11/11/2025
He didn’t say “I’m sad.”
He said, “I’m snapping at everyone,” “I’m failing,” and “I don’t feel anything.”
Three different sentences.
Rage.
Shame.
Numb.
All signs of male depression.
In session, I met a dad who swore anger was his only problem. We mapped his week and saw the pattern: short fuse → guilt spiral → late-night scrolling → waking up flat. When we named the face...Rage. Shame. Numb. The plan got clear. He practiced a 90-second pause before reacting, scheduled one “10-minute win” each day to cut the shame loop, and added morning light + a brief walk to jump-start pleasure. Not instant magic...measurable progress.
Why it matters (November = Men’s Health Month):
Men often present depression as irritability, overwork, or shutdown, not tears. Recognizing the face you’re in helps you choose the right intervention instead of white-knuckling it. This is mental health literacy, not weakness.
Some things to try today:
• Rage → pause + breath, move your body, repair with a plan
• Shame → capture/schedule worries, one small action now, kinder self-talk
• Numb → morning light + steps, 2 micro-pleasures, 2 connections this week
If you’re ready for professional help:
At Lott Behavioral Health, we provide evidence-based psychiatric care and collaborative therapy plans for men’s mental health, depression, anxiety, and performance stress.
Safety note: If you’re in crisis or having thoughts of self-harm, call 988 (US) or your local emergency number.
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