DSR Counseling

DSR Counseling I love working with couples and individual adults. Sessions are always interactive and engaging. I look forward to getting to know you.

I know how hard it can be to ask for help, and I applaud how brave people are to reach out. I have three degrees in counseling psychology, and almost two decades of experience. I also know that while it's important that you know I am qualified and experienced, what you care about most is that you feel heard, and find hope, help, and support to work through your struggles. The rapport we build in therapy is so important to me, and I want you to leave each session feeling stronger and valued. Please reach out to me through my website to get started with a complimentary consultation call so that I can answer any questions you have and you can make sure you feel like we are a good fit. You can message me through this page, but please don't leave anything too personal. My website, emailing, calling, or texting me is much more secure.

My local recreation center sent out an email advertising a holiday themed yoga class, set in the evening and designed to...
12/10/2025

My local recreation center sent out an email advertising a holiday themed yoga class, set in the evening and designed to provide relaxation and a break from the holiday hustle and bustle. My first thought was how wonderful this would be. My second thought was that if I had a night available from now until New Years, I would need it to cook, clean, wrap, or sleep. That got me thinking although I do enjoy this time of year, it highlights that I don't leave any time to prioritize what I need, only what I'm expected to do.

Every holiday season comes with an unspoken script: Be cheerful. Be grateful. Be emotionally available. Be the human embodiment of twinkle lights. And if you can’t? Well, cue the guilt, because apparently you missed the memo.

But here’s the thing—if you’re finding it hard to slip into the required emotional costume, it’s not a moral failure. It’s data. Holiday discomfort has a way of shining a spotlight on the stuff we’ve been politely ignoring all year: strained relationships, burnt-out boundaries, the grief we stuff down, or the simple fact that “festive” is not a switch you can flip like a circuit on your holiday decor.

So if joy feels forced or diluted right now, consider the possibility that nothing’s wrong with you—something’s simply asking for attention. Sometimes the holidays don’t reveal your shortcomings… they reveal the reality of what really needs your attention.

Burnout doesn’t just happen at work — it can show up in every part of life. Whether you’re a professional juggling deadl...
11/15/2025

Burnout doesn’t just happen at work — it can show up in every part of life. Whether you’re a professional juggling deadlines, a parent trying to do it all, or someone working hard to show up for the people you care about… it’s easy to feel like exhaustion is just the price of keeping up.

But here’s the truth: burnout isn’t something we have to live with. It’s a signal — a reminder that we’re human and that our energy needs refueling.

The antidote to burnout isn't doing more. The roots and the management of it are often not not what we think and not always the solutions that seem obvious. Rest, setting boundaries, and prioritizing what truly matters are all important. When we look at the core of burnout, we actually become more productive, more present, and more balanced — in every role we play.

Therapy can help you understand where burnout is coming from, build healthier boundaries, and rediscover balance — so you can feel like yourself again.

If you’ve ever scrolled social media and thought “Wait… what’s the difference between grounding and mindfulness? Is my n...
09/30/2025

If you’ve ever scrolled social media and thought “Wait… what’s the difference between grounding and mindfulness? Is my nervous system properly regulated? And am I doing somatic work wrong? Do I even know what somatic work is?” — you’re not alone.

The self-help corner of social media is full of buzzwords, and it can be a lot to digest. Mindfulness, grounding, nervous system regulation and somatic practices can be super helpful. But if we treat them like magic spells, we risk ending up frustrated, blaming ourselves when they don’t “work.”

The truth is, these tools aren’t one-size-fits-all. They land differently depending on why you’re using them, what you’re hoping for, and how they’re woven into the bigger picture of your life.

So instead of trying to master every trendy tool you see online, try asking: What do I actually want to get out of this?

That’s where therapy comes in—it’s the place to sort through what’s helpful, what’s hype, and how to make these practices meaningful for you.

Next time you’re with your therapist (or if you’re thinking of starting therapy), bring it up! Saying “I keep seeing all these terms online, and I’d like to figure out what they really mean for me” is a great way to advocate for yourself and explore ways to clarify the sometimes confusing world of these tools.

Which tool confuses you the most?

Which one are you most interested in?

