Intima Couples and Sex Therapy

12/31/2025

✨ “Healing showed up in the most ordinary moment.” ✨

The first place I noticed something was different
was during something as ordinary as cleaning my house.

Normally, I push right through it —
overwhelmed, annoyed, and exhausted before I even begin.

But this time, something shifted.
It wasn’t coming from pressure or obligation.
It was coming from love. 🌿

I caught myself thinking,
I love myself so much.
I deserve a clean, orderly space to live my life in.

And that thought stopped me right in my tracks.

As a therapist, I often talk about how healing
doesn’t always show up in big emotional moments.
Sometimes it shows up in self-regard.
In care.
In the way we treat ourselves when no one else is watching.

If you’ve noticed yourself doing something differently lately —
with more gentleness, more patience, more respect —
that matters.
Those moments are often signs that something inside you
is beginning to feel safer and more worthy of care.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/30/2025

✨ “Healing shows up first in everyday life.” ✨

This week taught me something important.
When healing begins to take root,
your everyday life is often the first place you see it.

Last week, I shared a moment where my inner child came forward —
a moment that felt like a doorway opening.
I held her.
I loved her.
And something inside me shifted. 🌿

What I didn’t realize at the time
was just how far-reaching that moment would be.

It wasn’t until the days began to pass
that I noticed it —
in how I moved through my life,
in how my body responded,
in the quiet, ordinary moments that followed.

As a therapist, I often remind clients
that healing doesn’t stay contained to a single insight.
When safety is created inside the body,
it ripples outward —
into relationships, daily rhythms, and how we meet the world.

If you’ve had a moment of insight or emotional release
and wondered whether it “really mattered,”
this is your reminder:
healing often reveals itself afterward,
in the way life begins to feel a little different.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/29/2025

✨ “Have you ever had a week where something just feels… different?” ✨

Not in a big, dramatic way.
Not a breakthrough you can point to.
But in the smallest things.

The way you speak to yourself.
The way you move through your day.
The way you feel inside your own skin —
just a little softer than before. 🌿

This week, I noticed old defenses in me beginning to soften.
And it didn’t show up in big moments —
it showed up in the ordinary ones.
That’s how I knew healing was happening
in ways I hadn’t even expected.

As a therapist, I often remind clients that healing
doesn’t always announce itself loudly.
Sometimes it whispers.
Sometimes it shows up as gentleness, ease, or presence
where there used to be tension.

If you’ve had moments like this —
small, quiet shifts that are easy to overlook —
they matter.
They’re often signs that something inside you
is finally feeling a little safer.

Hi there, if we haven’t met yet —
I’m Raquel Perez, a licensed therapist in Colorado
and the creator of Everyday Therapy.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/-N8tIkm7OPM

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/26/2025

✨ “Safety is the foundation for insight.” ✨

One of the most important parts of healing
is having a space where your body feels safe enough
to slow down, soften, and reflect.

That’s why I created my free booklet, Sacred Spaces. 🌿

It’s designed to help you create your own space at home —
a space where you don’t have to perform, explain, or protect…
a space where self-reflection, emotional safety,
and insight can naturally unfold.

So much of healing doesn’t happen through effort or pushing.
It happens when the nervous system finally feels supported enough
to be honest, curious, and present.

If you’re longing for a place — internally or externally —
where you can reconnect with yourself
and explore your inner world with gentleness,
this booklet is for you.

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/bdjwwZ5NtzY

12/26/2025

Releasing Walls of Protection | A Meditation for Trust - If trust feels hard after heartbreak or betrayal, this gentle, therapist-guided meditation offers grounding, safety, and compassion.

A trauma-informed guided meditation by therapist Raquel Perez to help rebuild trust, soften emotional protection, and create nervous system safety.

12/25/2025

✨ “Healing didn’t mean being finished — it meant beginning to trust love.” ✨

I can’t sit here and say that I’ve completely healed my inner child.
That wouldn’t be honest.

But I can say that something inside of me has begun to trust love again. 🌿

And for me, that’s where healing truly began —
not in perfection,
not in resolution,
but in the moment love finally felt safe enough to feel.

Healing isn’t about erasing the past or arriving at some final version of ourselves.
It’s about creating enough safety in the body
that we no longer have to brace against connection.

As a therapist, I see this again and again:
when love starts to feel safe — even just a little —
something fundamental begins to shift.
The nervous system softens.
Protection loosens.
Presence becomes possible.

If you’re on a healing journey and it feels unfinished,
this is your reminder:
beginning to trust love again is healing.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/bdjwwZ5NtzY

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/24/2025

✨ “Healing doesn’t happen all at once — but sometimes, something shifts.” ✨

Today, I’m reminded that healing isn’t a single breakthrough or a finish line.
It’s a process.
And yet… there are moments — powerful, profound moments —
that quietly begin to change everything.

