Eliza Steel Psychotherapy

02/13/2026

Being quiet kept you safe once.
But what is it costing you now?

How many of your couples are fighting about content when the real issue is that someone has gone quiet?

In The Cost of Quiet, Colette Jane Fehr names the survival strategy so many clients learned early on: be small, be easy, don’t need too much. And she offers a trauma-informed, parts-aware path back to voice, boundaries, and secure love.

How To Have The Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love

02/06/2026

“If you're a clinician and you’ve ever thought, ‘Wow, my client is really pushing my buttons today,’ I hate to break it to you: those are your buttons. They came pre-installed.”

- Come check out our latest Substack article about countertransference!

Turning Your 'Oh, Crap' Moments Into Growth

01/23/2026

If your therapist says therapy isn’t political, they’re already making a political choice. Therapy Is Political is live now on Center You’s Substack, The Empowered Therapist. Come get uncomfortable! In a useful way!

https://open.substack.com/pub/centeryou/p/therapy-is-political?r=5bzgp1&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

01/22/2026

Check out our latest Substack article over at The Empowered Therapist! Join the conversation!

https://open.substack.com/pub/centeryou/p/when-youre-pretty-sure-you-suck-at?r=5bzgp1&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

12/11/2025

Sometimes it’s hard to know whether it is nature or nurture that has us obligated to our families of origin, even when we don’t feel good around them. It’s important to privilege those who help us feel like the best version of ourselves is possible, over those who don’t. There are so many ways to be in relationship with families of origin, it can be hard to remember that.

12/10/2025

Sometimes we need human connection nourishment, hugs from those closest to us, and sometimes we need a meal…right now I need both.

12/03/2025

There are very few moments in life for which we are actually ‘ready’. Don’t wait for ‘ready’, don’t wait for ‘motivation’, these are experiences that come after something is started. Just DO the thing and trust that you will be able to tolerate and learn whatever is needed to keep moving forward.

12/02/2025

When does this get easier, when does it feel routine, when do I stop self-editing so much?

11/19/2025

It’s time to find our brave parts people - the world and our children need this from us….and so do all our little parts.

11/18/2025

And seriously this is something that is coming up a lot in therapyland right now, lots of people unable to put down their phones with even more struggle than before. We each have to find something to engage with that gives our brains the food it is craving in a healthy real life way. It makes reaching for the phone much less of an issue.

11/05/2025

Accepting this is a lot easier than trying to understand it. Because what if the truth is that we are in the midst of a cognitive evolution, a 10,000 year process and the scales just haven’t tipped yet in the favor of evolution? I do believe we are closer than not ….I hope we are ’cause my research is just a feeling I have.

11/04/2025

When words, such as ‘boundaries’ get overused and misused, a part of me really wants to stop using it. However, I feel differently with this word. We need to be correcting people’s understanding of it because it devalues what it really is and the amount of attention a crossed boundary might require. It is so important that we raise our children to have and respect boundaries. Boundaries aren’t ultimatums or threats, and shouldn’t invite activation as they have nothing to do with anyone but ourselves.