Tell a Therapist, LLC

03/15/2026

🚨 Justice is the ultimate oxymoron.
Look at the Epstein files: thousands of pages, elite names dripping from every document; presidents, princes, billionaires, lawyers, scientists; all tied to an island of horrors, underage trafficking, and “massages” that weren’t massages. Ghislaine Maxwell sits in prison. Jeffrey Epstein “suicided” in a federal jail with cameras off and guards asleep. The rest? Still flying private, still on boards, still lecturing us about morality. The system didn’t just fail the victims; it protected the predators.
Now zoom out to family court. Same building, same flag, same lie. Safe parents lose their children in secret proceedings with no jury, no transcript, no accountability. False accusations fly, due process evaporates, and “the best interest of the child” magically aligns with whoever has the deeper pockets or better-connected attorney. Kids become collateral damage in a profit-driven machine that incentivizes conflict, not resolution. Millions of families shredded every year while the same judges who can’t convict an Epstein buddy rubber-stamp custody orders that destroy lives.
Two sides of the same coin:
• One court lets the powerful r**e children and walk free.
• The other court lets the powerful take children from their parents and call it “justice.”
This isn’t broken. It’s working exactly as designed; for the connected, the wealthy, the insiders. For everyone else? “Just us” ; two words that expose the fraud.
The Epstein files didn’t shock the system into reform. Family court horror stories don’t either. Because real justice would require the powerful to be held to the same rules they impose on us.
Until that happens, stop calling it “justice.” Call it what it is: elite protection racket with a robe and a gavel.

03/14/2026

Thank you and for all of your work with women in Westchester County, NY.

Link to my book in bio on Instagram or at www.tellatherapist.net

Order my book here: Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People:

https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/vanessa-reiser/narcissistic-abuse/9780306833175/?lens=hachette-go or on Amazon.

In this book, I aim to fuse the concepts of cult abuse and narcissistic abuse.

03/13/2026

Grateful beyond words for the incredible day at the Westchester Women’s Summit! 🌟
Thank you to the amazing organizers, attendees, and every inspiring woman who filled the room with energy, wisdom, and connection. It was truly an honor to present today and share in such meaningful conversations about empowerment, wellness, and growth during Women’s History Month.
Loved every moment; from the powerful keynote to the breakout sessions and all the new connections made. Here’s to continuing the momentum and lifting each other up! 💪❤️

03/13/2026

Ever feel like you’re slowly being drained in a relationship?
That’s not accidental.
The narcissist is always quietly assessing:
→ What will you tolerate?
→ How much disrespect, criticism, or manipulation can they slide in before you push back?
They start small; subtle digs disguised as “jokes,” little boundary crossings, guilt trips that seem minor.
When you don’t firmly shut it down… they turn up the dial.
A little more → then more → until you’re emotionally depleted, walking on eggshells, doubting your own reality.
It’s not love. It’s calculated erosion.
They test limits to see how far they can deplete your energy, self-worth, and spirit while keeping you hooked.
You are not “too sensitive.”
You are not “overreacting.”
You are responding to a pattern designed to exhaust you.
The moment you stop tolerating the “small” stuff is the moment their control weakens, but they continue the dance because they may even become aroused by your elevated push back.
Protect your peace. Enforce your boundaries without apology.
Your energy is sacred; don’t let anyone turn up the dial on your depletion.
If this resonates, you’re not alone. Healing from narcissistic dynamics is possible, and you’re worthy of relationships that fill you up, not drain you dry.

03/13/2026

✨ Tomorrow is THE day! ✨
I’m beyond excited and honored to be speaking at the 6th Annual Westchester Women’s Summit at the beautiful Sonesta White Plains Downtown!
Joining an incredible lineup (including keynote speaker Hoda Kotb 🔥) for a full day of inspiration, empowerment, wellness workshops, networking, and celebrating women’s strength during Women’s History Month.
Whether it’s diving into conversations on mental health, leadership, personal growth, or just connecting with amazing women from our community; I can’t wait to share, learn, and grow together!
See you tomorrow, Westchester! 💪❤️

03/12/2026

🚨 Narcissistic Triangulation 101 🚨
Joey Nuttafuco (lol)is triangulating Amy and Mary Jo like it’s his full-time job.
Classic narcissist move: keep two women in constant competition, feed off the drama, stir the jealousy, and stay right in the center as the “prize.” It’s never about love or loyalty; it’s about control, supply, and making sure no one ever gets too close without him pulling the strings.
Amy and Mary Jo deserve peace, not to be pitted against each other for one man’s ego.
If you’ve ever been the target (or the pawn) in a narcissist’s triangle, you already know how exhausting and crazy-making it feels. You’re not “too sensitive.” You’re not “dramatic.” You’re being manipulated.
Break the triangle. Go no-contact with the puppeteer. Heal.
Therapists see this pattern every single day; and it’s one of the biggest red flags there is.
Drop a ❤️ if you’ve witnessed or survived narcissistic triangulation.

03/11/2026

That “friendly” arm tap or gentle touch on your shoulder from a narcissist?
It might not be innocent affection.
They often use a subtle dark psychology trick called anchoring (borrowed from NLP techniques) to link a positive or comforting emotion to their touch... so later they can “fire” that anchor to influence you.
How it works in real life:
• They touch your arm lightly while you’re laughing, feeling heard, or in a vulnerable/good moment → creating an unconscious emotional association.
• Later, during a disagreement, guilt-trip, or when they want something, they repeat the exact same touch (arm tap, shoulder squeeze, hand on knee).
• Your brain recalls the earlier “good” feeling → you soften, doubt your boundaries, or comply more easily.
It’s disguised as caring or casual... but it’s calculated control.
The touch disarms you, creates confusion, and makes it harder to say no.
Red flags:
• Touch feels off or timed perfectly to moments of influence
• They withdraw affection as punishment
• You feel oddly obligated or foggy after they touch you during tense talks
Protect your energy:
Trust your gut when touch doesn’t match the context.
Set firm boundaries around physical contact.
You don’t owe anyone access to your personal space.
Have you ever noticed this pattern? Drop a 🛡️ if you’re becoming more aware of these subtle tactics. Knowledge is power. 💪

03/11/2026

03/11/2026

What will it take for America to wake up? I shudder to think.

03/10/2026

Another DV victim murdered.

03/10/2026

posted this and it’s so clever.

Narcissists don’t always hide what they’re doing. Sometimes they make sure you see it.

They will stalk you, harass you, or violate boundaries in ways that are obvious enough to get caught. It feels like justice is right around the corner. You think this will finally be the moment accountability happens.

But often the real goal is to pull you back into the arena.

Court. Motions. Hearings. Endless attorney emails. Thousands of dollars in legal fees. Your time, your energy, your nervous system, all drained while they sit back and watch you react.

For many narcissists, the legal system becomes another tool of control. If they can’t dominate you in the relationship, they will try to dominate you through litigation.

Not every provocation deserves a reaction. Not every trap deserves your time, money, and peace.

The hardest and most powerful move is often refusing to take the bait.

Protect your peace. Protect your resources. Protect your future.

03/10/2026

Ex-NFLer Darron Lee Used ChatGPT For Advice After Allegedly Killing GF, Prosecutors Say

This genius was using ChatGPT to try to help him cover up murder. Did he really think that they were not going to track it?