Modern Life Solutions, A Couple’s and Family Therapy Corporation

02/28/2025

Communicating assertively (and not passive, aggressive, or passive-aggressive!) is key and often overlooked as most appropriate in most situations. Illustrated here is within the context of a professional setting (which is very helpful to someone like myself who oversees 25 employees), but has much carryover into everyday life as well within the context of relationships with family, friends, and partners. Things i find most important are listening and asking first and foremost (there is always a reason we need to understand first, plus it lets them be heard and understood), the use of i-statements (to not fingerpoint or blame), and using constructive, collaborative language to resolve the issues at hand.

04/16/2024

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10/12/2023

are often misconstrued as they tend to form over time based in different factors such as , , , and other facors. Much like a , you can catch, treat, and mitigate them before they become in life. Here are some critical indicators to keep an eye out for:

: If you or someone you know experiences persistent difficulty or making , it could be a sign of an impending mental health challenge like or

: Increased reliance on , , or other substances as a means of coping is a concerning sign. It's crucial to address these behaviors early.

Drastic Weight Change: Significant fluctuations in weight, either through loss or gain, may indicate . Monitor these changes and reach out for support.

Intense : feelings of , anxiety, , or can be a signal. Don't underestimate the power of your emotions.

and Changes: Noticeable shifts in mood or behavior, like from social interactions or becoming unusually , should be taken seriously.

-Harm: Any form of self-harming behavior is a critical red flag. Seek immediate help if you or someone you know engages in self-harm.

Physical Symptoms: Unexplained physical ailments, such as , , or , could be linked to underlying mental health challenges.

10/05/2023

As a , I often find myself explaining to clients the concept of complex trauma, big T’s and small T’s, and that the mental health symptoms that they are afflicted by today are a result of their environment growing up, which was in fact a series of experiences.

Complex trauma isn't always the result of a single, life-altering event. It often stems from a web of experiences during our formative years, experiences that can come in many forms, including:

Parents Having High Expectations: Growing up with unreasonably high parental expectations can be emotionally . Constant to meet these standards can leave deep and a sense of never being "good enough."

Being Compared to Others and by Parents: Constant comparisons and from can erode -esteem and -worth. It can instill a harsh inner that persists into adulthood.

Assuming the Role of a Parent: In situations where a child must assume the role of a parent, such as for siblings or parents, a loss of and a heavy burden can result, leading to emotional complexities.

/Separation of a Parent: The of a family unit through divorce or can be profoundly disruptive to a child's sense of and . It can trigger feelings of and loss that echo into adulthood.

Complex trauma, while often subtle, can have a profound impact on our emotional well-being. The first step toward healing is recognizing and acknowledging the experiences that have shaped

10/04/2023

People can be what we typically consider a ‘smart’ person- they may have the ability to solve a complex equation which can power engines and save energy worldwide, but are stuck working at Subway because they can’t not tell their boss to Eff off. EI is more important than we realize, and is not taught as such. Here are three core aspects of EI that can bring positive changes to your life:

Understanding Your : EI begins with . By understanding your own emotions, you gain into your , , and . This self-awareness allows you to make more choices and build .

Making Better : EI equips you with the ability to make decisions with greater . When you can identify and manage your emotions, you're less likely to be driven by reactions. Instead, you can make choices that align with your long-term and values.

Knowing Your 'Why': EI helps you uncover your deeper and sense of . It's about understanding why you feel a certain way and why you're driven to pursue specific goals. This can guide you toward a more and life.

Remember, EI is a skill that can be cultivated and honed over time. It's never too late to start your journey toward greater emotional .

How does EI make a difference in your life? Share your thoughts and experiences below.

10/03/2023

Thrive in every season! Getting older is a privilege, and here are some key principles to help you embrace the art of and actively:

🏋️‍♀️ Adopt a : Nourish your body with foods, stay , and make a regular part of your routine. Your body is your lifelong companion—treat it with love and care.

🚫 Distance Yourself from Negativity: Surround yourself with . Let go of and thoughts that weigh you down. Embrace a mindset of and .

🎯 Set Goals and Work Toward Them: Keep your passion alive by setting , whether they're related to , , or personal . Pursuing gives life and .

🌟 Maintain a Sense of Purpose: Find in every day. It could be through , , or simply sharing your with others. Having a sense of purpose adds vibrancy to life.

😊 Do Things You Enjoy: Life is too short not to savor the things you love. Whether it's reading, painting, gardening, or traveling, make time for activities that bring you joy.

🩺 Prioritize Health Screenings and Preventative Behaviors: Regular health checkups are essential. Detecting and addressing health issues early is a proactive way to ensure a healthier future.

🤝 Stay Connected with Others: Social connections are like nourishment for the soul. Cultivate and cherish your relationships—spend time with loved ones, make new friends, and strengthen your bonds.

🚴‍♀️ Engage Daily in Physical Activities: Keep your body active, even if it's just a daily walk in the park. Physical activity not only keeps you fit but also boosts your mood and overall well-being.

Remember, aging is a privilege, and every day is an opportunity to savor life's blessings. By embracing these principles, you can create a fulfilling, joyful, and purposeful journey through the years.

Share your insights below and inspire others on their own journey of vibrant aging.

03/06/2023

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Our topic today is
What is Behavioral Activation? Is right for me? And How do I do BA?

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03/06/2023

https://www.modernlifesolutionstherapy.com/post/skillset-sundays-scaling-emotions
New blog entry for .

Scaling emotions is a technique that is often used in therapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to help individuals better understand and manage their emotions. This is a super effective technique that I have successfully utilized with my clients for the...

02/19/2023

New blog post ‘How does my generation affect my mental health’ out now. Link in bio.