03/23/2026
Blown away by all I’m learning in relationships these last few years. As most you know my faith journey is a big part of my life, one I take very seriously and have incorporated into much of my work with clients. As I’ve grown in my relationship with God, I’ve come to understand that worldly relationships rarely reflect the one I have with God. This is for so many reasons, the first being that I had to get to know who God really is vs. the God I was taught about as a child in my religion and/or family. I also had to allow God fully into me in order to receive His true safety love and connection. This means I had to let down walls I put up, and take off masks I learned to put on. Even though God knows me inside and out, I had to agree to let Him fully into the shadows of my heart, mind and soul. It has taken years and years to learn that I’m not expected to be perfect. I will make mistakes. I will even do things that hurt God and others, which will cause a rupture in the attachment, but the healing is in the repair. It took me learning how to turn back to God in my distress and allow Him fully into my pain and suffering to repair the ruptures I was causing with my defenses. Within the past several years, I’m talking like 10-15 years, God has been slowly allowing me to understand worldly ruptures. We have little ones we experience every day. Then we have giant ones that we are for certain we will never come back from. God is showing me that repair is possible in ALL relationships with two people who are willing to look within themselves at their own experience that is happening within them, rather always and only looking at the other persons behaviors and actions. He’s invited me into something so special and is leading me toward being able to help others learn something we never learned in our childhoods, how to reconcile. Yup! Peeps most of us were not taught to search within our own souls and acknowledge our own inner experiences. Instead we’ve learned how to protect, defend and self soothe using temporary tools that leave us feeling empty, alone and disconnected once the fake relief wears off. We are going to be introducing some new classes and retreats for individuals, couples and parents in the Fall. I’m so excited for all God is doing in us and through us and even more excited to share what we are learning and practicing. Will be posting more this summer! Thank you as always for allowing us to share our hearts with you, the good, the bad and the messy is all welcome. Much love and happy spring to all 💜🙏💐
Relationship rupture repair is hard but necessary. You’re not failing—this post helps you hold the pain and choose repair with courage.