Totem Org

02/23/2026

02/04/2026

✨ New Totem Space: Support for Parents of Children with Diagnoses ✨
with Heather (she/her)

So many parents raising children with diagnoses are carrying more than they have space to name — and doing it alone.

This new Space was created from that need.
To be seen. To be heard. To hold grief and victories side by side.
Parenting is already heavy. Adding a diagnosis can make it feel impossible — and it shouldn’t have to be done in isolation.

Support for Parents of Children with Diagnoses is a free, virtual, small-group Space for parents and caregivers navigating life with children who have CP, Down syndrome, or other complex developmental or medical diagnoses. Wherever you live, and wherever you are in your journey, you are welcome here.

🗓 Meets bi-weekly on Thursdays at 7:30 PM EST
🤝 Held by: Heather (she/her)
💸 Free & virtual

🌱 First session: Introductions
📅 February 12
This first gathering will be simple and gentle — a chance to get to know one another, share who our children are, their ages, and when they were diagnosed. You can show up exhausted, hopeful, scared, or somewhere in between.

This is not therapy or a medical support group. There’s no fixing, advising, or pressure here. Just a shared space to pause, be honest, and feel held by others who understand this kind of weight.

We know energy and capacity change day to day. Join as you are, when you can. Cameras are optional. Confidentiality and care are central.

🔗 Learn more & register: https://www.totem.org/spaces/zgo631dls/?utm_source=link

(Registration is required to receive the join link.)

Come for yourself. Stay for the community. 💛

02/02/2026

✨ This week’s Totem Spaces are live ✨
Free, virtual, small-group sessions led by Keepers with lived experience. Join what’s calling to you.

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Loving on Empty: When I Have Nothing Left for the World I Want to Create
with Heather (she/her) · Thriving in Motherhood
📅 Mon, Feb 2 · 🕒 4:00 PM EST
For the days when you’re depleted and still expected to give.

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Vibes Check: One Month Into 2026
with Claire · Transition: Panic. Pause. Pivot. Repeat.
📅 Wed, Feb 4 · 🕒 6:30 PM CST
A grounding check-in for how the year is actually landing.

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February Check-In
with Vanessa Rae · 😬 Self-Sabotage
📅 Wed, Feb 4 · 🕒 6:00 PM PST
Honest reflection, accountability, and naming what’s looping.

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Burning Bright, Not Burning Out
with Heather (she/her) · Helping the Helpers
📅 Thu, Feb 5 · 🕒 12:00 PM EST
For caregivers navigating purpose, fatigue, and sustainability.

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OCD: Living With the Thoughts That Won’t Let Go
with Jesse · Anxiety & the Inner World
📅 Thu, Feb 5 · 🕒 4:30 PM CST / 11:30 PM CET
Making room for intrusive thoughts without shame or urgency.

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Naming the Critic: Externalizing Shame & Fear
with Gabe Kenny · Taking Up Space
📅 Thu, Feb 5 · 🕒 6:00 PM PST
Separating who you are from the voices that try to shrink you.

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Dramatic Irony
with Vanessa Rae · 🖋️ The Writer’s Room
📅 Fri, Feb 6 · 🕒 1:00 PM PST
Exploring what the audience knows—and how tension is built on it.

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🔗 Browse sessions, share & register: https://www.totem.org/spaces/?

(Registration is required to receive the join link — Facebook Event RSVPs don’t send access.)

Come for yourself. Stay for the community. 💛

Join Totem’s online peer support groups. Guided, supportive spaces to share your story, find connection, and grow together.

01/26/2026

✨ Weekly Totem Spaces are up ✨
Free, virtual, small-group sessions led by Keepers with lived experience. Join one — or a few — that’s calling to you.

🔗 Browse sessions & register: https://www.totem.org/spaces/?
(Registration is required to receive the join link.)

Here’s what’s coming up:

1. When Healing Feels Like Homework
with Jesse · Anxiety & the Inner World
📅 Tue 1/27 · 🕒 11:00 PM CET / 5:00 PM CST
When growth starts feeling like pressure instead of care.

2. The Part That Believes Something Is Wrong With Me
with Vanessa Rae · 🌘 Meeting Our Shadow
📅 Tue 1/27 · 🕒 3:30 PM PST
Meeting shame with curiosity, not judgment.

3. Desire: Wanting Without Apology
with Heather (she/her) · Love and Other Emotions
📅 Tue 1/27 · 🕒 7:00 PM EST
Listening to what you want without explaining it away.

4. From Good-Day Rushes to Overcompensation Hangovers
with Claire · Still Sick, Still Here
📅 Tue 1/27 · 🕒 6:00 PM CST
Holding the rush, the crash, and everything in between with kindness.