Happy National Teddy Bear Day! Teddy bears remind us of comfort, and while a soft bear (or your favorite blanket) won’t ...
09/09/2025

Happy National Teddy Bear Day! Teddy bears remind us of comfort, and while a soft bear (or your favorite blanket) won’t solve life‘s heavy issues, the truth is – little comforts do matter.

I always smile when my favorite mug is clean and ready for that first cup of tea, when I get to sink into my best sweatpants at the end of the day, or get an unexpected text or call from the special people in my life.

For you, it might be slipping into fresh sheets, the smell of coffee brewing, seeing a funny meme that makes you laugh, or your dog‘s tail-wagging greeting.

These things don’t replace asking for help when you need it, or taking steps to address difficult seasons, but they can offer small sparks of joy that remind us life isn’t all heavy.

I once suggested to a client who loves hiking but doesn’t have much time for it that he collect a few stones and keep them in a jar on his desk. After a dramatic eye roll, he tried it – and later admitted it gave him a surprising little boost. He even named it his office glimmer.

Sometimes it’s not about fixing everything at once – it’s remembering to notice the glimmer along the way.

As summer winds down and fall begins, many people notice the shift isn’t always as cozy as pumpkin spice ads make it see...
08/18/2025

As summer winds down and fall begins, many people notice the shift isn’t always as cozy as pumpkin spice ads make it seem. Maybe you didn’t accomplish as much as you hoped this summer, or maybe the return to school has your household feeling like it’s running on fast-forward. Add in fewer hours of sunlight, unpredictable weather, and the looming pressure of the holiday season creeping closer—and it makes sense if you’re feeling off balance. Even adults without school-age kids can feel the effects of this seasonal change: busier traffic, shifting work routines, and the subtle reminder that another year is flying by.

If you’re noticing yourself feeling irritable, tired, or even a little sad as the seasons change, you’re not alone. Transitions are hard, even positive ones. It’s important to give yourself permission to feel what you feel instead of brushing it off with “I should be fine.” Validate your own experience—yes, the season is beautiful, but it can also be demanding. Some people also find that the change in daylight affects their energy and mood (hello, earlier sunsets), which is a very real adjustment for our minds and bodies.

A few gentle tips: keep a flexible routine that balances productivity with rest, spend time outside to soak up natural light while you can, and plan a few simple things you can look forward to this fall that are just for you (cozy movie nights, a new recipe, or a short weekend trip). And remember—your worth isn’t measured by how much you did or didn’t squeeze into summer. Transitions take time, and giving yourself grace can make this season feel less like a race and more like an opportunity to reset.

💡Why Some Clients Choose to Pay Out of Pocket for TherapyI often get asked why some clients opt not to use insurance whe...
07/22/2025

💡Why Some Clients Choose to Pay Out of Pocket for Therapy

I often get asked why some clients opt not to use insurance when coming to therapy. This post, written by my colleague, Alicia Rippy at Wild Strength Therapy, does a fantastic job breaking down the reasons in a clear and compassionate way.

With her permission, I'm sharing my shortened version of it here because it might answer questions you've had about how therapy works—and help you decide what’s best for you. If this resonates and you're thinking about starting or returning to therapy, I’d love to connect.

Message me or go to my website www.dsrcounseling.com to schedule a session or learn more about what working together could look like. Here's the post:

A Guide for Therapy Clients Navigating Insurance

Did you know that in order to use insurance for mental health services, you must receive a formal diagnosis from a licensed provider such as a therapist, counselor, psychologist, psychiatrist, or physician? This requirement exists because insurance companies need to establish that treatment is medically necessary in order to approve and reimburse claims.

However, it’s important to recognize that not everyone who seeks therapy meets the criteria for a clinical diagnosis. Many individuals benefit from therapy simply by having a supportive, nonjudgmental space to explore their thoughts, process experiences, and co-regulate emotionally—regardless of whether their situation constitutes a mental health disorder under diagnostic guidelines.

The Complexities of Insurance

Mental health diagnosis can be nuanced and complex. I often use the CPT (Current Procedural Terminology) code for “Adjustment Disorder” when working with clients navigating life transitions or stressors that don’t meet the threshold for a more severe diagnosis. This code allows us to meet insurance criteria while still honoring the client's lived experience.

That said, an Adjustment Disorder diagnosis is only valid for up to six months. After that, insurance companies typically require a reassessment and, in many cases, a more "serious" diagnosis to continue coverage. This puts clinicians in a difficult position—balancing ethical care and confidentiality with the rigid standards of insurance providers.

