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Let’s go Knicks!🧡💙🏀
02/19/2026

Let’s go Knicks!🧡💙🏀

Watch this for another reminder about how the judicial system is S**T, internationally. Same old story.
02/19/2026

Watch this for another reminder about how the judicial system is S**T, internationally. Same old story.

02/18/2026

arcissists insist on eye contact.
Not connection.
Not intimacy.
Control.
They will lock eyes with you like a predator claiming territory; because prolonged, forced eye contact isn’t about presence… it’s about dominance. It’s an energy grab of the highest order.
In narcissistic abuse and cult abuse dynamics, this is part of the trance induction. The stare says:
Submit.
Mirror me.
Regulate me.
And when you’ve been conditioned; through gaslighting, love-bombing, intermittent reinforcement, and coercive control; your nervous system mistakes intimidation for intensity.
Here’s the part people don’t want to say out loud:
Communities often protect abusers by romanticizing their intensity.
“He’s just passionate.”
“She’s just powerful.”
“They’re just charismatic.”
No.
That’s trauma-bonded spectatorship. That’s collective cognitive dissonance. That’s people defending the very force that is siphoning their autonomy — until they’re disempowered and don’t even recognize their own reflection anymore.
Healthy eye contact feels mutual.
It breathes.
It allows you to look away without punishment.
Predatory eye contact feels like a psychic chokehold.
And I’m not here to whisper about it.
I’m here to say: if someone’s gaze feels like it’s extracting something from you; it probably is. Your body knows before your mind catches up.
We heal when we stop confusing domination with magnetism.
We heal when we stop protecting abusers to preserve our own denial.
We heal when we reclaim our right to look away.
Strong boundaries are not rude.
Breaking the trance is not disrespect.
Calling out coercive control is not “dramatic.”
It’s liberation.
And the world will heal when enough of us refuse to feed the stare.

Another day, another abuser.
02/18/2026

Another day, another abuser.

02/14/2026

Family court is supposed to protect children and families. But too often, survivors of narcissistic and coercive abuse walk into a system that doesn’t fully understand psychological abuse, coercive control, or the long-term impact of manipulation.
When charm is mistaken for credibility…
When intimidation is mistaken for confidence…
When the most persuasive person in the room isn’t the safest person in the room…
Real harm can continue behind closed doors.
This is why education matters.
This is why speaking out matters.
And this is why conversations that were once whispered are now being said out loud.
Which brings me to something I’m very excited to announce.📢

After many years, I am launching a new podcast:
“Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser.”
On this podcast, my co-host Dave and I will be talking about all things narcissistic abuse; including family court dynamics, politics, cult abuse, and even the ways these patterns show up in pop culture.
We’re going to have honest conversations.
We’re going to connect the dots.
And most importantly, we’re going to give survivors language, insight, and power.
Because healing is a radical rebellion.
And awareness is how systems begin to change.
Stay tuned; more details coming soon.


Link to my book in bio on Instagram or at www.tellatherapist.net

Order my book here: Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People:

https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/vanessa-reiser/narcissistic-abuse/9780306833175/?lens=hachette-go

In this book, I aim to fuse the concepts of cult abuse and narcissistic abuse.

02/13/2026

Coparenting with a narcissist is not coparenting in the traditional sense. It’s parallel parenting with boundaries made of steel.

If you share information, they hear opportunity.

If you share feelings, they hear leverage.

If you share plans, they look for ways to sabotage, control, or twist the narrative.

You cannot give intel to someone who weaponizes vulnerability.

That means:
• No extra details
• No emotional disclosures
• No future plans beyond what is court-ordered
• No explaining yourself
• No JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain)

Think: brief, boring, businesslike.

When you are coparenting with a narcissist, information is currency; and they will spend it against you.

Your job isn’t to get them to understand.
Your job is to protect your peace and your child.

Boundaries are not hostility.
They are strategy.

And strategy is survival.

No offense to doormats.
02/12/2026

No offense to doormats.

02/11/2026

Power doesn’t corrupt everyone. But unchecked ego, loyalty built on fear, and a need for domination? That’s where history starts to rhyme.
When people compare John Gotti and Donald Trump, they’re not talking about identical circumstances; they’re talking about psychological patterns.
John Gotti built a brand around bravado, spectacle, and invincibility. He thrived on attention. He demanded loyalty. He cultivated an inner circle that reinforced his narrative and insulated him from accountability. The myth became bigger than the man.
Critics argue that similar dynamics can appear in modern political leadership:
• Grandiosity that escalates over time
• Public performance as power
• Loyalty framed as strength
• Dissent framed as betrayal
• Supporters defending the leader as part of their own identity
This is not about politics as much as it is about psychology.
In narcissistic systems, the leader becomes the symbol. The symbol becomes sacred. And the group begins protecting the illusion because admitting manipulation feels too destabilizing.
That’s how cult dynamics operate; in crime families, in corporations, in religious movements, and sometimes in political spaces.

Link to my book in bio on Instagram or at www.tellatherapist.net

Order my book here: Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People:

https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/vanessa-reiser/narcissistic-abuse/9780306833175/?lens=hachette-go

In this book, I aim to fuse the concepts of cult abuse and narcissistic abuse.



So excited for this event!
02/05/2026

So excited for this event!

If I wanted their opinions, I’d ask their husbands or their daddies.
02/05/2026

If I wanted their opinions, I’d ask their husbands or their daddies.

This is not for a divorce. This involves a sexual assault matter.
02/05/2026

This is not for a divorce. This involves a sexual assault matter.

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