03/07/2026
Happy International Women’s Day
A small gift for you at the end of this email.
I want to start by sharing a little story.
As I spoke with my mum on the phone today, she told me something her best friend’s mother-in-law once said before she died of breast cancer. My mum had asked her then, “Is there any advice you would give to us younger women? Anything you regret or would have done differently?”
And without hesitation, almost like a pistol, she replied:
“I would always put myself first.”
Now that my friends and I are that age, and some of us have children, we say the same things the “old” people would say when we were children:
“It’s unbelievable how fast time flies. My son is already seven years old, about to be eight.”
You can really tell time when you see the children getting older.
Yes, time flies. It is almost Spring Equinox again. The days are getting longer and warmer, but our society does not allow us to rest continuously, or ever really rest. It always wants more from us.
And while we each have our own rhythm and our own bodies to honor, men’s clocks are a little different than women’s. Men do well with a daily 9 to 5.
Women though, especially the ones who are still cycling, our clocks are different. We have a 28-day rhythm. What men experience within 24 hours, we experience within 28 days. Our energy levels vary throughout these 28 days.
Right after our menstrual cycle ends, that is when we have about seven extremely energetic days called the follicular phase. Then we peak with ovulation, and afterward our bodies prepare to create life.
This is a time when technically we are supposed to go within and trust the process. Caring for ourselves is enough to allow our creative projects to thrive.
We are powerful creators. Let us not forget this.
We are not meant to pursue, chase and run after things and force them.
Rituals created for women — cacao, mushrooms, and adaptogens for nourishment and balance.
Nothing is in our control. All we have, in the end, is our bodies and our minds to perceive everything.
Life is uncertain. And life is beautiful.
The more we learn and train ourselves — and our nervous systems — to accept things the way they are, especially the things we cannot change or fix… and let’s be honest, we feel the want to control and fix way too much all the time, don’t we? Or at least we try.
Stop.
Let things be the way they are. Stop trying to change what you cannot change. Invest in yourself and nurture the things in life that you want to cultivate.
Your job is to bring something different to this world: presence, support, love, nurture, care.
There are gifts within this as well.
Somewhere I read that the net worth of a full-time stay-at-home mom is $200,000 a year.
Who are you kidding? This is real value right there, and most of us don’t see it.
We give, give, give, and we still feel we underdeliver, we are not enough, we’re not good enough, we’re not beautiful enough. At least that is some weird programming that a lot of us run on.
Stop.
You are a source of love, health, and wealth.
Trust your body. Arrive in your body. Be present. Cultivate your body and your mind.
Regulate the temperature — your emotional temperature — because this will affect everyone who comes in contact with you on a daily basis: your partners, your friends, your children, your family.
Basically, be the light in the world that you want to see. Your level of self-care and self-love quietly sets the tone.
That does not mean you have to overgive or overperform. You are enough as you are.
Slow down. It is not your job to fix the world.
Take a breath. Find an exercise routine, or multiple ones, and wellness routines that allow you to really get deeply in touch with your body. Feel what’s going on. Breathe into it. Stretch into it.
Because this is all you ever have: your body and your mind.
So cultivate it.
As children, we need our parents more than anything. Growing up is hard. Moving out, getting your first job, taking on adult responsibilities — hard.
But we do it anyway.
We have to continue growing up in this life. We each have to become and be who we want to have caring for us.
Some of us are good at creating structure. Others are good at creating community. Others are good at being emotionally available. Others are good at handling a lot of things.
Together we thrive.
Everything begins with a thought. Whatever you do, you think it first.
To figure out what you want — what your heart wants, what your soul is craving — take a moment for yourself. Consistently.
Think it. Imagine it. Feel it.
And then you create it — with love and purpose and passion.
Sure, it would be great if you walked your talk daily. But life is a marathon, not a race.
So take a few steps today. Pat yourself on the back. Relax. Enjoy the moment and all the gifts that you have in life.
Practice gratitude. And gently continue with love.
Drop that guilt. Invest in yourself.
If this does not sit right with you, it probably means you are the exact person who needs to do this. You are likely that person who overgives all the time.
But remember: your time and energy need to go toward yourself first.
Your own oxygen mask has to go on first.
Who cares if you are a saint? Nobody respects you more because you are nice. Love and respect yourself, and others will too.
The happier you are, the better energy you will bring to everyone around you.
Win-win.
Eat all the chocolate you want — just make it healthy.
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Feeling overwhelmed? No worries. Just make time for yourself and give yourself some love and care. You will be able to create things you love even more.
You are not supposed to do things you don’t like.
Find the things you love. Prioritize yourself again. Care for yourself, and you will be surprised how much energy and bandwidth you will find for everything else.
You do what you can with love.
And the things you cannot — they will just be left over.
And that is okay too.
You do not have to be perfect. You are perfectly imperfect. Love yourself for who you are.
That does not mean you cannot have ambitions. It does not mean you cannot want to self-improve.
But you have to give yourself a break.
Your presence is the greatest gift to yourself and everyone you know.
Do you know the saying “happy wife, happy life”?
And it is true.
If you are happy, everybody around you is happy.
So stop asking what everybody else wants and choose what you want.
Everything will be just fine.
Disclaimer: this is not an excuse for narcissistic behavior or neglecting your children or animals.
Everything I am talking about is simply the principle of putting on your own oxygen mask first. Saying no. Drawing a line. Keeping ourselves from burning out and staying precious to ourselves.
Happy International Women’s Day 2026
With care,
Andrea
The following items I formulated specifically to support myself and my experience in this body — being a woman in this life, dedicated to healing, self-care, and filling my life, body, and mind with love.
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