Yasmine Khoushab, LMFT #130055

11/18/2025

You don’t keep repeating the same mistake because you’re blind.
You repeat it because a part of you still thinks your way is still the way.

When you finally stop confusing urgency with getting peace,
the pattern loses its power. 💙✈️

11/16/2025

Dear Codependent Heart,
Your anxiety isn’t actually about them.
It’s your body replaying an old story on a brand-new stage.
When you pause, regulate, and choose differently,
you’re not just calming yourself —
you’re breaking a generational pattern in real time.
That is emotional leadership. 💙✈️
With compassion,
Your Codependency Copilot

11/14/2025

It’s never been abandonment you feared.
It’s the collapse that comes after.
Codependency is just the soul trying to keep the world from shaking again. ♥️

11/13/2025

The 20% Rule:
Do 20% less emotional labor and watch how fast the truth reveals itself.
If the relationship collapses, it wasn’t a relationship — it was a dependency system you were powering. Your nervous system will panic… and then it’ll finally breathe.
What falls apart wasn’t yours to hold.

11/11/2025

You’re not burned out because you care too much — you’re burned out because you can’t see where you end and everyone else begins. That’s not love. That’s boundary blindness.

11/10/2025

11/10/2025

When you grew up around unpredictability, criticism, or emotional distance, your body learned to scan for danger instead of relax into safety.

That hypervigilance — the “checking,” the overthinking, the people-pleasing — isn’t because you’re dramatic or clingy.
It’s because your nervous system remembers what your mind has tried to forget.

Healing codependency isn’t about silencing those signals.
It’s about learning to listen to them differently.

🦋 Start asking:
• What is my body protecting me from?
• Where did I stop trusting that I’d be safe without control?
• Can I honor the part of me that once needed to stay alert to survive?

Because the moment you stop calling your sensitivity “too much,”
you start discovering how much wisdom lives inside it.

11/07/2025

We confuse attachment with control all the time.

Attachment says, “I want to feel close.”
Control says, “I need to feel safe.”

And somewhere between the two… codependency is born. It’s not that you love too much — it’s that love became the only place your nervous system felt in charge.

Healing is about letting go of management. 🕊️

11/05/2025

Emotional suppression in codependent couples often looks like “we rarely fight” but it’s really fear of conflict and putting your partner’s comfort above your own. In therapy, these suppressed emotions can finally surface
— because for the first time, someone is holding the space safely, and it’s finally okay to express what’s been bottled up. 😳😱

11/04/2025

We don’t always want them gone — we just want the pain to stop.
“Leave me alone” is often code for I can’t handle loving you anymore, but I don’t know how to let go either.

11/03/2025

When you want to turn off your feelings — it’s not disconnection you seek, it’s relief.
Let your heart rest, not close. ✨

11/01/2025

No more overgiving, no more shrinking — just choosing herself. ✨ 💖