02/17/2026
Demand avoidance isn’t defiance, laziness, manipulation, or disrespect. It’s a response to a nervous system that is yelling – and yelling even louder as a parent isn’t going to help, but neither is giving in.
When we move from control to collaboration, we reduce resistance and increase trust, and that can make a big difference in keeping peace in our homes while maintaining reasonable expectations for participation.
Remember, the goal here isn’t to raise compliant kids; it’s to raise capable ones.
Read more about demand avoidance and strategies to work with your child rather than against them in our latest blog post:
https://journeytherapycenter.com/demand-avoidance-isnt-a-matter-of-defiance/
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