy in 💙

04/24/2025

Advancing my knowledge and skills of Neurofeedback. Fascinating approach to improving mental health and peak performance training!

04/20/2025

Old habits won't open new doors... Changing one's way of doing things may be difficult, but it is certainly rewarding.

02/10/2025

Please join us for our ribbon cutting ceremony to celebrate our one-year anniversary in our new location and being a member of the Lafayette Chamber of Commerce. We are also celebrating the 10-year anniversary of our Lafayette practice!

Our office provides psychotherapy and neurofeedback for children, teens, and adults. We also host the East Bay Therapists Community (EBTC), which is a social and educational hub for mental health therapists.

We hope to get to know each other at our event through some fun & simple group games.

Please visit www.nespinar.com by the event date to subscribe to our e-mail list for a chance to win a wellness basket.