I made the decision to step away from direct insurance billing and adopt a private-pay model. This allows me to center my time, energy, and attention on providing high-quality, personalized care. For clients who still want to use their insurance, I now offer superbills.

What Is a Superbill?

A superbill is a detailed invoice that includes all the necessary information for a client to submit an out-of-network reimbursement claim to their insurance company. It typically includes:

Provider name and credentials

Client’s name and date of birth

Date and duration of sessions

Diagnosis code (ICD-10)

Procedure code (CPT)

Total session fee paid

Provider's NPI (National Provider Identifier) and tax ID

While submitting a superbill doesn't guarantee reimbursement, many clients receive partial refunds—especially if they have a PPO plan with out-of-network benefits.

Thanks to Alicia for the clear and empowering explanation. Regardless of how you ultimately pay for therapy, it's helpful to know what the options are so that you can step confidently into receiving the support you deserve, whether you pay fully out of pocket or are able to be partially reimbursed. And while I'm giving credit to those who support efforts to provide resources, credit for the cute graphic goes to Jen Stocksmith, whose talent I borrow on a frequent basis!

Bringing Up Couples Counseling: 10 Thoughtful Ways to Start the ConversationTalking about going to couples counseling do...
06/15/2025

Bringing Up Couples Counseling:
10 Thoughtful Ways to Start the Conversation

Talking about going to couples counseling doesn’t have to be heavy, dramatic, or feel like a last resort. In fact, it can be one of the healthiest things a couple does before things get too tangled.

Below are a handful of ways to bring it up that are light in tone but full of care and intention. These suggestions can help open the door without sounding like an alarm bell—just an invitation to grow, together.

“I love us, and I want to keep loving us well.”
Frame counseling as a proactive tool. Say something like, “We do a lot of things to take care of our health—this could be something to take care of our relationship, too.”

Make it about teamwork.
“I’ve been thinking we could try couples counseling—not because we’re failing, but because I want us to feel more like a team again. What do you think?”

Use a shared goal or value as a bridge.
“You know how we always say we want to communicate better? I heard counseling could help us with that—it might be worth checking out.”

Own your part and invite them in.
“I’ve noticed I sometimes shut down during tough conversations, and I’d like to work on it. Would you be open to going to counseling with me so we can figure it out together?”

Normalize it with a relatable comparison.
“Honestly, I think every couple could benefit from counseling—kind of like how people get oil changes even if the car isn’t broken.”

Point to a stuck spot.
“It feels like we keep circling the same issue and getting nowhere. Maybe having someone help us talk through it would make a difference?”

Frame it as an experiment.
“What if we just tried a few sessions of couples counseling and saw what we think? No big commitment—just a chance to see if it helps.”

Bring in curiosity, not criticism.
“I wonder what we might learn about ourselves—and each other—if we had a space to slow down and really listen.”

Use humor (lightly!).
“So… what do you think about seeing a relationship referee who doesn’t wear a whistle?”
A little levity can help break the tension and lead to a more grounded conversation.

Share a story or resource.
“I read this article about how couples counseling helped another couple reconnect, and it made me think… maybe we could give it a shot too.”

Whether it’s your first time suggesting it or the tenth, remember: the goal is connection, not perfection. You don’t have to have the perfect words—you just need openness and care.

Mental Health Awareness Month is like that moment when your car’s “check engine” light comes on—but instead of ignoring ...
05/01/2025

Mental Health Awareness Month is like that moment when your car’s “check engine” light comes on—but instead of ignoring it, you actually pull over, lift the hood, and take a curious look inside. It’s an annual invitation to stop pretending we’re all fine and admit that our minds, much like our bodies, need tune-ups, oil changes, and the occasional jumpstart.

Think of it as a collective permission slip to get real. To talk about the hard stuff, the messy middle, the therapy appointments, the “I’m not okay today” texts, and the deep breaths we take in parking lots before heading into work. It’s a reminder that emotional maintenance isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.

This month isn’t just about awareness. It’s about weird metaphors that make things click, gentle nudges to check on your people (and yourself), and treating mental health with the same everyday importance as brushing your teeth. Because when we show that we care for our own mental health, we make it more comfortable for everyone else to do the same.

