11/30/2025
I think the intent of this phrase is good, but the impact, not so much. We want people to go into their birth feeling empowered, which I think is the intent of this statement, but we also have to consider the impact for those who feel their birth did not go smoothly (at least 1 in 3).
Those who end up on the other side of their birth (whether it was traumatic or not) feeling like it didn’t go the way it was “supposed to” remember this statement and often think, “well I guess I did something wrong, because my body didn’t do what it was designed to.”
The number of individuals that feel this way is significant. Because when you’re told your body is meant to do something and then it doesn’t, the natural first thought is, I must be the issue, I must have done something wrong.
I think we also assume this statement helps manage fear, but reassurance like this can feel more akin to a brush off. We want to provide evidence-based education about labor and delivery. We want to explain that our bodies do have some pretty cool mechanisms to support labor and delivery, but they don’t always go off without a hitch and that’s okay.
Our bodies were “designed” for a lot of things, but that doesn’t mean they all go smoothly. Maybe my body was initially designed to give birth, but with this specific birth, it quite literally attacked itself. It was not designed for birth in this particular scenario. The same goes for the many unpreventable complications: preeclampsia, eclampsia, HELLP, AFE, accreta spectrum, AFLP, etc. For these complications in these specific births, bodies struggle with labor and delivery and that’s okay. Sometimes our bodies are not always able to do what we imagine they’re designed for.
So, let’s change the narrative when we are supporting pregnant individuals. Let’s talk about how incredible our bodies are, that they can literally create life, but let’s pull back on the broad sweeping statements. Let’s provide balanced, evidence-based education. Let’s provide risks and benefits. Let’s offer information rather than empty reassurance.