03/19/2026
One of the best !!
“We forgot how to know when we learned how to please.” - , Untamed
This quote has been echoing in my head since I started this audiobook a few days ago. It’s the truth for many of my clients, plenty of people in my life, and certainly myself.
When we learned to people please in order to keep the peace, to be liked, or whatever the reason, we also began to abandon ourselves.
This is why I think getting clear about our values is such a crucial part of therapy. In order to make decisions or make change, we have to know why we’re doing so. Our values are the compass that guide us, and if you’ve spent a lifetime lead by others’ compass, it may take some deep work to learn to align with yours again.
Here are some questions to get you thinking about what truly matters to you:
If you didn’t have to worry about how people would react, what choices would you make?
At the end of your life, what would you like for people to say about the kind of person that you were, what you stood for, and what mattered to you.
If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you be doing differently?
What’s a moment in your life when you felt most proud of yourself—not because of what others thought, but because of how you showed up?
Picture your 90-year-old self looking back. What’s one thing you’d regret not standing up for or pursuing?
If you could send one message to everyone in the world, knowing they’d actually listen, what would you say—and why does that matter to you?