These moments don’t erase the past.
They don’t fix every pattern overnight.
But they do create movement.
They soften something that’s been held tightly for a long time. 🌿

As a therapist, I see this often —
healing shows up not only through consistency and effort,
but through lived moments where the body finally experiences something new:
safety, presence, connection.

If you’re on a healing path and it sometimes feels slow or nonlinear,
this is your reminder:
those small, meaningful shifts matter.
They are often the beginning of deeper change.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/bdjwwZ5NtzY

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/23/2025

✨ “Something shifted — and I could feel it in my body.” ✨
The next day, I noticed the difference right away.

I felt more grounded with my grandson.
More present. More open.
And later that evening, in a conversation with my partner that would usually trigger defensiveness on both sides, I was able to stay open.

I could clearly see the familiar pattern — the triggers, the cycle we often get pulled into —
but this time, my body didn’t need to protect itself.
I didn’t shift into automatic defense.
I was able to just be there… and be with her. 🌿

As a therapist, I talk often about how healing shows up not just in insight, but in the body.
This was a reminder that when our nervous system feels safer,
we don’t have to fight, freeze, or shut down —
we can stay present even in moments that used to feel threatening.

If you’ve ever noticed yourself reacting before you even have time to think,
this isn’t a personal failure.
It’s your body doing what it learned to do.
And with care, awareness, and gentleness, those patterns can soften.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/bdjwwZ5NtzY

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/22/2025

✨ “Love had always felt like a risk — and now I finally understand why.” ✨

After that moment, something shifted deeply inside of me.
Not suddenly. Not dramatically.
But in a way that felt undeniable.

I realized that my relationship with love
had always felt complicated.
I’ve known that for a long time.
I’ve even had conversations with family members about it.

But now… I understand why.

Love had never, in my entire life, stopped feeling like a risk
because a protective part of me
had been doing its job for decades. 🌿

That part wasn’t broken.
It wasn’t resistant.
It wasn’t “too much.”
It was protecting something tender —
something that once learned that love could cost you.

And healing, I’m learning,
isn’t about forcing yourself to be more open.
It’s about meeting the protective parts with compassion…
and slowly helping your body learn that love can be safe now.

If love has ever felt complicated for you, you’re not alone.
There may simply be a part of you
that has been protecting you for a very long time.

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/bdjwwZ5NtzY

📘 Download my free booklet — “Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight”
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

12/19/2025

✨ “For the first time, she felt seen.” ✨

For the first time, I could feel it clearly —
my inner child had been waiting her whole life to be seen.

She needed to be held.
To be loved.
To be gushed over.
She needed to know, in her body, that she was protected.

And the moment she felt that protection from me,
something extraordinary happened.

It was as if she reintegrated into my entire body.
As if every single cell of me received her…
welcomed her…
and made space for her to finally come home. 🌿

It was one of the most profound experiences of my life.
And I felt called to share it —
because I know how many of us are still carrying parts
that have been waiting, quietly, to be met with this kind of love.

If this resonates with you, please know:
nothing in you is broken.
There may simply be a part of you that’s been waiting to be seen.

📘 Free booklet: Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

🎥 Watch the full video:
https://youtu.be/bdjwwZ5NtzY

12/19/2025

Why S*x Can Feel Numb (And What It’s Really About) - For a long time, s*x felt flat—not because my body was broken, but because a part of me was hidden. This is what I’ve learned about shame, identity, and reclaiming pleasure.

Discover why s*x can feel numb or disconnected. A licensed s*x therapist explores how shame and identity impact pleasure—and how healing and reconnection begin.

12/18/2025

✨ “She didn’t need to be brave anymore.” ✨

As I sat with a tender question —
What if our most vulnerable parts were met with enough care that they no longer needed to protect us? —
something powerful happened.

My inner child appeared.
She was about three or four years old…
and she was so incredibly sad.

She collapsed into my arms sobbing.
She told me how cruel, cold, and painful the world had felt to her.
How lonely she had been for so long.

I didn’t try to fix her.
I didn’t rush her pain away.
I simply held her.
I stroked her hair.
I hugged her.

I took her little face in my hands and told her:
I’m here.
You don’t have to be that brave little girl anymore.
You don’t have to protect yourself alone.

And I let her feel my love. 🌿

This is what healing the inner child can look like —
not forcing resilience,
but offering safety.
Not pushing through pain,
but meeting it with tenderness.

If this resonates with you, you’re not broken.
There may simply be a part of you that’s been waiting to be held.

📘 Free booklet: Sacred Spaces: Creating Safety for Insight
https://www.intimacounseling.com/freebooklet

🎥 Watch the full video here:
https://youtu.be/bdjwwZ5NtzY