Tasneem Kagalwalla Personal Soul-utions

01/18/2024

Can a therapist be your friend?

A good listener. Reliable. Interested in your well-being. Empathic. Helpful. These are traits that we all value in a friend. These are also things that describe an effective therapist.

It’s no wonder, then, that many people see a friend in their therapist.

While it can feel like a friendly relationship, it is so much more than that.

Friendship is supposed to be a two-way street. However, your therapist is able to help you precisely because the relationship is NOT a two-way street: your therapist is able to help you because they maintain objectivity. They listen to your feelings and problems, and they refrain from discussing their own.

When you go into therapy, the focus is on you and you alone. Achieving your goals is the only priority!

I am so grateful that we achieved ideal outcomes for this extraordinary individual. 🤩💖

For truly in her success, lies mine! 💪🏆


Share this with someone who needs professional help!

12/24/2023

Seasons Greetings folks! 💐✨️

Wishing you n yours all of Gods best today n always! ❤️

12/01/2023

For me, the most important part about my coaching interventions is the "how" part.

Insha'Allah, Yes, you can overcome the challenge/s - Yes, you can feel better in the moment but how - How will you retain and sustain that mindset, how will you use what you went through to become a better person becoz of it. How will you empower yourself?

That's where breakthroughs happen. By growing through what you go through.

If you or someone you know needs to be pulled out of a dark place, allow me to shed some light on "how" to do just that!

12/01/2023

The decision to get a divorce is a hard one. It is one of the hardest we ever make.

Whether you're being asked for a divorce or you're the one asking for it, you can expect to feel hurt, confused, guilty, angry, or even relief at different times through the ordeal.

The divorce process, too, is not easy for many. You're entering an emotional minefield, and it's almost impossible to avoid the myriad feelings one experiences.

Rebuilding your life after divorce often requires one to work from rock bottom up!

But she did it!

And I'm only humbled and honored to have walked that path with her for a while.

If you or someone you know is going through a divorce and needs a sensitive and trained mental health professional to put you back in the driver's seat of your life, then DM me to schedule a private consultation.

06/30/2023

What do you do with failure?

06/01/2023

What does that mean?

Well, simply put, it means growth.

And yes, while you're at it, you're bound to change - for the better when done right!

Here then are 7 signs you're growing:

1. You question your beliefs.

We all have certain beliefs around which we base life and living. As long as those beliefs are serving your higher good and helping you live your ideal life, you're set! However, if life makes you anxious, relationships consistently worry you or your mind is in a constant state of unrest - question your beliefs! And be open to changing them. The good thing about beliefs is that they CAN be changed.

2. You're confused.

Confusion is equally good. Confusion means you are willing to see a new perspective, you're open to a different point of view. And we all know that the growth happens outside of our comfort zone.

3. You're willing to stop unproductive habits.

You recognize what's not working for you and you decide to drop those unproductive behaviors or habits and replace them with more productive ones. After all, we are what we repeatedly do. You'll never grow until you change something you do daily.

4. You practice new habits

Discipline is key here. Motivation gets you going, but discipline keeps you growing. Following a new routine whether you feel like it or not is key to breaking through a stuck state.

5. You grow thicker skin

A great sign you have grown is when you are no longer overtly sensitive. The malicious colleague or bossy manager no longer intimidates you. You stand your ground. Instead of letting anger or your insecurities get the better of you, you take a breath, check perceptions, ask more questions or walk away. Instead of dreading difficult conversations you approach them as a necessary tool to practice your authenticity.

6. You achieve more than you thought possible

If you’ve achieved something that a few years ago seemed impossible, you’ve grown. Maybe you wrote a book, learned a new skill or you took your business to the next level. Achievement of any kind is a sign of personal and professional growth.

7. Your definition of success changes

You realize your definition of success has changed. Remember, when you thought success was was that fancy car? Or maybe you felt successful if you looked a certain way? Or were at a certain position at work or in your community? Well, success is not a fixed place. It is an ever evolving journey. What success looks like for you today could be entirely different to yesterday. As you grow, the way you define success changes.

So there you have it. Now go ahead, grow through what you go through!

03/24/2023

It takes radical honesty and a good dose of self-compassion to recognize a repetitive pattern.

Journaling is the best way to gain the outside perspective necessary for pattern recognition. So, pull out a piece of paper and write.

❤️ Do you often find yourself in situations that trigger a familiar sense of discomfort?
❤️ Are there emotions you are experiencing on repeat?
❤️ Do you seem to be recycling the same feelings?

These are clues leading you to identify a pattern that could be potentially sabotaging your personality.

Once you recognize the pattern, you can start looking for the beliefs that created it. Write a new narrative and choose to consciously change the old limiting belief to a new empowering one.

Identifying the pattern is the first step in the healing journey. It’s a positive step because you can’t heal what you don’t know.

03/22/2023

Would you like to know of a life lesson I learned right after marriage?

"I recall it was a cold winter afternoon as the captain landed the aircraft in Houston, Texas, USA.

This country was not entirely new to me. Several years ago, I had visited New York and hated my experience. The people, the weather, the smell of the air - everything reminded me of a time long gone by. I had memories of nothing but a broken heart and an empty pocket from back then... "

(Read more by clicking on the enclosed link.)

Grateful and humbled to be featured in the Inspiring Stories series of Voyage Dallas, a part of the Voyage Group of Magazines LA.

The questions asked during this interview were soul searching. They made me dig deep and reflect on life stories long gone by.

Once again, it is only your love and support that have got me thus far.

I continue to always value your trust.

Thank you. ❤️

We were lucky to catch up with Tasneem Kagalwalla recently and have shared our conversation below. Tasneem, thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today. What’s the kindest thing anyone has ever done for you? The instance that comes to mind right away, is of the year 2012. I reca...

03/21/2023

This! 💖

02/02/2023

Do you believe in charity?!

02/01/2023

3 lessons I learned from my hardships:

❤️ Compassion & Sensitivity.

A significant dose of humility usually comes with hardship. Going through "stuff" can open your eyes to the hardships of others. This made me to be a natural empath in years to come. It allowed me to feel deeper, know better and act wiser.

🔭 Self-awareness & Perspective.

Hardships force you to come face-to-face with who you are. Lessons learned from hardships often reveal limitations, patterns and beliefs you didn’t see or notice before. This shift, increased my self-awareness. I got an opportunity to make new choices. It gave me a chance to change my narrative.

🙏 Limits of Control.

As much as you might want to chart your own path, hardship is a powerful reminder of the limits of your own control. By acknowledging and embracing those limits, you can put down some of the weight you’re carrying and accept that some things just aren’t up to you. As I always say, weigh yourself on your effort and surrender the outcome to His will.

Tell me; what is one thing that your hardships have taught you?

01/31/2023

Are you a light thrower or shadow caster?

Has anyone cast a shadow on your experience through an unkind word or hurtful deed? Well, we can’t control what other people do, but we can control what we do! We can ensure that we don’t throw any shadows on other people’s path.

How? By being a light.

Fact: A light casts no shadow.

Be love. Be light. ❤️🕯