💬 “We really need help, but we can’t fit in weekly therapy.” I occasionally get this message from prospective couples. T...
04/21/2025

💬 “We really need help, but we can’t fit in weekly therapy.” I occasionally get this message from prospective couples.
That’s where a 4-hour couples therapy intensive can make a huge difference.

This single, focused session is all about getting to the heart of your challenges—fast. No small talk, no starting over every week. Just space to repair, reconnect, and walk away with a plan.

I offer intensives on Fridays and Saturdays focused on one couple at a time —because real life doesn’t always work on a 9-to-5 schedule.

💡Best for:
✅ Couples in crisis or transition
✅ Repetitive fights that never seem to resolve
✅ Busy partners who want support without weekly scheduling stress

📆 Ready to feel hopeful again? Let's set up a time to talk about this option. It's not right for every couple, so I can help you look at the pros and cons and get you scheduled for what's right for you. www.dsrcounseling.com

Counseling in Lone Tree, CO offering in-person and telehealth appointments. Paperwork can be filled out online. Schedule an appointment today.

03/12/2025

Resilience: Strength in the Storm, Not Immunity from It

Resilience is a popular buzzword right now, but it is often misunderstood. Some think it means being unshakable, as if hardships simply bounce off without leaving a mark. Others assume it’s a fixed trait—you either have it, or you don’t. In reality, resilience is neither of these things.

Resilience is the ability to adapt and recover after setbacks, but it doesn’t mean you’re unaffected by them. Pain still stings, loss still hurts, and stress still weighs heavily. What resilience offers is the capacity to navigate those difficulties and find a way forward, even when the path is uncertain.

It also isn’t a permanent state of being. Just because someone has shown resilience in the past doesn’t mean they’ll always feel strong. Life’s challenges can deplete even the most resilient among us, and maintaining resilience requires effort—through self-care, support systems, and self-awareness.

The benefits of resilience are clear: it helps reduce the impact of stress, fosters emotional well-being, and strengthens problem-solving skills. It allows people to endure hardship without being entirely consumed by it. However, resilience has its limits. Pushing through adversity isn’t always the best option—sometimes, it’s necessary to step back, rest, or seek help rather than just “toughing it out.”

True resilience includes knowing when to keep going and when to pause. It’s not about never struggling; it’s about finding ways to keep moving forward—even if that means asking for support along the way.

As this new year is underway, many of us felt the pull to set goals, make resolutions, or chase "a better version" of ou...
01/13/2025

As this new year is underway, many of us felt the pull to set goals, make resolutions, or chase "a better version" of ourselves. But what if this year wasn’t about striving? What if it was about listening—to your heart, your needs, and your dreams?

The truth is, life doesn’t transform because the calendar flips to January 1st. But this fresh start can be an invitation:

✨ To reflect on what has shaped you.
✨ To release what no longer serves you.
✨ To realign with the person you want to be.

Maybe this year, the goal isn’t to do more, but to understand yourself more. Therapy is a space where you can unpack old patterns, rediscover your voice, and craft the life you want—intentionally and authentically.

And if your resolutions have already hit a snag, take a deep breath. This isn’t failure—it’s feedback. Life happens, and the path to change is rarely a straight line. Here’s how to regroup:

💡 Pause and Reflect: What led you off track? Was the goal realistic for your current season of life?
💡 Adjust with Compassion: Let go of perfection. Can you reframe the resolution into smaller, more manageable steps?
💡 Reconnect with Your Why: Why did this goal matter to you in the first place? Does it still align with your values?

Starting over isn’t a setback; it’s a reminder that growth is ongoing.

So as you step into this new year, ask yourself:
💡 What do I want to leave behind?
💡 What do I want to welcome in?
💡 Who do I want to become?

If you’re ready to start answering those questions with support and compassion, therapy might be the next step.

This year is your story to write. Let’s make it one where you show up for you. 💙

As the year wraps up, many will share their 2024 accomplishments, which is wonderful to celebrate. But if your biggest w...
12/30/2024

As the year wraps up, many will share their 2024 accomplishments, which is wonderful to celebrate. But if your biggest win this year was simply surviving and pushing through, be proud of that too. It wasn’t easy, but you made it. That matters, and you deserve credit for the strength it took to keep going.

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