5. Hypervigilance Crash Outs
with Claire · Transition: Panic. Pause. Pivot. Repeat.
📅 Wed 1/28 · 🕒 7:30 PM CST
For the exhaustion that comes after being “on” for too long.

6. Situationships & the Illusion of Potential
with Vanessa Rae · 💕 Love, Lust, and Everything in Between
📅 Thu 1/29 · 🕒 3:00 PM PST
When “maybe” keeps you stuck — and clarity feels just out of reach.

7. The Debate: The Art of Hesitation
with Vanessa Rae · 🖋️ The Writer’s Room
📅 Fri 1/30 · 🕒 1:00 PM PST
Exploring the moment of resistance before the leap in storytelling.

8. When You Belong… But Feel Lonely Anyway
with Jesse · Belonging
📅 Sat 2/1 · 🕒 7:00 PM CET / 12:00 PM CST
Naming loneliness that exists even inside connection.

🔗 Browse sessions & register: https://www.totem.org/spaces/?
(Registration is required to receive the join link.)

Come for yourself. Stay for the community. 💛

Join Totem’s online peer support groups. Guided, supportive spaces to share your story, find connection, and grow together.

01/25/2026

🪐 New here? Welcome to Totem.

Totem offers free, virtual, small-group Spaces led by trained Keepers with lived experience. These are low-pressure gatherings where you can show up as you are—camera on or off, talk or listen, no fixing required.

🌱 What Totem Spaces are:
• Free & virtual — join from anywhere
• Small groups (not webinars)
• Led by people with lived experience
• No diagnosing, advising, prescribing, or tracking progress
• Free from discrimination and hate speech

This is not therapy or a typical support group. It’s a place to be witnessed, not worked on. It's community with others who just get it.

🗓️ Spaces meet weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly, and each session has its own topic.

👉 Browse upcoming sessions & register: https://www.totem.org/spaces/?
👉 Learn how Totem Spaces work: https://www.totem.org/how-it-works/

At Totem we say: Come for yourself. Stay for the community. 🩵

01/21/2026

Being in the helping field has always carried weight—but many of us are feeling it differently right now.

As helpers, we understand secondary trauma and burnout. We attend onboarding trainings, complete CEUs, and name concerns in supervision. Those concerns often move up the chain… and then the conversation stops.

It doesn’t have to. If we encourage our clients and patients to use their tools, seek community, and ask for support, we deserve the same.

Helping the Helpers with Heather meets tomorrow, January 22, 2026 at 12:00 PM EST.
This is a gentle invitation to step away for your lunch break, join others who understand the work, and take time to care for yourself in community.

The Space is free and you can join from anywhere. Helpers deserve help too. Register soon: https://www.totem.org/spaces/kdy842oud/?utm_source=link

01/11/2026

Totem offers free, digital, and small group community Spaces where other attendees would love to connect with you! Feel free to check out what we offer and sign up if it feels like a safe and helpful community for you. www.totem.org/spaces/? 🩵

Join Totem’s online peer support groups. Guided, supportive spaces to share your story, find connection, and grow together.

11/26/2025

With Thanksgiving tomorrow and the country feeling more polarized than ever, this topic feels top of mind: should we talk politics at holiday gatherings? 🦃💬

In this reel, Gabe shares his perspective. For him, it is a no. Not because the issues do not matter, but because holiday tables deserve something better than debate. Connection, stories, shared history, actual joy.

What are your thoughts? Are you leaning in, or leaving it off the table this year?

09/26/2024

Join Totem’s Momma's Space to connect with fellow moms in a nurturing environment. Share your triumphs and obstacles while building a supportive community. 🌟

09/18/2024

🌿 Hi! My name is Heather, and I run the Momma's Space, Jail Space, Love Series, Emotional Fluency Series, and monthly pop-up Spaces.

🐾 This month, we are discussing the pets we are grieving. The picture you see is of me with my childhood dogs, Fauna and Cruiser. Between my parents fighting and being bullied at school, they were my refuge.

🐕‍🦺 They were puppies when I was born, and to say I was gutted by each of their losses would be a huge understatement. Even writing this now brings a lump to my throat the size of the universe.

Grief isn't linear, and that’s exactly what this Space is about. Whether you lost a pet last week or last decade, this Space is for you. 🕊️

✨ We will mourn our pets, but more importantly, we will celebrate them and the paw prints they left on our hearts. ❤️🐾

✨ Join us 09/19 @ 6:30 EST link in bio.

09/09/2024

Should we host another Pop-up Space this week??

06/10/2024

This week's Featured Circles:

Alternative Relationships with Gabe
Boundaries with Vanessa
Living Through Loving and Addict with Heather

If you have never tried a Circle now is a great time to try. Link in bio. ✨