Spirit Horse, Therapy and Training

11/26/2025

Sitting with the horses - you learn a feeling in your nervous system that we, as people, aren’t as used to feeling. A feeling of a being that’s eats when they are hungry, drinks when they are thirsty, sleeps when they are tired, takes care of themselves and watches over one another. They argue when the feeling is off, and rest when the feeling is soft. This natural way of being is often quiet and clear, but easy to forget in our human existence. In the quiet space with them, you can hear yourself differently. This isn’t about doing “it” right, but about doing right by yourself.
Thank you horses for your reminders. 🙏🏻🍁

11/17/2025

“Nothing forced is ever beautiful” -Xenophon
True beauty comes from uncoerced expression so may we stop trying to express ourselves in a way we think others will like and express ourselves the way we are. You will be that much more beautiful 🍁

11/07/2025

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The Student says: “My horse is tense.”
The Master says: “His body remembers storms I have not yet learned to calm.”

The Student says: “He’s behind the leg.”
The Master says: “The forward lives in him, I’m just remembering where the key fits.”

The Student says: “Half halt.”
The Master says: “A whisper that asks time to wait for us.”

The Student says: “He isn’t understanding.”
The Master says: “I’ve asked a question in a language I haven’t learned to pronounce.”

The Student says: “I need more softness.”
The Master says: “I’m trying to melt the armor I didn’t know I was wearing.”

The Student says : “He’s resisting.”
The Master says: “He’s handing me a map of where he hurts.”

The Student says: “We’re working through some issues.”
The Master says: “We’re untangling the knots we tied on days I wasn't listening.”

The Student says: “I need to be more patient.”
The Master says: “Time only opens its hands when I unclench mine.”

09/18/2025

Sitting with my last client of the day out in the field, talking about ways we remember to find our kindness, especially when it’s hard, I heard a little sound behind me. It was Mustang Tobi, in the evening golden hour, with a rainstorm rolling along side the mountains behind him. Those moments that take your breath away with beauty, those are the moments we truly are alive.

08/27/2025

What horses have taught me: 🪶 Sometimes talking about our wounds does very little.
Knowing a lot about things doesn’t mean you will always feel better.
These examples are our head trying to figure out problems that our head can’t always figure out.
There is a difference between knowledge and wisdom.
Knowledge is knowing, often talking.
Wisdom is experience, often found in the fluidity of living our lives.
We can be blessed with both but wisdom is what changes us. It’s not enough to think about being soft. You need to be soft in the moments that really count. It’s not enough to think about being heartfelt. You need to be heartfelt in the moments that really count. It’s not enough to think about being vulnerable. You need to be vulnerable in the moments that really count.
☀️These moments will shape you. 💛

06/29/2025

And the other “office” where the atmosphere is always changing

06/27/2025

What a sacred nook for the heart to explore ❤️‍🩹

06/23/2025

05/16/2025

I am currently reading a book on attachment and how early attachment wounds can shape our experience moving forwards - the way people long to be seen, or when they feel a void, or try to have no needs, or become what they think everyone wants them to be. There are so many ways emotional injury or emotional trauma can manifest in a person but there is a cure.
The cure is, find people to become securely attached to.

Easy, right?

Just find someone and attach to them. Sadly, I think we all know I’m being sarcastic. There can be such a complicated dance between two people trying to attach, especially if they both struggle in connection themselves.

For those that work with horses with me know that the premises of the work is to form an attachment to these beautiful, honest, and non-verbal creatures. They help give the feedback around if we are actually attaching and developing relationship or not.

In a healthy attachment:

- A person wants to see their other’s point of view and relate to it, even if its challenging. Also, the other wants to see the person’s point of view and relate to it, even if it is challenging.

- When we are in need, we want to be comforted by our other. Our other finds comfort in us as well when they are in need.

- We truly care about how the other is doing and we trust that the other truly cares about us too.

- If we were in a catastrophic place, either mentally or physically, we would want this other to be there for us. And the other would want us there too.

We crave consistent time with our other and our other craves consistent time with us.

In short, healing happens by sharing your view, allowing yourself to be comforted, caring for others, being there in hard times, and being consistent in your others’ lives.

Its also about listening to points of view, comforting others, allowing ourselves to be cared for, reaching out in hard times, and sharing our life and time with our others.

It will be messy at time, trying to figure out the wounds and triggers from truth, dealing with illogical reactions that make no sense, but those that stick to the principles, they start to feel like they can be themselves, whole, find a balance once balance is lost.

And because it is me, I truly think we can start with building a healthy attachment to a horse, which in someways is much simpler, before we find our skills and heart to attempt it with the people.

03/24/2025

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03/24/2025

Spring! 🪻 I can formally tell you are here now 🤣