01/21/2026
Lately I’ve been reflecting on how often we assign meaning to songs.
How a song repeats and we assume it’s a sign about another person. Their feelings. Their thoughts. Their intentions.
What I’ve come to understand through my own healing is that music often isn’t pointing outward at all. It’s pointing inward.
Songs bypass logic and speak directly to the nervous system. When attachment wounds or core wounds are present, especially around abandonment, betrayal, codependency, rejection, or shame, the mind can project meaning outside of self to find regulation.
I’ve done this. And I’ve also seen it clearly in others before I had language for it.
As I healed, something shifted. The same songs that once felt like messages about someone else started landing differently. They became mirrors. Reflections of where my nervous system was at the time, what I was longing for, and what I was learning to source within myself.
That’s the difference between intuition and projection.
Intuition feels calm, steady, and grounded. Projection feels charged, hopeful, urgent, or attached to outcome.
I put together a video where I talk about this more deeply and share examples of how attachment styles and core wounds can show up through music, not as diagnoses, but as mirrors for self awareness.
If this resonates, you can watch the full video here
👉 https://youtu.be/a5LDOtnIPQQ?si=AizIzjRYbiBYkGrj
Take what resonates and leave the rest. This isn’t about judging ourselves. It’s about understanding ourselves.
Not every song that keeps showing up is a message about someone else.Sometimes it’s reflecting where your nervous system is seeking regulation.This is a gent...