Couples at Crossroads

10/27/2025

Never underestimate the power of "mind reading!"

The notion of intersubjectivity has been around for a long time. It's what happens when two people are in sync.

10/27/2025

If you are looking for an easy-to-read, helpful book that will give you some small steps to improve your relationship... look no further.

10/27/2025

Imagine a life without temptation...

and how to use it.

09/17/2025

It's taken a while but here it is. Check it out!

06/08/2025

05/06/2025

How a couple deals with privacy and secrecy say a lot about how much trust they experience.

Everyone has a right to privacy. Secrecy, on the other hand, is toxic.

08/06/2024

For couples who have been together more than a few months, conflict can be predictable. Here are some ways to make it less destructive.

Couples who have been together for more than a few months can usually tell when conflict is "in the air." Here are four good ways to respond that will keep the conflict from getting out of control.

07/25/2024

Conflict is inevitable but not all conflict is the same. Sometimes it's productive. Here's when it is and when it is really destructive.

Conflict is both inevitable and predictable. To acknowledge its inevitability is to be grounded and realistic about life together. To acknowledge its predictability is to be better at problem solving.

07/17/2024

Understanding is an important part of connecting with your partner but it can fall a little short. There's an additional step...beyond understanding...that can cement the bond in a way that generates growth.

Simply understanding just isn't enough. There's an additional step that can take your understanding to the next level.

06/29/2024

Closeness and intimacy are often considered synonymous. They aren't. Both are an important part of a well-functioning relationship and it can be really useful to know the distinction.

It can be hard to find and maintain the right relationship "temperature."

05/24/2024

There's a lot that happens when we fall in love. It's comforting on the one hand and scary on the other. All in all, it's exhilarating.

For all of its desirability, love can bring some very scary times. Here are two fears that often come with love.

05/14/2024

There's a good reason "dumb" topics created heated arguments for couples.

Or, marriage as an existential struggle. An answer to the question of why couples have such intense arguments over dumb things?