11/16/2025
7-9 PM Wednesday 19 NOV 2025
3015 S MLK BLVD, Lansing MI
“If you die before you die, when you die, you will not die.”
~ Greek inscription, St. Paul’s Monastery, Mount Athos
“Remember the clear light, pure clear white light from which everything in the universe comes, and to which everything in the universe returns — the original nature of your true mind. This is the natural, unmanifest state of the universe. Let go into the clear light. Trust and merge with it.
It is your true nature. It is home.”
~ The Tibetan Book of the Dead
Dear Sangha,
If you are going to Chicago next week, you probably don’t need to prepare very much. But if you are traveling to a faraway and unfamiliar place — somewhere where you don’t know anyone— you might feel a bit anxious or even scared. It is wise to prepare for such a journey. Those preparations can lessen anxiety and help you enjoy the trip more fully.
Death and dying are similar. They are journeys we can prepare for well in advance, so that when the big day comes, we can meet the experience with less fear and more confidence, peace, and even a sense of excitement.
It is taught that for meditators, the moment of dying offers “a most precious opportunity.” As Mingyur Rinpoche writes in the book: “[T]he organic degeneration of the dying body offers an unparalleled opportunity for recognizing the true mind…. When all these cycles of body and mind stop functioning, all that’s left is awareness itself — the unconditioned open space of pure knowing…. This is the same aspect of mind that is revealed whenever we notice a gap in the conditioned mind, when the clouds of confusion part and allow an experience of non-conceptual awareness…. This happens naturally to everyone. It’s as certain as death itself…. But without training, we cannot recognize the clear light of luminous emptiness.” (p. 205)
In the final section of his book, Rinpoche describes in detail his near-death experience and offers specific guidance for preparing for death and dying. He also recounts what he discovered as his physical body and senses gradually dissolved.
So what kinds of preparation can we make for this special journey? Below is an incomplete summary of some teachings from Mingyur Rinpoche and from Tim Olmstead, a student of Rinpoche’s father. (Do not hold them too tightly. These are just for your reference J )
1) Our regular meditation practice
Our regular practice is tremendously helpful for death and dying in a myriad of ways. Any formal or informal practice we do on mindfulness, love and compassion, or looking directly into the nature of experience have a lot of benefits!
2) Training to recognize openness of the mind
Gradually learn to notice the small openings or “gaps” between the seemingly continuous chatter of the conceptual mind. Become familiar with open awareness. And when possible, receive pointing-out instructions from a realized teacher to recognize the true nature of mind.
Rinpoche describes many moments in daily life when this natural openness can appear: sneezing, yawning, stretching, sudden shocks, encountering modern art that defies conceptual grasping, moments of great beauty, after exercise, hiking, looking down from a high place, experiences of awe, and so on. We can train in these moments to be with the mind and be familiar with the openness of the mind, which may be quite short. It is also said that during moments of deep devotion or compassion, the veil between the chattering mind and openness becomes very thin.
3) Learning about the dying process and the bardo teachings
As Rinpoche says, “If I had trained in meditation without the addition of bardo teachings, I might become confused at the end” (p. 217). He touches on the six bardos throughout the book. We can talk about these more on Wednesday.
There are many books on the bardos. Here is one example: Preparing to Die: Practical Advice and Spiritual Wisdom from the Tibetan Buddhist Tradition https://www.amazon.com/Preparing-Die-Practical-Spiritual-Tradition/dp/1559394080
We can also become familiar with the dissolution of the five elements — earth, water, fire, air, and space.
Venerable Anālayo and other teachers offer guided meditations on this process.
4) Practicing death and dying now
There are many great ways to do this in different traditions, e.g., the five remembrances. There is a nice four-step practice Mingyur Rinpoche teaches that one can do each night before going to sleep and also at the moment of dying:
a. Letting go and offering
Offer all belongings and attachments – roles, achievements, wealth, possessions, books, loved ones etc. A skillful approach is to offer something you are very attached to into the care of the Buddha and enlightened beings.
b. Dedication
Dedicate all the virtue and goodness of your life to your family, friends, and all beings.
c. Aspiration
Set a clear direction, such as “May this dying experience be meaningful. May it help me progress on the path.” If you practice bodhicitta — the aspiration to awaken for the benefit of all beings — this is a powerful moment to recall it.
It is taught that the quality of the mind in the final moment — whatever is present in the mind — is what we carry into the dying process. Conditioning the mind in this way, orienting toward kindness, love and compassion is very helpful.
d. Prayer
Bring to mind the images of refuge you turn to in practice or daily life — the Buddha, a Bodhisattva, Jesus, other noble beings, or even warm light. Pray: “Please guide and protect me. Help me move through this process with clarity, compassion, and minimal suffering or obstacles” or whatever words that work for you. Then rest in open awareness.
In the book, Rinpoche also describes the different opportunities for liberation or for a favorable rebirth that arise throughout the dying process. He sometimes presents these as Plan A, B, C, and D. We can discuss these on Wednesday.
Thank you for reading this long listy message! This Wednesday, we will continue studying Rinpoche’s book, focusing on Chapters 24–Epilogue (pp. 188–253). Read whatever you can; no worries if you don’t have time. You are also welcome to bring practices that you do on death and dying, any teachings that resonate with you from the book or any questions you may have.
With much gratitude,
Baolian
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