12/17/2025
If you have a good one hold him tight
The wrong man will drain you while calling it love. He’ll watch you carry everything on your shoulders....emotionally, mentally, financially.....and applaud your strength, not realizing he’s the reason you have to be so strong in the first place. He’ll let you struggle, let you handle life alone, and still expect loyalty, softness, and peace from a woman he’s left in survival mode.
But the right man… oh, he’s a different story. The right man sees your strength, but he doesn’t exploit it. He respects it, honors it, and matches it. He knows you can do it all by yourself, but he won’t allow you to....not because he thinks you're incapable, but because he refuses to let you carry it all alone when he's supposed to be your partner.
See, real men know that a relationship isn't a test of how much a woman can endure. It's a union where both people thrive, not just survive. A real man doesn’t sit back and expect a woman to lead, protect, and provide for herself while he reaps the benefits of her loyalty. No… a real man sets the tone, leads with integrity, creates a safe space, and shows up with consistency.
Not just in words, but in actions.
Because no matter how independent she is, how strong she’s become, or how much she’s learned to rely on herself, every woman wants to feel safe. Every woman wants to exhale. And she can’t do that with a man who keeps showing her that she’s better off alone.
So fellas, if you want a woman to be soft with you… give her safety. If you want her to follow your lead… make sure you're actually leading. If you want her to lean on you… be strong enough to hold the weight. Because love isn't proven by how much she can carry....it’s proven by how much you’re willing to carry with her..
